What do i do if some of the sites have to do with questioning gender?

Question

like a scientific article about hormone deficiencies and men who are biologically female? i'm so confused. we've been together for over 2 years, and we've never had a problem in bed, he seems incredibly attracted to me, but if he secretly wants to be a woman, i dont know if i can handle that

Answer 1

you already got your answer. go and ask him, why you keep asking us.

Answer 2

First off, breathe. Take in a big breath and set aside everything you know about gender. When you look at your partner, what do you love about your partner?

We have a lot of garbage in our heads about gender and what it means. I'm the director of Gender Schmender, as well as the co-director of Intersexes Are Human (ISAH) I've posted links below.

I am not sure if you are talking about MTF (Male to Female) Trans or if you are talking about Intersexes (A category people made up to tag onto bodies that didn't fit our make believe model of a human species containing only two sexes. Intersex means "between sex" meaning "not this or that but a little of both" (A little invalidating for a human body, eh?)

What if I were to tell you that there are as many sexes as there are humans? That gender was a figment of social imagination in order to segregate humans into groups that must conform to social expectations of their respective groups or face vast social consequences?

All of this probably sounds very foreign, a bit sci-fi'ish, and maybe just a bit musc to chew on... The general populace is less likely to have access to this information because gender segregation still benefits key groups such as religious groups as well as corporations that benefit from employing subtle to outright blatent gender discrimination. Another reason is because we've been catoring to gendered notions and recycling them for quite some time now, that it feels, well, natural. Well, it isn't biologically natural. This is part of the reason for the growing trans movement, as people begin to feel that there is a contradiction between gendered expectations and their bodies and personalities. Because abandoning gender and the tendency to label everything either masculine or feminine might seem like such a radical idea, many people just hop poles from one side of the gender expectation to the other.

I'm a free lance sociologist, I've just been named one of Oregon's top Student Scholars, I've worked with several organizations, appeared on a local talk show, and I'm writing a book. These are a few of my credentials. If youre the least bit curious on investigating this further, please, feel free to follow my links. Do you love your partner? Why would you ever let gender get in the way of that? I suggest that both you and your partner check out the two links.

Best of wishes for both of you!

Amiko-Gabriel
"It is the people who fail to fit the pattern whose legitimacy is questioned rather than [the legitimacy] of the pattern itself." From, Women & Men in World Cultures, Laura F. Klein, 2004

"To be nobody but yourself in a world which is doing its best, night and day, to make you like everybody else means to fight the hardest battle which any human being can fight; and never stop fighting."
--E.E. cummings (1894-1962)

Answer 3

First think to yourself how you would seriously feel and react if he were to consider getting a "sex change." Ask him why those are on the computer, not in a argumentive way because that will make him defensive and likely to lie but in a casual manner that you were simply curious. If he were to be interested in aligning his body with his true self and that would not be okay with you for whatever reason he has a right to know that, as do you about what he is planning on doing.

For his reason(s), listen to them and see if they make sense. Explain your fears and have a real discussion about it, relationships are too important to let big stuff like this sit under the rug.

Answer 4

MAybe he is researching the subject for a friend instead of himself?

Answer 5

Talk to your partner about it, not us. If this is something serious, and possibly long-term you two need to really talk about who you're dating.