I have a sticky situation here. My husband and I have 5 children. Four are his from a previous marriage, one we had together. His ex lives 3 states away, and rarely pays the minimal amount of child support required of her. I helped him set it up so that she had to pay through the state. There divorce papers say that her income is suppose to be withheld, however until recently she hasn't had a steady job. Because of our little one I work and my husband stays home with him. I am financial bread winner in our family so it makes sense. Recently I find myself very angry at the fact that my oldest children's mom gets all the benefits of being a mom but has none of the responisbilities. I have traveled across states for this woman for several years now and its just wearing on me. I have talked to my husband about it and he says he's going to request for child support to be enforced but he never follows through. I find myself being resentful and feeling taken advantage of.
2007-03-14 08:27:28 · 13 answers · asked by Euphoria 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Is there anything that I can do to proceed with the enforcement of child support? I've tried everything I can to make this right by her but I can't be taken advantage of anymore.
2007-03-14 08:31:02 · update #1
I love my family and my husband very much. But it seems that I am not only supporting our family but being forced to support her too.
2007-03-14 08:31:57 · update #2
I dont blame you. I certainly would feel like I was being taken advantage of also. Stand firm on this issue and make him follow through. This woman definately should help support her kids.
2007-03-14 08:31:30 · answer #1 · answered by I know, I know!!!! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to be so mad. I would make your husband go back to court because there are things the courts can do to make her pay. I understand that he stays home with the kids, but atleast a couple of them has to be school age, and it might just be worth paying a little for day care and have your husband work. There are programs out there that will help cover your cost for day care. I would really look into it. I dont find it fair that you do all the work, when I am sure, you would like to stay home a little bit to with your kids. Call the county that you are in and ask about "title 20" or "daycare vouchers". Good Luck. And make that woman pay!
2007-03-14 08:34:18 · answer #2 · answered by buzyb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can say I completely understand how you feel. I only have the 1 child but am in the same situation. Here in the State of Florida you can file for the state to reopen the case without going to a lawyer. If I were you I would see if your state has a similar program and feel out all the paper work and then just get him to sign it and mail it in. Not only are they going to reevaluate how much he pays the are also going to start forcing his place of employment to take money out of his checks. I have also heard that if the other party is suppose to get a take refund that the IRS will send you their refund until you are paid in full. I no it is stressful and hard to deal with, I wish you the best of luck.
2007-03-14 08:33:45 · answer #3 · answered by Mandy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is court orderd and she isnt paying then its on the state to withhold it! If she has no job time will catch up and she will get in trouble with the law! Also i used to be the mom who worked while the hub stayed home! Maybe you should make the first step and call and hand him the phone! I mean you are a care taker ask you child support recovery office there has to be something you can do as well!
2007-03-14 08:32:53 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you knew he had 4 kids when you got with him! Since he is a man and has custody the mom must be a real looser or this is a miracle. did you really think that 5 kids would be easy? There's no more he can do to make her pay than the courts can do. Your not being taken advantage of, just you may have bit off more than you can chew
2007-03-15 20:53:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your feelings are totally understandable. Make an appointment with a GOOD divorce attny. Take your husband with you, along with his divorce papers, and any other pertinent info regarding his x......so that this matter can be resolved.
Perhaps SHE has an income tax refund forthcoming, that can come YOUR way.......expecially if she's behind in her support payments.
2007-03-14 08:36:17 · answer #6 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's not really anything you can do on your own. Give him an ultimatum. Tell him to either get a job and help you support the family or go after child support or you're leaving.
2007-03-14 08:30:59 · answer #7 · answered by i_just_wondering 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to compromise with your husband,he could get a part time job,you should get organise,because if you have 5 children both of you should be include in resolving the problem,not only you,you should let them know how you feel.....,let your husband know how you feel,because it looks like,not only looks it a fact that you are the only worker in the family of seven and that is not ok,he should be more responsible.i hoped that i helped
2007-03-14 08:47:47 · answer #8 · answered by Isidora 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have it set up through the state to get child support
you should contact the case worker for your case and
see what can be done.
2007-03-14 08:31:13 · answer #9 · answered by chmar11 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it has more to do with what state has the child support then anything eles. You still should get her tax money if she doesn't hold a steady job.
2007-03-14 08:31:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋