My fiance and I are dealing with his ex-wife... who holds thoughts of grandeur that they once had something for a relationship. His version: she was abusive (mental, emotional, physical, et al) and psychotic with her behavior (literally... mental hospital patient, folks!). He finally got out of the house for good and she went bezerk... breaking into his car, ripping up his things, finally stealing his car and sending negative emails pretending to be him to all his business contacts.
My question is this: now that she knows about me... his fiance... she's now on a mission to copy my behavior.... my hairstyle, my MySpace account profile, etc... and she's obsessively clicking into my webpage to read my blogs and such. She speaks negatively about me to the two daughters, and even blames me when she destroys their personal items saying that it's my fault. I'm all about ignoring her and just living my life... but frankly... she scares the pants off me! What would anyone else do?!
2007-03-14 08:24:44 · 16 answers · asked by Dawn 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you block her on your myspace or make it private she can not view it that is a simple fix. I have to deal w my husbands ex psycho gf too Im sure more psycho then your soon to be husbands afterall I doubt yours has run him over or gone after him with a slegehammer. We hav a restraining order on her and moved 7 hrs away problem is they have a 6yr old together so he still has to see her and talk to her
2007-03-14 08:32:08 · answer #1 · answered by texas_angel_wattitude 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you can't get a restraining order simply because she has done nothing to you (get in a fight, hurt you physically in any way) Sure, she is doing some WEIRD stuff but all that is a reaction because you are going to marry her ex. Some women react different, we all dont do the same thing, am I right? so, all you have to do is make your myspace account private and she wont have access to that. She will talk crap about you with her daughter, she thinks it's her right and you can't change that and that's when you need the help of your soon to be husband. I bet he wants you to have a good relationship with his children so he has to make sure they respect you. How you know she is copying your hairstyle and stuff if you have never seen her? let her be, don't let this bother you. she can do whatever she likes and you can't be losing any sleep for this. sure, she is a psycho but your man is the one who has to take care of this business, not you.
Don't have fights over this with him, that's what she wants and if you are really scared, get a pepper spray just in case you see her somewhere and if this happens, then you can place your restraining order.
good luck!
2007-03-14 10:11:27 · answer #2 · answered by chikis 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow...what a psycho. I'd move far, far away.(I'm sure that's not reasonable since there are kids involved...but yikes) How does she know your myspace info and blog info? I'd change those accounts right now. Try to limit your contact with her, and get a good security system. If she ever crosses the line as far as the law goes, act on it! She sounds so creepy. They make movies about women like her. How is he letting the kids stay with her if she's a nutjob? He needs to get those girls out of there so she can get some help.
Good luck, and get a big dog!
2007-03-14 08:32:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Girl, You stand your ground. I have ran into Nuts before and they Love it when they can intimidate you. Do not let her know she scares you, it gives her more Power to use against you. Once she meets another man, she will leave yall alone hopefully and Bother the S*** out of him. I read the Other comments about getting a restraining order but until she personally attacks you, or confronts you with Verbal threats the Law will not do a thing. You Hang In There If You Love This Man..
2007-03-14 08:37:42 · answer #4 · answered by donna_honeycutt47 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your fiance has a psycho ex + 2 daughters. Psycho ex + 2 daughters = excessive baggage. Strike one.
Your fiance has a psycho ex. He chose this woman to marry, which means he is a very poor judge of character. Strike two.
Your fiance is doing nothing about his psycho ex to protect you. This demonstrates a lack of commitment and/or a lack of moral courage on his part. Strike three.
Three strikes, he's out. Dump the baggage-carrying, lack-of-judgment, non-protecting loser, and find a new boyfriend.
2007-03-14 08:37:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-02 00:17:10 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is nothing...NOTHING you can do about it. The other answers i saw on this are wrong. there is a question about this 3 or 4 or 5 years later on, all the time. this isn't gonna change. What he tells you about her, is his side of the story and it isn't the whole story. if you ever have a real talk with her, it may scare you. You have too choices, you can accept that she will be a part of your life, or walk away from him.
2007-03-14 08:41:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
as an ex psycho wife, i have to say it's not your job to help her. she needs to help herself. my family and friends were there for me when i was losing it. if it wasnt for their intervention and their love and God's mercy i would have really lost it. i would go into rages and just fall apart. it sounds like she has abandonment issues. but again you arent responsible for her. you need to protect you and your family. though me and my ex's wife dont like each other, i've never ever met her and i never asked him back once he filed for divorce. i wanted to just let him be happy. but that could only have been done because i got counseling and some medication. i feel for her. perhaps IF you want to get involved you could suggest to your fiance to ask her to get counseling. in the long run it will be good for everyone. GOD BLESS
2007-03-14 08:45:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Contact the authorities and file for a restraining order against her...I would be frightened too.
2007-03-14 08:52:42 · answer #9 · answered by Nothing but the truth...!! 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let your fiance deal with his ex.. he needs to work things out with her cause she will try everything to destroy you
2007-03-14 09:27:54 · answer #10 · answered by Tai 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋