Does anyone have any idea's on what to do with depression eatting?

Question

My mum's been going through this badly & I dont know how to help her. If i tell her to stop it only makes things a lot worse. & we fight & argue over it all the time. My mum is of the age of 54 & I am 18. I'm only trying to be a good daughter & help her so her health's sake. I dont want to loss my mum because she couldnt eat healthy. She's already very much over weight, & its making me sad to see her like this. I think its sort of rubbing off on me, because I've gained weight a bit too since she's started this ordeal. I dont know what to do for he either of us. Does anyone have any ideas? Please & thanks you.

Answer 1

Depression eating is - excuse the term - self-feeding, especially if she's depressed because of her weight.

People eat when they're depressed because it makes them feel better. I'm sure you've heard the term "comfort food" and to some people ANY food is a comfort, because its something they can control.

The first thing you MUST do is stop nagging your mom about her eating habits. At this point in her condition, you're only adding to it by rubbing her nose in the fact that she's an overeater AND she's overweight.

You should try to gently get her to see a doctor to assess her depression. If you can get her to the doctor chances are, they can get her on some meds that will help her depression. If this happens, she might start feeling better and might not turn to food for comfort and start finding other interests.

The bottom line is this: ANY obsessive personality is going to do whatever they're doing regardless of how it makes YOU feel, because frankly it has nothing to do with you. They are not going to get help or stop the behavior until they're ready to no matter how mad it makes you or what you threaten.

Answer 2

As a suggestion, why don't you start getting into eating lots of fruit.
Go to your local market and get as many different types as you can afford, and try them all. You might find some you really love, and that are good to pick at, like grapes. Not only will you be able to keep on eating till you start to feel better, you will lose weight, and start to feel more healthy too.

I wish you both well.

Answer 3

sit down. calmly talk to your mom about it. tell her that you need to throw out all the junk food and that she's not doing herself any good. if she disagrees or gets mad at you, when you get a chance throw it all out anyways. sometimes forcing someone to see something is the only way. go to the grocery store and bring back some healthy snacks like granola bars, cereal, fruits and veggies, and then try to get her to walk around the block with you or go to the mall and execise just by walking a bit. eventually she'll notice she's feeling better and you will too. once you guys get adjusted to that try doing some execises at home and eventually try going to the gym you'll feel better in no time =) and if you'd be willing to take counseling with someone tht would be good

Answer 4

Take her on short walks with you, go to the park, bring home positive happy movies that make her smile. Tell her funny jokes, anything to break the depression. Good luck.

Answer 5

Stop fighting with her. She knows she is overweight. And she knows how you feel. How about BOTH of you (since you both eat emotionally) try Overeater's Anonymous?

http://www.oa.org/index.htm

Answer 6

ask her to go to a doc. she needs to see a psychiatrist and be diagnosed to see what's the reason for her depression that leads to overeating. good luck.

Mom of B & D

Answer 7

wright a page like a journal
and let it at view
she will see it and think of it
i did it to my mum and it worked

Answer 8

Don't be shy and go see an expert. ASAP.