15 and 7 months pregnant, and curious.?

Question

im 15 years old and i am 7 months pregnant with my first baby girl =)..i am very excited about my baby girl..shes due on May 6, 2007..everyone i see when im out is very disrespectfull to me.i get comments all the time about me being easy or on welfare and not knowing who my daughters father is..i am NOT easy, im NOT on welfare, and i am COMPLETELY IN LOVE with my daughters father..hes 17 years old and has a full time job so hes going to be able to support us..

what i wanna know is why are people so rude and critical to teenage moms??

Answer 1

Because the odds are so stacked against you.

Sorry, but the other teen mommies have set a poor precedent for you. A lot of them ARE on welfare. A lot of them ARE promiscuous. Is that you? No. But you'll still be lumped in with the bad lot anyway.

It's easy to be happy now. But the reality is, it will be a tough road. Life changes FAST when you are young. And it changes faster when there's a baby involved.

While you may be in love with the baby's daddy now, time will only tell if those feelings will change. Even if at some point you don't love him or he doesn't love you, you both still have to be responsible for the baby. Your relationship WILL change. Baby or not, as we grow as people, the relationships we have will evolve, for better or for worse.

Am I critical of teen moms? No, but I certainly do pity them. You will be forced to make a lot of sacrifices to be a teen mom. Nothing will be YOURS anymore. All your responsibilities, obligations and so forth will be for your baby. The BABY has to come first. Instead of being out with your friends, you have to stay home and change diapers. When that baby screams and cries all night, you can't just hand the kid over to someone else --YOU have to deal with it. Your body is still developing, but you're going to be deprived of a lot of sleep, nutrients, and personal time.

BTW, to a certain extent, pregnancy can alter your growth. Say what you want about the "milf" phenomenon, but my observations of so many friends who have children have been fairly uniform: Your body will let go. Things will stretch. Things will sag. Taking care of a baby really cuts into things like beauty sleep and exercise time. Paying for a baby also means you will probably have to buy cheaper food, which isn't as nutritious, but it's plenty calorie-dense. That means, chances are, you will get fat.

Good luck to you. You will need it.

Answer 2

Because teenage moms should be playing with dolls instead of screwing their boyfriends. You don’t know what love is, and I can almost guarantee that daddy will up and leave either before the baby is born or soon after. See people are so critical because 15 years olds have no business having babies. Why you ask? Because you are a baby yourself. You know nothing about the world and nothing about raising a child. Not to mention that even if you can find a job, good luck finding one that pays enough to get you by. Another thing is 15 year olds can only work a certain number of hours a day/week. I think being rude and critical is what it is going to take to let these teenage "moms" know that it is wrong to have a baby when you are still a baby. Also, people hate the thought of having to take care of your child for 18+ years. Because I can almost guarantee you are on some type of public assistance, and will be dependant on it by the time the baby comes. Little girl, do you know where public assistance comes from? It comes from MY PIOCKETS (aka tax dollars)!!!!! I don’t have a child of my own at 21 years old because I cannot afford to take care of it. I sure as hell don’t want to have to take care of yours. You are in dream land, you have this idea of how life will be once a baby comes but just prepare to say goodbye to everything you used to like to do. Hanging out with friends, prom, etc. Say goodbye. This cycle of babies having babies is what leads to all the ill raised children in the world today who don’t know how to act because their parents were kids at the same time they were.

Answer 3

I too have been in your position. I got pregnant at the age of 14. I had a healthy baby boy at age 15. Many people are right. This age is too young to have babies. We are still kids at this age. But You can be a great mother and just hold your head high. I wouldn't trade my son for anything. The father of my child ran off to another state. He was 19. I raised my son on my own. I got a job, and stayed in school. It was the hardest thing to do ever. But it can be done. Get used to nasty comments from people. I am now 20 (my son is 5) I am 12 days away from having a beautiful baby girl!! Many people would find this so crazy but I am loving it. Just hang in there and don't let anybody get you down. Whatever you do. Stay in school. And don't rely on just your b/f working. You need to be able to be independent in case of the worst happening. I wish you all the luck!!

Answer 4

I do think that 15 is really young to be pregnant. You can't even get a drivers license at 15. You haven't graduated high school.

I'm also a young mommy to be at 19, but I also graduated high school, I'm in college, & I'm married. I just know that I changed SO much from being 15 to being 19. My boyfriend that I thought I loved at 15, is definitely not the person I would want to be with today.

However, what people don't understand is that maybe the person you choose to be with or marry at even 30 years old, isn't the same perosn you would have chosen at 35. People can change and grow together, so I do wish you the best of luck.

What I'm worried about is that you are totally relying on your boyfriend to support you, so if he were to leave you, then you would probably end up on welfare, because you're still in school, and can't even get a job at most places because of your age. You should NEVER rely on someone else to support you.

People shouldn't be disrespectful to you, but that's just the way it is. I have a wedding ring on my finger, but I still get comments about me being young. But as long as I know that I'm happy and have the life I want, I could care less what ignorant people think about me.

Thats all you can do. People aren't going to change. All you can change is the way you respond to them.

Answer 5

Because kids should not have kids! It is alot harder than what most girls your age think. It's great that you are still with the father, not on welfare, and that the father has a full time job being able to support you BUT most teen girls do not.

Irreguardless you are still only 15...only a child yourself...that obviously has little responsibility or you would not be pregnant at 15.

Answer 6

Because you are throwing your life away. Plain and simple. Why would you give up all that life has to offer at your age when you just could have waited and had it all. It is sooo hard being a parent but at the age of 15 there is absolutely no way you can be a good parent. This does not mean you can't be a loving parent but as far as being knowledgeable and effective It just isn't going to be possible for a 15 y old. Your still a child. don't mean to sound harsh but as a mother of 4 girls I just can not put into words how hard it is being a mother. No 15 yr old should have to go through this. You are supposed to be having sleep overs and dates and proms etc..Not screaming babies, dirty diapers, and all that. I'm sorry honey I am as tolerant as they come...live and let live...But in this case ..You can tell yourself it's going to be OK and that a 17yr old can support you the fact is as adults w/children we know...unfortunately you will have to learn.

Answer 7

I'm 19 and people still look at me like that. People are always saying rude remarks and whispering how shameful it is to be pregnant.

I think half of the remakes I get are also based on I don't have a religion, and I going to be a single mother. (the father turned into a drunk, and quit his job so he wouldn't have to pay for the child).

People don't really have anything nice to say to a young mother unless they went though it or are going though it.

5 of my friends who are younger then me are pregnant or have a baby. Don't let anything those people say get you down. You have a great man who is there for you, I'm sure you have friends there to support you emotionally though this, and you will soon have a baby girl who will love you no matter what. Just keep your head up, your the better person not them.

Answer 8

Honey i know how you feel! You had a lack of judgement and the results are that your pregnant but is sounds like u and your boyfriend are trying to be responsible and im very proud of you for that! Im 23 but i look 16 and i get a lot of dirty looks when im out with my 2 year old and im pregnant again and starting to show. I get a lot of disrespectful comments and i enjoy telling them that first of all im 23 and second of all i hope they enjoy harassing pregnant women. Dont worry about those people, those are the same people that wil be scolding you for aborting your child ( which im against ). Keep your head up and remember the only way to prove them wrong is to stay in school and go to college after you graduate. I went to school with a girl that had a kid at 15 and she is now a colllege graduate and is doing very well and she had very supportive friends and family. Good luck sweetie!

Answer 9

Awww you sound like a good friend of mine. she was 16 and actually PLANNED on having her kid with her boyfriend of 18. unfortunately she got in a car wreck and she miscarried.

I think, it nobody's business whether you know the daddy, where you get the money to raise the kid, how you got pregnant, or if you're in love or not. People should be supportive no matter what. If your situation was the exact negation, people should still be supportive.

On the other hand you have to realize that most teen moms didn't plan on getting pregnant, don't know who the father is, and will need welfare. It's a grim reality but you're in the same category as those people and people will assume that your situation is like this. It's not their faults, but like I said, you should be supportive of teen mothers while meantime not encouraging unwanted pregnancy.

Lots of people will say you threw your life away or you ruined your life. What is a "normal" life? I mean, honestly, a "normal" life is to just be happy. I got told I "threw my life away" when I got engaged at 18. People told me I'd be missing out on being single, getting drunk, etc. etc. Hell I see myself with someone who makes me happy, treats me with respect, and loves me. And thats more than I can say for the "normal" college life. But whatever. If you aren't living the life that they think is normal, then people look down on you.

My advice to you is not to worry about other people. You are about to embark on the world of motherhood. If you are prepared mentally and financially, you'll do great. But people twice your age are sometimes not even prepared for this sort of thing. Just know it's a hard but a very rewarding job of being a mother.

Good luck.

Answer 10

Because it isn't society-acceptable...15?!? You can't even drive, you're still a child and now everything is about to become a lot harder than it already is as a teenager. I have a friend who got pregnant her sophomore yr of HS and the baby's father commited suicide shortly after the baby was born because he couldn't handle it. However, my friend is 22 now and has a beatiful daughter, a great job, and a wonderful man in her life-all props to her!! But I'm telling you its hard...you may think its fun to play house now, but in reality, your b/f is young too, and theres no guarantee he will stick around, this is tying him down and he is mentally inmature. Are you prepared to handle it on your own??? You have to finish school, you won't accomplish anything if you don't-prepared to pay for child care?? Ready to ditch your party plans on the week ends??
Given, the baby is so worth it, but I am having my 1st baby in May and I'm 21 and its still very hard!