My husband and I have been married for 5 years. We have 2 wonderful boys 4 and 1. I am ready for another baby and I feel that we can handle another one. My husband keeps saying 2 more years. how can I convince him that we are ready now. It took me 9 months to get pregnant the last two times I went off the pill. That gives us 18 months to prepare. Help!
2007-03-14 08:05:42 · 8 answers · asked by littlemama9130 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
OK I know that this might sound cheesy but I saw an episode of Full House where Rebecka told Jesse that she was pregnant. She put together a meal that consisted of "baby" foods. She had baby back ribs, baby corn etc. You might try breaking the ice with something like that. They you might also try writing a list of reasons why you think that it is the right time to start trying to have another baby. One point that you might make is that siblings are closer in age tend to be closer friends growing up. I am sure that there are other points that you yourself have thought about that you can also tell him. You might also tell him that since it has taken so long after getting off of birth control before that by the time you get pregnant and have the baby it could be almost 2 years.
2007-03-14 08:14:38 · answer #1 · answered by V H B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband could have had that reaction because of the actuality which you laid each thing out for him, which incorporates your schedule, devoid of attention if he even needed yet another new child at this element. To throw that right into a communique is somewhat stunning and he could have felt that it replaced into some thing you had desperate on your very own, for that reason the snotty mindset. word of your husbands thoughts, when you consider that his 'mindset' in direction of the assumption could desire to tutor you he's no longer all that for the time of desire for going via the toddler point back. He could experience that he has merely gotten his spouse decrease back after 5 + years and isn't finding forward to loosing you for yet another 5 + years. along with your concentration on your new child and on college he won't experience as in the experience that your dating is the comparable because it replaced into previously having a new child. He could experience that having yet another toddler will merely added positioned a wedge on your dating.
2016-10-02 03:00:35 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you're ready and why not just let it happen. That way, if you get pregnant, great and if not, you're having fun anyway. Seduce him into knowing that it is the right time. Seriously, talk to him in a serious conversation and tell him you really want another baby and now would be a great time. He may say okay.
2007-03-14 08:09:42 · answer #3 · answered by downinmn 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, with my husband we met in the middle. He said 2 years and we compromised on 18 months.
2007-03-14 08:23:51 · answer #4 · answered by Who Me? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you can compromise, somewhere in the middle.
You don't want it to affect your marriage negatively, if he wants to wait he may feel overloaded or like another one now could cause an overload.
Maybe you can meet half way with a happy compromise so he doesnt feel pressured and you also feel that you get to wait less time!
2007-03-14 08:12:10 · answer #5 · answered by Amy B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I suggest that you don't pressure him. Believe me, that would make your wait longer because he would feel obligated and then that would cause more harm than good. Tell him your feelings and maybe even write him a letter and allow him to read it on his own, and come to you with his response. That way when you do, you wont have a guilt trip, and both of you can enjoy the pregnancy. Happy trying, and good luck!
2007-03-14 08:39:41 · answer #6 · answered by S4tisf4ctionz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i say just wait a little bit, and then try to talk to him about it. try to point out that this would be a good time or what ever your reasons are. If that doesnt work the best way to suduce a guy is through his ears...
2007-03-14 08:59:24 · answer #7 · answered by mmeghannn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is the rush? Are u at that age? Also are you a stay-at-home mom? Sorry for all of the questions. May be he'll change his mind in time.
2007-03-14 08:10:44 · answer #8 · answered by purplejadedragon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋