there was a guy that was my lab partner he started talking to me i thought he was HOT and thought about how he would never be interested in me im probably NOT his type noway..but then he started to talk to me more and told me he wants to date but after i noticed he was interested I WASNT INTERESTED and made excuses to not go out claiming i was so busy with college and work..but he still waited so i finally went out with him to get it over with since i promised,. on our date he was happy and enyoyed it then insisted on taking me home i told him i been going home alone b4 i met him but he said now its diff and i should call him when i get home he'll be waiting. i never called him the entire summer then saw him in lab he only said hi and went to speak with his friends in lab..then i was thinking he looks kinda HOT in that tan and i stopped myself..whats wrong with me? why did i do that why do i do that?
2007-03-14 08:04:38 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
theres a part i 4got to mention he was SHORTer then me or perhaps almost barely my height which i couldnt handle cuz i like tall guys..and my friend mentioned his shoe size is smaller then mine so that just did it for me there was noway i was gona date him
2007-03-14 08:36:34 · update #1
No
you just need to be more friendly
you need to tell this guy you like him
2007-03-14 08:09:45 · answer #1 · answered by Dr Universe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You want what you can't have. Maybe it's the fact that he isn't talking to you now that has you interested. Also, maybe you realize that he's one of those "good guys" that finish last.
You aren't SHALLOW. There is nothing wrong with you not wanting to go out with a guy because you don't find him attractive. The fact that you gave him a try is testiment that you have a heart. Unfortunately, you should have stood your ground and not lowered your standards. Maybe it was he who used you. . . did you think of that? Maybe he really never has that many girls go out with him. Maybe it was one of his first times doing . . . you know what. A lot can change over a summer too. If he had really wanted to get in touch with you, he could have, or he should have been a bit more sensitive to your feelings. You are assuming that he knows how you were feeling. He didn't necessarily know that you didn't call him because you didn't want to go out with him again. There are plenty of reasons for not calling someone back- you could have a fear of committment to a guy that you really like (one of those movie lines I think)
If you really like him, you should ask him out this time. Afterall, he went to great lengths to get you out on the first date. He must have had a reason. If it was because he liked you and thought you were attractive, then he either 1. Still does, but doesn't want to be hurt by you 2. changed his mind (in which case, you'll see when you talk to him and this would have happened anyway) 3. had better since you were together
2007-03-14 15:21:58 · answer #2 · answered by CandyLandCondoResident 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, you are shallow. It is typical that when one person shows a lot of interest the other person looses some interest, but you are all about yourself, even your reasons are shallow. Best treatment for you is make yourself ask some "not good looking" type guys out on a few dates and pay for the dates yourself. Give them each a night of really interesting conversation and a sweet good night kiss. Then when they become attracted to you, if they are foolish enough to feel that for a shallow woman, tell them you really value them as male friends and would like to meet with them as friends, that you need more real friends in your life. Maybe then you will grow out of your selfishness. But I doubt it.
2007-03-14 15:25:26 · answer #3 · answered by Nick N 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im guessing you have been hurt before and that you are afraid that it will happen again.
you really want to be with this boy, but the realisation that he could possibly find you worthy of him is beyond your low self esteem and self doubt.
i also think that you need to get back on the horse honey. speak with this guy and just tell him that you have had a few things to deal with lately, he sounds like a nice guy and will probably understand.
and as for the whole wanting to take you home or wanting you to call him when you got home - thats a good thing, he wants to look out for you, he likes you and doesnt want anything to happen to you - he's a gentleman!
best of luck and i hope you get everything sorted. X
2007-03-14 15:13:29 · answer #4 · answered by laneyb_1983 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My theory? people do this when they have very low self esteem. You can't stand yourself, as you said you can't understand why he would be interested in you. Clearly he was, so obviously, because you are such an unworthy person, he must be an idiot, and since you wouldn't dream of going out with an idiot, you don't want to know him.
Realise how great you are, or at the very least accept the fact that somebody attractive and intellegent is interested in your, whether you understand it or not. You might find things improve.
2007-03-14 15:10:42 · answer #5 · answered by gerrifriend 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like he wanted a one night stand and you had a lucky escape. Only your brain was telling you that from the start. If he wanted to know you more he could have found your number from a friend/colleague or you and given u a call during the summer
2007-03-14 15:16:27 · answer #6 · answered by claireisabel2007 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well... shallow springs to mind but you mustn't be too hard on yourself - you went on a nice date with a good looking guy whose only fault was to be overly chivalrous to you and now he is not interested YOU are now interested again!
You could try again and be yourself this time and stop trying to imitate some girl from Beverly Hills 90210 (nice show) but on second thoughts do you want to put him off again?
Be careful you don't end up with someone like yourself....
2007-03-14 15:11:01 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God how shallow are you?? all you have mentioned are ridiculous things like his tan and his shoe size...leave him alone for a girl who will want him for the right reasons. You like the idea of having him around for the wrong reasons.
2007-03-14 16:45:14 · answer #8 · answered by Ms Dee 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are shallow. Personality counts - not height and shoe size!
You want what you can't have and don't mind playing with peoples feelings to make your boring little life more interesting.
2007-03-15 06:32:11 · answer #9 · answered by LauraMarie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think 'shallow' has anything to do with it. You may have been physically attracted to him, but it doesn't sound like there was alot of chemistry. (pardon the pun) It just sounds like you're living the typical college life and dating around...which is completely normal! Have fun, study, meet lots of people. When you get the right one, you'll know. :)
2007-03-14 15:09:49 · answer #10 · answered by 1912 Hudson 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i do the same thing with a bloke that fancies me.. i don't take much notice of until I'm feeling bored then i start to think well maybe!! but it is only because no one else is paying any interest that I'm looking at him,, do you think you are doing the same? only you know how much you like him.
2007-03-14 15:23:52 · answer #11 · answered by jem 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋