i looked at his internet history and saw he visits transgendered fiction websites all the time as well as a lot of sexy costume sites and sexy shoes. then today i found a women's costume outfit in the back of his closet. could he just be fantasizing or is it more likely that he wants to be a woman?
2007-03-14 07:54:47 · 19 answers · asked by soscared 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
sounds like an invitation to for you to find someone else!
2007-03-14 07:58:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wanting to wear women's clothes does not necessarily mean he's transgender. He might be a crossdresser/tranvestite. Some (like Eddie Izzard) would dress in women's clothes all the time if they could. And some get a sexual kick out of it. It's completely harmless.
It's an invasion of his privacy to look up his internet history, and snoop through his closet. If he feels he can trust you, he may tell you about it when he is ready. Until then, pretend nothing happened. It's none of your business.
Whatever you do, don't tell anyone else what you found. There is no reason to embarrass him or make him the subject of gossip.
2007-03-14 15:03:58 · answer #2 · answered by Robin W 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you have terms confused...he could well be a transvestite...a man who likes to wear women's clothing at times. A transgendered person is one who has been medically changed from one sex to another.
I strongly suggest that you have a frank discussion about this IF his playing dress up bothers you..that will be a serious problem if you go forward with this relationship. Good luck
2007-03-14 15:05:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because he is interested in fem clothes doesn't have to mean he is trangendered. He could be a closet TV or uses them for sexual gratification. Lets face it the only way you are going to find out is to confront him with what you know and hope he is honest with you. I dont think anyone on here can really help you with this one, we are not in your position. If he is TV then you have to decide if you want to live with someone who dresses fem. If he is transgendered
you can either leave or stay and be friends, but it would be the end of any hopes of a normal family life, I.E. sex etc.. After I had my op. my exwife and I stayed together for another 20 years and a very good friendship, in fact we are still good friends, she just left to be on her own. Good luck and try to let us know what happens.
2007-03-16 08:04:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's just a boy friend whats the big deal
How long did you keep the last one,
stop tying yourself down (all women)
just date as many guys that want to
and when the rite one comes along
probably in between all this you will both be happy
and probably stay together longer don't force the issue
Hugs and Kisses
2007-03-14 15:08:54 · answer #5 · answered by manoman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to have a conversation with him. But before, think on how you feel about him as a person and also how do you feel about the possibility of him being transgender. Maybe he is your soul-mate and how he dress in private is not that important. Maybe it is, only you can answer that.
I would suggest a mature and respectful conversation and depending on that conversation decide if you would prefer to cut all communication, keep him as friend or continue the relationship.
2007-03-14 15:01:48 · answer #6 · answered by Victoria 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just ask him. If he already talks to you about it a little, then try to open up some more convo on it. See where it goes. Truthfully, you won't know for sure if he is something unless you come right out and ask him. Even more important, decide how you feel about the topic and be prepared for any answers!
2007-03-14 15:27:47 · answer #7 · answered by U2 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whoa..Truthfully I would defenitly bring this up to him..Don't take the back seat in the relationship..If he wants to be a Trannie let him do that, but don't let his obsession drag you along out of obligation..That's actually kinda funny and weird at the same time...But unless you really don't feel that you can do better than the dude..I would leave him considering his fantasy'..Isn't hetrosexual.
2007-03-14 14:59:03 · answer #8 · answered by xxhonest2faultxx 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
if u really like him just wait sometime b4 u bring it up to him and try to collect more evidence and try to leave some transgender web sites on in his pc and see how would he react about it
2007-03-14 15:07:59 · answer #9 · answered by lover 5 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him. Find out what's going on. Then go from there.
2007-03-14 22:21:23 · answer #10 · answered by carora13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋