Should I shave my head like I said I would?

Question

I made a pact with a close friend that if I did not drop X ammount of lbs or fit into a certain size dress by March 1, I would shave my head as a punishment. She made a similair pact yet she succeeded. This agreement was made 3 months ago and I had ample opportunity to do what needed to be done and I slacked off big time - and fell way short

My friend said she doesnt expect me to and probably wouldn't if I were in her shoes, but I should consider it because I did not try hard - she knows me very well and thinks that the humiliation would be a strong motivating factor (she thought the fear of the humiliation would actually motivate me well and she was very supportive throughout the last 3 months offering lots of encouragement.)

So, do I suck it up and take responsibilities like a grown up woman and teach myself a lesson? Or do I quit on it the way I have quit on so many other agreements with myself?

Answer 1

Absolutely you should. You obviously feel the need for discipline and direction or else you would not be coming here for advice. Not only that, you should shave it every other day until you begin to achieve your goals, and everytime you get the urge to eat something unhealthy, you should rub your fuzzy dome. So go home and buzz all your hair off!

Answer 2

Do not shave ur head! If ur looking for a way to motivate urself, think of a reward for losing weight instead of a punishment for not losing weight! Think of something that u really want! If u lose the weight, then you'll get the reward in the end! If u don't lose the weight, then u won't get the reward and that can b ur punishment! Plus you'll still be the same size, which is a punishment in itself! So don't shave ur head. Just don't reward urself for being lazy!

Answer 3

Depends on how it makes you feel. Do you feel like a bad person when you back out on your word? If so, then for your own peace of mind it'd be good to stick to your commitments. If not then don't worry about it; In this case it doesn't look like you've hurt anyone else. If anything you've just let yourself down.

Just depends on how much self-discipline you want to impose on yourself. :) Look at it this way.. at least you only wagered your hair, which in time will grow back. Plus you could use the haircut as an excuse to try a different hairstyle when it grows back!

Answer 4

This is definitely not the answer you want to hear, but you made a promise to your friend and yourself. If you don't keep your word here, will you ever take yourself seriously? I completely sympathize with your situation, but if you want to remain goal oriented, you should stay true to your word. What is the point of a reward/punishment based system if you aren't fair to yourself? Wish that wasn't how I felt.

Answer 5

you will miss your hair and you'll regret it... why go through hell. just make the pact again and make a more reasonable punishment this time and actually LOSE the weight to get that over with

Answer 6

I wouldn't do it; don't wanna be like crazy Britney. But next time you make a bet, make sure if you loose you'll be able to live with the punishment.

Answer 7

Definately. Life has consequences, which is why you're probably in this predicament in the first place.

Answer 8

1st off a "grown-up person" would not make such a silly pact.
So you didn't make your goal...so what? Are you still working on it?
Baby steps.

Answer 9

shes tring to make u feel bad lol
dont do
tell her ur sorry but that would hurt ur confidence ever more and would prevent u from getting to ur goal

u dont need her approval
trust me head shave is ugly
and u will regret it
and if she doesnt let u out of it
then shes a bad friend

Answer 10

Well, if youdo it, people will probably think you're trying to copy britney spears.