Is it true that love is not enough?

Question

I had a boyfriend and we are both working but I am having a better salary than him and compare to me he is not a degree holder and we have lots of differences in life, but inspite of those differences he still love me, which I believe and I love him too and most especially we are happy together.... my friends and family told me that love is not enough time will come that we will fight and forget about love. Im getting confused because his already asking me to marry him. Do you think it is wise if we will get married?

Answer 1

Romeo and Juliet found that love was not enough.

Your firends and family are right. Love is a good start - but many marriages break up over money issues.

As you live together, each of you will begin to really see each other's warts. Some you can live with - but if you layer on money problems and career pressures - the camel's back is going to break.

My spouse always understood why I worked late and I why I enjoyed my work and supported me even when it meant he spent some Saturdays alone. Will yours? Will he be jealous of the time you need to put in at work - with the guys you work with?

When the time comes to have children, wouldn't you like the "stay home/go back to work" choice be based on your own family values versus the fact that you guys can't afford to lose your income.

In the old days, men went off and sought their fortune before marrying - they thought it was worth their time and trouble and made them worthy. An old fashioned idea - but I don't think a bad one. You've done your part by getting your degree, etc - why hasn't he done the hard work too?

If you are going to get married - it's time to start setting some goals together. #1 - what does he want to do with his career? Set the goal and do it now while he is young. Being 35 years old, working full time, with a kid is just not a good time to get in the game - get in the game now.

Answer 2

I would listen to your family and friends. They know you and can see what's going on without that "blind love" look.
You can love each other despite your differences (everyone who is married does), but I guarantee you that if love is your only connection and the only thing you have in common, than your marriage is going to be very short-lived. When you get married, you often get out of the infatuation and into "real" love, and that's pretty hard if you don't find things in your companion's character that you greatly admire. The more in common you have, the easier it is to get along.
By the way, how long have you been dating?

Answer 3

Yes its okay if you get married. But, before that try to work out your negatives then when you are married your to can make you love even grow more ;-) Also some people will never know how it will feel to be loved in this life time so hold on to the one you love. Love is hard to find I should know

Answer 4

Its real, by way of fact no remember how difficult you attempt and what sacrifices you're making and are nonetheless in the beginning up base, then on occasion its desirable to stroll away. Love could be an quite mind-blowing factor and an quite unfavorable factor. yet once you have hit your decrease and have become nowhere, then its time to stroll removed from love, at any fee.

Answer 5

no love is not enough. you need respect and compassion and empathy and responsibility. you need to take a look at your relationship and make sure that you can communicate and count on each other when things get tough. you have to be good friends and laugh together - you'll need that in those tough times! love gets you started but i have found after 18 years with one person that you have to really, really like them, too! :-)

good luck!

Answer 6

Yes, he sounds like a very decent person.