He's 19, Caucasion, Christian, well-spoken, educated, middle class, and has suddenly taken to looking and sounding like a street bum. His friends are similar. WHY would someone want to talk like a person from a different culture and emulate the values which are foreign to our culture? This is making me nuts.
2007-03-14 07:03:53 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He's a teenager is the explanation. Not all people of different cultures dress like that nor do they all like rap music. Your son is trying to pi** you off and it's working. HAHAHAHHAHA...lmao
He's doing his thing, and so are his friends. You can't control it so get over it. Your son is emulating a rapper, make that a white rapper called EMINEM. Look him up.
Still lmao.
Wait till he marries his Beyonce lookalike and brings your mulatto grandchildren home. Now, I'm really lmao.
2007-03-14 07:10:39 · answer #1 · answered by TygerLily 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
It seems like it is a phase all boys go through. If he has a good home life, and a good moral background, it will pass, and by the time he is 21 he will be wearing preppy clothes, short hair, and tight jeans. The more you make an issue, the more he will do it. He is a little old, as I thought maybe 15 to 17 is the difficult time for teen boys, but just keep an eye on his friends and if his grades are good, and his behavior has not changed toward you, he will change his apparel in the next couple of years. Good luck
2007-03-14 08:24:50 · answer #2 · answered by cardgirl2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like delayed adolescence and is going through a phase. I have 4 boys and all of them went through a time where I was a little embarrassed by them. But, I dealt with it and accepted the fact that it is part of their development. Our sons and daughters need to discover who they are and part of the process is to dress and talk differently then our parents. Sometimes, in more controlled environments they don't act out until they are much older... because they finally can.
Remember, the more you chastise or discriminate against him then the more he will be the opposite of you. Trust the values and examples you've given him. Accept him and enjoy watching him grow. If you don't then he might spend half of his life being completely opposite of you. Instead, have fun with him and look beyond the clothes. Enjoy the uniqueness of himself and his friends. Love them when they are over and look inside their eyes and their souls. You just might rekindle a relationship with your son and gain more admirers from his friends.
2007-03-14 07:07:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is 19 he is totally trying to fit in somewhere. But don't worry I am sure it is just a phase growing up with christian values is something I know about. I went through the trying to fit in with the thugs thing too it will pass. "Train your child in the way he should go and he will never depart from it." Don't ever doubt it you are done raising him and he's just searching for something other than what he's always known he'll come around don't worry until then just pray for patience with him. Give him a little room to express himself he's an adult and soon he'll have to act like one. And I am sure growing up you did some things that your parents thought were quite odd. But we all eventually grow up. Some sooner than others but don't worry he may just be experimenting we all eventually come back to where we need to be especially if we had a solid foundation. I'm sure things will be fine.
2007-03-14 07:17:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Spare the rod and spoil the child. Or, more precisely, Proverbs 13-24.
As for why, it is pushed and pushed and pushed and pushed through every facet of the popular culture your kids soak up. You could try laughing at him, or tell him to get a job dressed like a criminal.
Oh, do you know where the whole "baggy pants hanging down past your a$s" look came from? JAIL! Your kid is emulating CRIMINAL culture.
2007-03-14 07:17:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
He's just being a regular teenage boy. Trust me, I have a brother who acts identical to him. Don't worry, he'll grow out of the clothes. But if you really hate rap and are Christian, why not buy him some CHRISTIAN RAP?? Such a thing does actually exist, believe it or not :) And don't be afraid to embrace a culture different to your own. It does have its good merits. Good luck :)
2007-03-14 07:09:26 · answer #6 · answered by Kaylie 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If he is not on drugs or alcohol...not going to wild parties and just has a different taste in clothing and music consider yourself lucky!!
If he is a Christian...God will take care of him. Maybe he is in that culture because God can use him to reach out to others there.
Be happy he is not a bad kid and that you know he is in God's hands!
be cool...
2007-03-14 07:09:59 · answer #7 · answered by CC Babydoll 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dont try to stop him but dont support him so much, just let him do it and keep watching but if u find he is in danger like his studying is falling apart or he is getting rude with people then u have to do ur job as a parent stop him gradually, u said he is a teenage...all teenagers have that dont worry he'll despise it after a while and leave it alone
2007-03-14 07:11:49 · answer #8 · answered by dimaabdin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's probably just a phase. We all try to be someone different, live in someone else's shoes for a little while, but he'll come around to becoming himself sooner or later.
2007-03-14 07:07:49 · answer #9 · answered by Holly Golightly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And your point would be? I suggest you get out your highschool year book and check out the way YOUR generation dressed...also think back to what sort of music you were listening to...chances are if Tipper Gore had gotten her hands on it there would be a Parental Advisory Sticker on it.
2007-03-14 07:08:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋