I walked in on her crying her eyes out while talking to an ex-boyfriend a couple months ago. She made up a huge and fabriated story and lied about who she was talking to. I found out, only, by looking in her phone log and she came clean. Then she lied about talking to him a couple of more times; until i confronted her with proof. I work with him and whenever he is away from his desk, I am unable to reach her. Yesterday he was gone all morning with no word. She was "away from work" yesterday morning as well. She called me at 12 noon hysterical and mad at me for any and every issue we had. I also saw her number on his desk phone. She was trying to reach him in between calling me. He eventually returned to work and then she agreed to see me. And then, 2 hours later, he runs off again. She is now 'having dinner" alone and is "staying with a friend" tonight. Am i crazy for not trusting her. I have no solid proof. Just an undeniable gut feeling she is with him.
2007-03-14 07:02:39 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
you need to go with your gut feeling because that sounds like there is something going on. you need to get rid of her. you already have all the proof you need and you don't need to be with someone like that.
2007-03-14 07:53:50 · answer #1 · answered by h.b.i.c. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The one thing you know for sure is that she has lied to you in the past about this guy. I would bet everything that she is lying to you now. Simply because she tried her best to hide it from you before. I'm sorry to tell you this but she still cares for him. You can tell this because she was crying while talking to him. She obviously is confused and is desperately clinging on to the both of you. By ignoring all these signs shes given you, you have allowed her to carry on this behavoir. Sure your questioning her trust everyday and snooping behind her back tells her you question her faithfullness but have no solid proof. And well you're actually puting up with the "staying with a friend" and "having dinner alone tonight". So she thinks your a push over who will put up with this behavoir. You know whats going on here but don't want to accept it. You hope that she's not cheating, you want her to love you and be with you. But the signs are all there and you're still wanting validation. When you truly love someone you want to be with only them. Not eating alone or staying with friends. It gets to the point to where you can't wait to get off work just to be with them. And she's acting this way towards him, not you. Leave this woman before she ruins you. She is already tearing your heart apart with her games. She's proven to you her feelings are more important to her. So just leave her now before this gets any deeper. No reason in following them or checking in on her, she's shown you what she values and sadly it's not you or your feelings. But the great news is there are plenty of women who would shower you with love. But unfortunately you're tied up with a self absorbed woman who takes you for granted. It's your life and future. Only you can change this. It's a matter of if your willing to put up with this heartache. Just know that you choose this pain for yourself. And know that you have every right to be happily, madly in love. So why settle? Life is what we make it! Good Luck & God Bless!
2007-03-14 15:45:03 · answer #2 · answered by zero 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's a coward. She lacks courage to tell you that she wants to be with the other guy. It's easier, in her mind, to continue these games she's playing.
At some point, from what I've read here, there will be emotional pain. My advice, end it. NOW!
Go through the pain and move forward with someone who is not still in love with their ex. There are other girls out there who want to be serious and are not carrying around an old bf while playing with a new one.
2007-03-14 14:23:08 · answer #3 · answered by TygerLily 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she isn't cheating now, she is certainly moving in that direction. I would start to realize that your relationship is coming to a close.
As one of my friends would say "...women are like monkey swinging through the trees. They won't let go of one branch until they have a firm grasp on the next one."
Her ex-boyfriend is the next branch.
2007-03-14 14:16:07 · answer #4 · answered by ishootpix 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
trust your gut feeling . and you do have proof you just told us about it. now what do you plan on doing with it? do you want to be treated that way or do you think you deserve better? the question is up to you.
2007-03-14 14:14:59 · answer #5 · answered by sassy 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You have all the proof you need, if she cared for you she would not have lied to you,.. Been there, done that, And it hurts like , ...That will drive you crazy,,, hang in there,
2007-03-14 14:12:16 · answer #6 · answered by ThomasL 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She's probably cheating or preparing to get back with this other guy. You might have been a rebound from a fight she had with him. Make it clear to her that she's got to stop this or you're leaving.
Make sure you mean it though.
2007-03-14 14:11:58 · answer #7 · answered by Duran Duran Diva 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She still has feelings for him and yeah sounds like to me she is cheating. you shouldnt put up with that if she still loves him let her be with him and when theyre over and she comes running back to you dont take her back
2007-03-14 14:28:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hope u'll open ur eyes. it's obvious that she still cares 4 her ex-bf. u deserve a better girl.
2007-03-14 14:11:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think she is working her way to do just that.
2007-03-14 14:09:10 · answer #10 · answered by mayihelpyou 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋