i love him, but its long distance?

Question

ok, i've known my bf for about 2 years. i love him soooo much. but i met him through our parents, he lives in a diffrent state, about 4 hours away. sometimes he comes and visits or i go visit him maybe every other month, or every 3-4 months. my dad and his mom dont get along anymore so i can only go and visit him w/ my mom, who works. i love him so much and i dont know what to do. its hard to talk to him cause he gets grounded a lot and my mom doesnt like the fact that i like him so much so she limits our phone calls. i just like him so much and i dont wanna get hurt, i dont wanna break up w/ him.. but i just dont know how many time i can say hello and goodbye to him w/ out my heart breaking....any advice...and only serious anwsers plez. thank u.

Answer 1

first of all think about what you really want!!!your parents have to understand they chose to be with each other so talk to them and tell them youre the one whos deciding!dont brake up with him!!! do what your heat tells you! hope i helped

Answer 2

I kno long distance relationships are hard i was in one for a year. She lived in Oregon. and I had to call her every night to hear her voice...if you think he is the one...stay will him and wait til you can move near or with him... if you think it wont work out take a brake(not a brake up a brake)Dont make LDR (long distance relationships) hard for you. take what you got and work it out... whatever you think is best... Good Luck Personally i would use what i got and talk to him as much as possible...and personally ur mom cant limit ur phone calls because she doesnt live the other family... Think about Romeo and Juliet...Family Fueds are a waste and it isnt worth it... so talk to your mom... and see what she says if she doesnt do anything and make the best of it....at least you can talk to him.....your mom couldnt made you brake up with him.... well good luck sweet pea and Take Care

Robert Ziarno

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Answer 3

I'm not sure why you have such an affinity for this individual, but your mom might have the right idea--since, your attachment could be a little unhealthy. You could be looking for the "man" in your life---since, I could assume (and I could very well be wrong) that your parents are separated/divorced. You must ask yourself, why does my father dislike this boy's mother so? How old, in fact, are you? Parents (family) usually have a very good reasons why they might or might not like someone. They may see something that you don't, primarily due to their experiences in life (how old they are). Why is the boy getting "grounded a lot"?? Is he really not a very good character?? Is it just incidental? Why is it that you love him? Can you answer that? Is it because he is cute, funny, nice to you? Or is it because he is a hard worker, has his priorities straight, seems to understand responsibility, and other very important values, that perhaps your parent's hold? As you grow older, you will see that many of their values (or someone you hold in high esteem) are also very important to you. You must ask yourself these questions, and honestly answer them. You must be true to yourself.

I think your parents (and the boy's) are just trying to get you through to adulthood, without drugs, sex, getting pregnant, and the many other major life altering issues that we all face.

Answer 4

i know exactly how you feel.
my fiance lives 2000 miles away from me!
i find msn helps with webcams. but its so hard saying goodbye.
my family dont like the fact that im with my man either. you should sit your mum down and explain to her that he is he one you want to be with and explain why u feel this way.
i only get to see my fiance once every 6 months. its so hard for me. 4 hours is not that big a distance as you can catch a train or a cross state flight. i have to save up for a holiday to visit mine :(

i feel for you i really do. its so hard to keep it up. i always have the womder 'what is he doing now?'. the only way to keep a long distance going through the odds is to have comminucation and trust. explain this to your moher. if this really is the guy for you, you really have to make her understand. otherwise, she could be destroying your chance at happyness.

i cant understnd that you met through your parents yet your mother doesnt like it now. seems wrong. ask your mother to tell you her feelings and try to reassure her that its ok.

all the best to you

xxxxxxxxx

Answer 5

hi.
look love knows no distance or conditions. even if u never see him u will still be with him in his heart and he'll be in urs
u have internet at home? he has it? if yes for both then u can chat together it'll be hard but better than nothing, buy a webcam and let him buy one so u can see each other....its never as good as being together but its a solution for u both, and about phone calls...u said ur mother works so u can talk while she is at work or try to talk to her about him try to make her like him without telling her that u r trying to do that...use some clever things and u'll be there dont worry but stick to him because u both have the most important thing (LOVE)

GOOD LUCK

Answer 6

Long distance is very hard to maintain. You both need absolute trust and finding that is hard in itself. Is there nobody close who could give you the same that he could? Unless you or him are planning to move closer to each other you may be better off accepting the pain for now and move on. Life is too short to be tied to someone who isn't giving you the same back or can't give you the love and affection someone close to you can. I know, i've been there. Good luck.

Answer 7

I personally think that if you only see him 3 to 4 months personally you should be seeing him more often. I think you should just move on.

Answer 8

long distance relation ship are very hard to keep up. none of mine worked for me but my brother and my best friend are pretty much married to there long distance girlfriends and there in other country's. ( i have to laugh when there are fighting nothing funnier to me )
but there secret is the Internet. they web cam all the time, over yahoo in fact, its free, you can see the other person in real time, web cams are pretty cheep( $30 - 65 ). but buy a good one.

Answer 9

Sounds really tough. It sounds like you don't drive or won't drive th were he is alone. Why don't the two of you look into bus fares it might be a little easier.

Answer 10

does he have a computer?how old are you? if he had a computer you could talk to him more on the internet.