My sister, who is 7months pregnant with her first child, and I no longer live in our home town, but our parents still do. I recently moved a thousand miles away and will not be able to throw her a baby shower myself. Her office is throwing her a small one, but I know she would like a shower in our home town with family and friends, but no one has offered to throw her one, and our mother doesn't feel its appropriate for her to throw my sister a shower. Any suggestions?
2007-03-14 06:45:11 · 12 answers · asked by dccommute 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I asked for suggestions, not your personal opinons of my mother. How very rude.
2007-03-14 07:19:28 · update #1
To properly take a shower with a baby:
1. Turn the water to a lukewarm setting, so as not to harm the child.
2. Place the baby on the floor of the shower.
3. Get in the shower with the baby. MAKE SURE NOT TO STEP ON THE BABY!
4. Also... remember not to urinate while in the shower.
2007-03-14 06:53:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
As I've learned through various roles as a bridesmaid, the person who actually "throws" the shower need not take credit for it.
If your mother feels uncomfortable throwing the shower, perhaps she can help you organize it. She can find a place for it to be held for you, certainly. Then, when the invitations go out, it should indicate that it is being given by you or whomever you wish. You can put yourself on as an RSVP person instead of or in addition to your mother, so that it does not seem as though she's "throwing" the shower.
I'm sure that she's willing to help, she probably just feels funny being the "organizer." If you encourage her to help out, but do so quietly, she may be more receptive.
If you aren't getting help from your mother at all, you could always do the same thing, asking other family or friends to help you put it together.
2007-03-14 08:08:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you or your mother should approach some of those friends or family about throwing the shower. It may be that it has not occured to them that your sister would want to come back there for this. The worst thing people can say is "no". Your mother is right, though, she should approach people in a tactful way....more of a conversational thing than an out and out inquiry.
Hope that helped!
2007-03-14 14:04:10 · answer #3 · answered by diapercakesbybecca 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe if u have time and money to spare u can take a weekend trip back home and throw ur sister a shower.My aunts live miles away from where i'm from and one of my aunts, there sister, was having a baby and they all came home to throw here a wonderful baby shower and it was her 3rd child its ur sister first, so this will be the one that she'll remember the most and the time she needs the most comforting when embarking on a new part of her life.
2007-03-14 06:49:47 · answer #4 · answered by BLESSED AND TTC #1 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you know some of her friends in the hometown, you might call them and casually ask if they have planned a baby shower for your sister. They may think someone else has. And Mom is wrong in this one. She it would be appropriate for her to throw a shower for her daughter. It's not 1950 any more. I'm mom to 3.
2007-03-14 06:49:52 · answer #5 · answered by Melanie A 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
my mom is throwing mine because i don't think anyone else will offer. I know its not suppose to be like that but i wouldn't want to put the burden of money and all that on anyone else but my parents. I don't think anyone thinks of your mother throwing the baby as rude or as if she's asking for stuff, like originally thought. Everyone deserves a baby shower no matter who throws it. Good Luck!
2007-03-14 07:20:03 · answer #6 · answered by panya 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your mother feels uncomfortable being the person doing the inviting, you could make a compromise with her and a friend.
You could call one of her friends and ask if they would be willing to be hostess at the shower you would like to give your sister and to send out the invitations.
You and your mother could then do as much of the planning and arrangements as possible as well as footing the bill.
2007-03-14 07:18:14 · answer #7 · answered by kittyrat234b 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your Mom again, because today Mom's often throw baby showers. My boyfriends Mom and Sister had one for me and then my friends and my Mom cooperated to throw me another one. I think it is too much for you to try to accomplish when you are a 1000 miles away, there is too much to take care of. You would have to pretty much take a vacation to do this and its not necessary. I think it is more appropriate for you to ask your Mother to do this than one of her friends.
2007-03-14 07:06:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old is your mother? Times have changed, anyone can do this nowadays. Beside if your mom cared at all she should know that your sis probably could really use the gifts.
Try to change her mind, but she may feel alittle overwhelmed as to who to invite who will make the decorations and so forth, if you have anyone that can assist her in the details (you can help plan) then I think she may just see it your way.
2007-03-14 06:51:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why not no one else will, it would be rude to turn down family to do it with your freind but since no one in the family has offered i sure take up the offer.
2007-03-14 06:53:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋