Alright my friend is being so stupid lately and I want to know if I should move on and not talk to her any more
-she blows off plans that we make to hang out together to be with her boyfriend
-she doesn’t even call me to tell me that she “can’t make it” she’ll just have me wait for her and then I end up finding out on my own
-she doesn’t return any of my calls
-when I do call and she answers she’ll cut me off when I’m talking and say that she has to go because some one is on the other line
And just so many more things that she does that freaking annoy me. and the thing is she never used to be like this it’s just ever since she got a boyfriend it’s like our friendship doesn’t matter and she like makes her boyfriend her whole life. She’s been doing this for so long now it’s ridiculous and I’m really sick of it. I don’t even know why I’m still her friend, I don’t know I feel like if I let her go I won’t have anyone else to call or hang out with because me and her used to be
2007-03-14 06:40:33 · 6 answers · asked by Fishy<3 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
When my boyfriend and I first started dating, I blew off all my friends too. I only wanted to be with him. After a couple months when the excitment of being in a new relationship died down, I realized that I didn't have anymore friends. She needs to realize this on her own. You need to move on and make new friends. It never hurts to make another friend. Eventually, she will call you.
2007-03-14 06:47:43 · answer #1 · answered by jervett 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My friend did the same to me, too; she always seemed to have another person on the other line and never called me back after the conversation was over. I eventually got fed up with it and... let her go, but not in entirety. I made small talk when I could and always helped her out when she needed me. Now days, I write things on how I felt when we were and how I feel now. I believe that this is just a stage in your friend's life when she thinks that she doesn't need anybody else because she thinks she is on the top of the world with him. Sooner or later, though, she will need you more than ever, and you'll be there for her because, by what you wrote, you seem to have an awesome personality and being that you stuck with her this far, you won't let her down when she needs you. I think you should let her go for now; it'll be tough, but you'll stay strong.
2007-03-14 14:13:06 · answer #2 · answered by TragicLoveEnding 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She doesn't even sound like a true friend. However, there are a lot of people who make their boyfriend/girlfriend their entire life (co-dependant personlality) and forsake all else. It is these same people who will be calling you as soon as their relationship ends or is in trouble. I'm sure she's still a good person deep down, but is not very considerate and thinking logically.
My advice to you is to let her go and start hanging out with others. She needs to mature and be more comfortable with herself. Maybe she may come around again looking for your friendship. It's up to you at that point to what capacity you'll allow her to be your friend again. I'd personally be nice to her but would find others for friendship. True friends don't do this to people they care about.
2007-03-14 13:52:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what you are going through. the same thing happened with me and my best friend. WE MAY TALK ON THE PHONE ONCE EVERY THREE MONTHS FOR AN hour or so. She does most of the talking. I will always be there for her and her problems but i had to move on with my life and so should you. i mean you can't just worry about her feelings constantly you have a life and you need people to hang out with and people you can count on to be there when you need them and she isn't one of those. Just tell her you will always be there for her if she needs you but you can't just be friends on her terms anymore..
2007-03-14 13:46:35 · answer #4 · answered by T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it would be a great idea for your friend to see this so she knows how your feeling. perhaps you will find a boyfriend soon and maybe you can start goin on double dates and hanging out again. either way..good luck with it. I never burn bridges....ya never know when u will need to cross them. good luck...Ricky
2007-03-14 13:45:45 · answer #5 · answered by Bear 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have a friend like that too....it's extremely frustrating....over the years i found myself spending less time with him as a result of his behaviors.....and the few times we did interact, i just decided he was going to be insensitive and i tolerated the little bit of time we had
2007-03-14 13:43:48 · answer #6 · answered by an_articulate_soul 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋