Ok im not a virgin and i feel like i really need to tell my parents but im so scared that they'll like kill me or something. Mainly that they just won't look at me the same or even won't love me. They'll claim im messing up my life that i already got going for me.Should i tell or not???
2007-03-14 06:34:00 · 13 answers · asked by iluvsuperman84 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
you know what your are a good kid... you might of made a mistake but just the thought of you wanting to tell your parents that is signs of a good kid. Tell them... and although they might be dissapointed and prob. give you a hard time...all in all they will also take in good consideration that you went out of your way and told them... That as well is being a good kid....being able to talk to your parents when you need to... Good Luck
2007-03-14 06:40:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sure let them know. Actually dont even mention it to your dad, believe me, he doesnt want to know. But you should definitely tell your mom. Sure she will freak out at first and tell you how irresponsible you are and all the bad **** that can happen but when she sees that you already know all this, shell realize that its something she cant take back. Telling her all this will make you guys closer, Then she can get you the stuff you really need like birth control. I suggest an IUD, you never have to mess with it and you dont have to take any pills. and its good for three years, which is about the time that youll snap out of sleeping with people. If you open the lines of communication, theyll trust you more.
2007-03-14 23:25:42 · answer #2 · answered by JUDAS RAGE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be a shock and disappointment to them. What would be even worse would be if they learn you are pregnant. You're not a virgin so how are you getting birth control pills? You are not just relying on different guys using condoms, are you? This little worry you have about being honest with your parents is nothing - nothing! - compared to being honest with them and telling them you are pregnant and unmarried and got that way having recreational sex with a date.
So at the very least, when you tell them you are not a virgin, stress to them that you need the birth control that is going to guarantee you are not going to be a teenaged unwed mother. They will be sad, angry and disappointed but in the end, at least they will have one thing to be thankful for - that you are going to have a future for awhile and a chance to mature the way they always thought you could.
2007-03-18 02:37:11 · answer #3 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are still being sexully active then I would want to know if I was your parent! Then I could offer you advice, and make sure you are staying safe, and making better choices. It would give me a chance to tell you the risks. If you feel like you made a mistake and feel like you need to talk to your parents then that is a good reason to tell them as well. I bet your parents already worry, as most parents do, and won't be AS shocked as you think. Disappointed? Sure, but only because they want what is best for you-NOT because they think you are a perfect person.
2007-03-14 13:41:32 · answer #4 · answered by WhiteDove 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell them. Whatever disappointment they may feel will pass in time and they will realize that the most important thing was that you trusted them enough to let them know. Talk to them about what sort of birth control you are using and make sure you are seeing the gyn for annual visits.
2007-03-14 13:54:45 · answer #5 · answered by leaptad 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this sounds horrible but ...I dont think you should tell them. I know every other adult on this will say yes tell them but Im kinda in the same boat. I think you should wait to tell them until you get a little bit older(depending on how old you are) until they expect you to be doing something. But even then I'd only tell my mother cause Dads have a problem with their children having sex....I dont know why but they do. good luck!
2007-03-14 13:40:47 · answer #6 · answered by luckycharm31692 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you can access proper medical care, birth control, sti tests, etc without the help of your parents, you really don't need to tell them. However, if it will make you feel better (like you feel like you need to talk to them about this), or if you need them to make doctor's appointments for you, you should tell them. This decision is up to you, and you should think hard about each option. I would recommend telling them, just to ensure that you can easily access any information or medical care if you need it, or will need it in the future.
2007-03-14 15:00:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
man i wouldnt have the guts to even think of saying stuff like that at a young age. you got heart use it. your parents can be dissapointed but that doesnt mean they dont love you. i say if you have to tell them. do it. no parent is perfect and if they the gods must be crazy. i hope at least the can understand that you are respectable young adult. also responsible cause you used a condom RIIGGHT!!!!
peace
2007-03-17 16:50:23 · answer #8 · answered by Big Head 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope, since you haven't had any open chat with them till now, it's better saying nothing about such inner situation rawly. Anyway, it depends from your parent character and culture. Sincerely, I will like if my daughter says nothing about that, specially if she never shared her life and feelings with me!
Lastly, what could it change then?
2007-03-14 14:24:35 · answer #9 · answered by whole_feelings 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give them an example of some girl that broke her virginity, and see how they react if they go nuts don't say a word. If they seem calm about it tell them what would you do if i lost my virginity....
2007-03-14 13:39:24 · answer #10 · answered by drop of dew 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋