Was my best friend?

Question

Me and my best friend used to be soo tight we told eachother absolutly everything. Now she tells me nothing and tells everythign to two of our other friends. plus shes always with her boyfriend of 2 years and i never see her or anything. She seems to not like me so much anymore and makes rude remarks at alot of opionions i have on things and makes me feel like im a b*tch. I can't just tell her how i feel because thats just weird and i don't know what to do.

Answer 1

I’m guessing you are still fairly young (possibly teens). Sometimes it hurts to realize that relationships we thought would stand the test of time will not progress much farther. You are not the only one who has to confront these painful occurrences (I don’t say that with any meanness intended. I just want you to know you are not alone). In life we are lucky to have friends … Many for only a short amount of time and only a few for an entire lifetime. Most of the friendships you’ll have will end. It doesn’t mean we forget those friends; it just means that we all grow. Unfortunately with growth, separation often occurs. Why is that? Well it’s because we all evolve differently and as we grow older we search out what makes us happy. Sometimes you find that your friend’s search and your search are completely opposite of each other; and this is how it is whether you are 17 or even 57. For example, some people search out drugs while the other person searches out GOD. Can they still be friends? Of course they can; but their differing interests provide for new acquaintances to enter their lives. I know you are really hurting because of this, and I’m sorry you have to go through it. You’re probably trying to understand what or how this happened.

Just know that soon you’ll be blessed with a friendship that is true and everlasting …

This type of lifelong friendship knows no true anger
This type of lifelong friendship doesn’t expect a phone call
This type of lifelong friendship can survive for days, weeks, and months if you weren’t able to talk.

I hope you can see that it does feel better after a little while. Soon all you will remember are the good times you shared. That’s what is so amazing about the brain … Its ability to look into the past and find only the good things. You’ll look back at your time together as friends while smiling and laughing over the crazy things you used to say and do together.

Answer 2

I think you are answering your own question. If you have to ask a question sometimes its because you already know the answer you just want to hear it from someone else. A friend is a person that will be there no matter what. The first thing to do is to overcome your fear of telling her how you feel. This is necessary, because you want to clear your conscious. There may be a ton of things that she isn't telling you. If she were true to you, she would be upfront with you (and you her) instead of talking behind your back. That will be her problem once your tell her face to face, by phone, email, or by letter. However you choose to do it, its up to you. If she has a conscious she will respond and hopefully understand. You may have only served a purpose to her until something else came along (like her boyfriend, etc.) . That behavior reemphasizes her shallowness.Just remember, true friends are like diamonds, precious and rare, false friends are like pebbles, found everywhere. Find someone better for you.

Answer 3

Everyone goes through phases throughout a life time. Friends come and go, and relatives enter and leave. The trick to life is to change the things in life that you can, IE who are your friends, how your grades are, what you will do for a living; Accept that which you can not change,IE Deaths of family members and friends, how other people act, or think; and finally, learn to know the difference between the two. I hope that this helps, and remember, growing up is lessons that must be learned,,,,, So there will be other friends that come and go, and boyfriends, and the future is an adventure that should be embraced, not feared,,,, good luck.

Answer 4

Not much of friend anymore.. Sounds like she has moved on possible since she is settling down she is keeping with people who are in the same situation. Possible her boyfriend doesn't like you... Always an influence.

You MUST address this friend of yours.. you have too.. Why she has put you on the back burner?, Why is she calling you down?, You need to know this and defend yourself.. Nothing weird about it. Its just wrong on her side .. period...

Anytime someone is involved in a serious relationship friends become less important (for awhile).. And they start hanging with other couples. Silly how it works that way but it does.

Answer 5

I had the same situation with my best friend. Our last year of high school she ignores me hangs out with a new click and hangs out with her boyfriend 24/7, you know what i did i gave her some of her own medicine. I ignored her got me some new friends and then all of the sudden she was writing me letters on how she wants to be close again. One thing that will piss her off is if you laugh a lot, so always smile and just have fun don't over think your situation with best friend.

Answer 6

Sometimes people change and move on to new friends. She is no longer your friend. Get over it. Stop trying to force the friendship and try to make new ones. I'm sure you're not a bad person but you have to let go. You will certainly find other people who will like you and respect your opinions.

Answer 7

Sounds like she's upset about something. I'd blatently ask her what is going on. Share your feelings with her, if she's really your best friends she'll be honest with you, if not, no loss, because she wasn't worthy to have as a friend to begin with.

Answer 8

Easy answer copy her she has her freinds why dont u get yours understand..... u know just go get your to girl freinds tell them everything and get you a boy freind easly if your beutiful and she would be like ohhh what the f*ck happened here!

Answer 9

Try telling her how you feel. It is weird, but it's how people grow healthy relationships. It's called communication. If she doesn't respond well to that, she's not worth your bother.

Answer 10

she's trying to not depend on u anymore..
its a state in ur frenship....or mayb she got a boyfren dat she thinks can handle all her problem...if she comes back when she only got a problem, dats not a bestfren....