Please help...?

Question

My fiance and I got into an argument. Now he is leaving me. We have been together for over 2 years and are very much in love (or at least I thought we were). I just need someone to please give me encouragement to get through this, because I don't know that I can. If you have ever been through something similar, then please just respond to this. I just need someone to help.

Answer 1

It is never to late to say you are sorry. Be sincere and mean it. I dont know what the argument is over but even if you was right...still apologize. Sometimes people after an argument need some space. Perhaps a good idea would be to put it in a letter. Tell him just how much you care, how sorry you are and that you dont want the relationship to be over. Tell him that you need an extra chance to show him just how much you care. Then, either mail the letter special delivery, return receipt...which would make a huge impression...or even better, put it in a box with a special little gift and mail it UPS. That will get his attention that you went through all that trouble. But do it soon...as the more time people have to think about things...the more the actual situation can change in their minds.

Answer 2

What you are experiencing is the same feeling of panic and fear that you went through when your mother or father had to leave. It is a fear of being abandoned and being helpless. If he is leaving you now, be glad that you don't have a child or two to care for. the divorce rate is somewhere around 70%, so a breakup is to be expected. It is tough to feel so alone, but somewhere inside yourself, is a strong woman who will see you through this. Your world includes other people, friends, job, family, so take inventory of your good points. As he is on his way out, accept it, an save some of your pride, otherwise you will just get more of the same, and he will be more domineering than before. You will heal. Best wishes

Answer 3

2 years...is this your first argument? does he/she usually hear you out or walk before you've said your piece? You need to look at the big picture. arguments hurt, leaving hurts more. But if someone ups and leaves you because you disagree (unless it is a relationship-busting issue like having children or alternative lifestyles), maybe in the long run you are better off not staying in such a tenuous relationship. You will hurt, there's no way around it. But don't let yourself be a doormat in order to prevent yourself from hurting. It won't work anyway.