Otherwise wonderful kid. Straight A honor roll for years, very nice to other people, outgoing and very kind. No drugs/smoking/alcohol. His mother is a mess (but not abusive) so he's lived with us for 6 years. I know she never challenged his lying, he'd say he did school work and she never followed up. Now he lies about EVERYthing big and small. No punishment has worked and we've tried a LOT of them. Restriction, grounding, taking away things he cares about, hell even bribery. Now he's 13 and I'm scared it's going to soon be drugs/sex/violence that he lies about.
2007-03-14 05:51:56 · 7 answers · asked by Level Headed Guy 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
To the parents, dont punish him THAT much, otherwise he won't be able to trust you anyway. He'll just think that you'll punish him atoumatically. Let him read this answer (i wanna talk to him): okay, look, this whole lying thing, is not cool. Im 13 too and i know that theres pressure and you want to be allowed to do stuff without having like a lecture. But, try talking to them. Tell them the truth. You'll feel better. Im on honor roll and all that good stuff too, and i have NO idea how ur conscience can handle that. Keep your life straight. If you want to eventually get a girl (who actually CARES about you) and get a great job (with a great pay, might i add) then you need to keep your grades up. plus, hey do you like sports? if u like lie and get suspended and stuff, then you can't do sports. <3peace out cub scout \/
2007-03-14 08:56:34 · answer #1 · answered by i 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That will be a difficult situation for you guys. I would suggest that you take some time away from the everyday life and try to challenge him. Allow him to come up with these outrageous stories and guide him towards a literature, book writing, story telling life. He obviously feels that he must create a story life to hide from his feelings. Allow him to feel confident in himself. If all else has failed, this may be helpful and maybe we have the next great fictional writer in our presence. The last thing you need is him to resent you guys, that will only lead to another road. Good Luck.
2007-03-14 06:02:19 · answer #2 · answered by Eddie B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this would properly be a tough problem for the reason which you do no longer ought to make issues worse than they are. Kim seems to be the inspiration of it- stirring each little thing up. i might only say to Kim's mum that certainly it is not something against your daughter yet we experience that possibly she is getting in touch. If her mum is your pal then she must be attentive to the way you experience and how Mike gets indignant/disillusioned particularly easily. She ought to have the skill to speak to you approximately it as adults. Kim will possibly no longer comprehend she is doing something incorrect, so she desires to be certain that's frightening human beings. Or if she is stirring it up on purpose- then she desires to be put in her place! If her mum argues with you on the undertaking then she will't be a pal. the difficulty ought to strengthen in case you leave it. i in my opinion, may well be on the instant up and confer along with her mum inspite of each little thing its extra good than the administator. she will straight away confer with Kim without every person else getting in touch. only tell her flippantly without being offensive or putting the blame and she or he ought to hearken to if she respects your friendship + hence, your perspectives. choose you all the final. i wish it is going properly
2016-11-25 19:49:54 · answer #3 · answered by lawver 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mother made me brush my teeth with DAWN for five minutes every time I told a lie. Definitely stopped the lying. Part of his lying might also be immaturity due to his age.
2007-03-14 06:00:03 · answer #4 · answered by Ashley 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't pressure him and ask casually sometimes and reinforce it other times about things. If you are worried about him talk to him without any distractions and let him know you are worried about him.
He's just started his teens and will be turning more rebellious, maybe it's puberty, maybe it's just kids acting up.
2007-03-14 08:14:53 · answer #5 · answered by Gracie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make him pay for it and raise the price. first lie, he owes you $2, second lie $4, third lie $8, then $16, $32, and $64. and be consistent. never give in. he'll stop. believe me.
and also, don't let him do anything or go anywhere until he pays you.
2007-03-14 06:01:13 · answer #6 · answered by i totally agree with you!! not 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
At one point when you see he's telling the truth act like you don't believe him and punish him. do that for a while and you will get to him.
2007-03-14 05:57:01 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋