baby fever???

Question

i am 39 years old. i have three children 17, 18, 24 (yes i was young) i also have a foster child 17, a grandchild 15 mo. & 2 stepchildren 10 & 13. the (2) 17 year olds, 18 year old, 13 year old & 10 year old all still live at home. so we do have a full house, but i want a baby sooo bad. my husband thinks i am crazy, but i just can't stop thinking about it. i even dream about it.

am i have some mid-life issue???

Answer 1

I bet holding your grandchild really set you off. I guess you are having a bit of a mid-life issue here - there are these young people having babies and you wonder if you'll have another chance....

Personally, I'd say go for it if you can persuade your husband to support you!!

Answer 2

My mother-in-law is the same way. She is 45, and she has her kids - 24 and 23, both married - two step-kids - 13 and 11 - and we are expecting the first grandchild here in a few weeks. She hates that she and her husband don't have any kids together, and has been trying to convince him to have a baby since they got married almost 2 yrs ago. Her husband wants nothing to do with it, especially now that they are going to be grandparents.

If you can get your husband on board, though, I say go for it! It seems like the baby would be very well loved. Keep in mind though that you'll be almost 60 before the kid is out of the house....you may wish you had some time to yourself between now and then!

Answer 3

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Answer 4

I think that it is pretty common for women who are nearing the end of their ability to have a baby to get "baby fever". You really have to weigh all the pros and cons before you go ahead with it though. For instance, if you have your own, there is a greater chance of birth defects or Down's Syndrome. Also consider that the child could be in college when you want to retire. Rather than having your own, you could consider some alternatives like fostering a younger child, volunteering on the cancer ward in a hospital, or giving a young friend or relative with a baby some free babysitting. Right now you're only remembering the fun and wonderful times of parenting a baby and forgetting the sleepless nights, the poopy diapers, the terror of a 105 degree fever, the worry about all kinds of developmental disorders or autism.

Answer 5

I think you are having some sort of life crisis. You may be thinking about menopause and that scaring you a little. Maybe your daughter/son having a baby has brought this stuff on too. Maybe you should consider becoming foster parents to a baby instead of having one. As I am sure you know there are many of them out there that need good homes, and that way you won't put your body through the physical stresses of having a baby (and higher risks for you and the baby), your baby won't be younger than it's nephew, and you can still care for love and nurture a little soul who needs you. I think you should listen to your husband's wants and needs, and he should listen to your wants and needs too. I think that going with the foster care idea would maybe meet both your needs.

Answer 6

I think all woman go through this when they are approaching 40 and figure that it is now or never. I had this for about 5 years and had such a hard time getting pregnant with my twins and two miscarriages after them that I finally gave up and was ok with not having anymore. I agree about babysitting, I did that and it also helps to cure you of baby fever. Now I am 41 and am a week late on my period but I took a test and it is negative but I can't help but kind of wish that I am pregnant, here I go again. Good luck if your husband is up for it have another one.

Answer 7

I doubt it's a mid-life issue!!

Your husband may say you're crazy, but has he said a rotund "no"???!!! You never know, he may be thinking it's a good idea!

My mum had me at 32, and my little sister at 42, she was a grandma by 49, and I made my sis an aunt at 7!!...

If it's what you want, talk it through, think about it, but there's no reason why not! You're plenty young enough, and just coz you're a grandma and have teenagers and younger living at home, doesn't mean you shouldn't go ahead! Talk to the kids about it, they may love the idea, I did when my mum told me she was pregnant with my sister!!

Good luck!

Answer 8

Luckily I've finally gotten over that. Took about 4 yrs after hubby got fixed.

I think you need to babysit the 15 month old more - just to remember the work that goes into a little one. That's what it took for me - babysitting a neighbors baby - the car seat, stroller, bottles, diapers, and taking all that anywhere you go....

Really made me appreciate that mine were potty trained and only required me to tell them to get dressed so we can go.....

Answer 9

wow! you have a full house =) that is what I would love to have one day ..many blessings!! And if you are wishing to have another baby then you should go for it.. consult your dr make sure you are in good health conditions, and if everything is fine and you are ready then let your husband know time to hit the sack!!! ;) good luck and congrats

Answer 10

Not at all...You seem to love children and if you want a baby, go for it. You seem to be able to care for all the children you have, why not add more love to your home??