Why won't she speak to me?Serious answers only....?

Question

I seem to always disagree with my work colleague,one day we get on fine, the nxt day she is rude and extremely patronising towards me.WHY?? We speak to each 1 day but not another - WHY??

There are other times where we flirt continuously,smiling,stare into each others eyes,emails,body language etc....

Now we don't talk to each other AT ALL. Colleagues say we have a love/hate relationship going on! We only communicate via EMAIL, where we get on really well!

Also, when we're all meant to go out for a drink with colleagues(which she suggested),she ALWAYS pulls out! Why she do this???

WHY can we only communicate via email and not face to face???

p.s she always mentions how I pulled her mate LAST YEAR-why???(her mate don't work wth us!)

Whats this all MEAN if ANYTHING???Advice....

She's got a boyfriend of 2 years-she's said that he won't commit.

She fancy me or have a crush on me?

She's really cold, even if I say hi/morning to her!!!

Answer 1

Ever heard the expression treat them mean keep them keen!
She could just be using you , having you on standby to massage her ego.Imagine how you might be treated if you did get together.Walk away !

Answer 2

I'd say that she is probably having relationship problems with her bf and you happen to be a handy person she can flirt with and make herself still feel desirable. If I were you, I would go up to her and ask if you can have a coffee with her after hours (coffee is always a safe social thing to do versus a "drink"). Let her know that she is sending mixed signals to you and you honestly don't know how to react. If she just wants to be a colleague that's fine........you can take the hint and lay off the flirtations from now on. If she is in the midst of a break up, then let her know you are interested in pursuing a dating relationship ONLY when she has cut off her other romantic relationship with her bf once and for all.

It's not fair to you to be hot and cold like this.

Answer 3

sorrry to say but her heart is two places... one with u an the other with current boyfriend... she is indecisive and cannot commit to either of u... u will only drag your heart against the ground if u continue to be in a relationship w/ her. of course, all that e-mail stuff buoys your romantic feelings toward her, and i say romantic because if u seriously loved her and yourself, u would have let her go a long time ago...
how long do u want to oscillate between a fleeting romance and pained heart... it does u no good thus far, right.... think better of yourself and u will do better in other relationships. build boundaries of respect for yourself, meaning that no one should eat at your integrity or your heart... i'm not sure if u can go cold turkey and break the relationship like that...but u will find a way eventually. oh, do use a condom though if she and u loose the definitions of boundaries. it would do u no good to contend w/ being a father-to-be...

Answer 4

Hhmm, it sounds like she's jealous about the whole kiss you shared with her pal, if she doesn't work there and if it was just a kiss etc then why bring it up? Maybe she likes you but cos of the issues with her bf, she's scared that if she leaves someone who wont commit, then maybes she's worried you'd do the same so takes it out on you cos she feels guilty/embarassed/fed up. What do you want? Do you fancy her or what? If you do fancy her then talk to her, let her know how you feel. If you dont fancy her then ask her why she acts that way with you etc at times but not at others when you dont know what you've done wrong.

Answer 5

you obviously have feelings for this woman who is in a relationship. Men and woman can not be just friends feelings always get in the way by one or both. I think you are right she does like you but you work together not a professional move. When her and her man are fighting she sees you as an out and then she may be conflicted with feelings of guilt and lust. She may even be bipolar either way my advice move on and find a woman who know what she wants not a woman who stays for two years in a unhappy relationship while untrustworthy because of flirting or more with a colleage....Don't put your self threw the ringers get out....I know better though you will not take mine or any ones advice till you are ready this I swear....
Best of luck to you it sound like you might need it

Answer 6

I have a very similar situation with a friend. All I can say is don't take it personally, don't try to get it and do your best to pull yourself out of the day to day stuff. Maybe she's just gonna be one of those people who you have a casual friendship with - but too much involvement means you deal with all her moods/aggression/issues. Some people just don't get how they treat others and worse yet - don't care. People like that have a way of monopolizing your life........wasted time if you ask me!!! GOOD LUCK!

Answer 7

Sounds like the two of you have a very unprofessional work relationship going on. My advice to you would be to stop getting sucked into the mind games she's playing with you and keep the work relationship cool and professional. Look for a girlfriend outside of work.

Answer 8

Hi i think she wants to be with you but is holding on to this other relationship hoping her partner will commit. She,s pulling other guys to make you jealous and ands up jealous herself if you pull. The two of you need to sit down together and have a serious conversation and not "via email". HOPE THIS HELPS.

Answer 9

Sounds like she has a mood disorder or is cranky at best. Moody people can be difficult to get along with as you probably have noticed. Stop being so interested in her and how she talks to you. She may be enjoying how stirred up it makes you when she acts like a jacka55 to you. Be cordial, respectful, etc... but I wouldn't expect anything endearing from her.
Good luck! :)

Answer 10

You ask A LOT of questions about this 'work colleague', you really like her dont you?
I think that if she's playing games with your emotions you should just ignore her she'll come running. Women just love attention so once you dont give it to her she'll crave it if she likes you. If she doesnt then move on.