And I have no problem with this... I love watching porn too. But sometimes I will ask him to have sex with me and he says he doesn't feel like it. So I go to bed, and wake up to use the bathroom and he is watching porn and enjoying it! Should this bother me?
2007-03-14 05:36:36 · 25 answers · asked by Nikki 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
That would bother me. I have no issue with my other half watching porn and I have no problem watching it myself, but if he were to turn me down for sex and then watch porn, it would upset me greatly. In my mind, it would be that he would rather watch porn than have sex with me. Maybe you should talk to him about it and tell him that it bothers you when he does this. Maybe he has a valid reason for doing this.
2007-03-14 05:42:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
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2016-07-17 10:01:57 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh i hear you- i just had a baby- and have been dealing with the same thing. When i was pregnant his excuse was that he couldnt stop thinking about the baby- so we never had sex- now i had the baby and have been bleeding- so we havent had sex- but i stopped bleeding- and the other night we started to fool around and here i am all excited were goign to have sex after like 3 months- but i stopped when it was me doing everything and he totally seemed not interested. Its frustrating- because there are tons of times im in the mood- and instead i wake up in the middle night and he's been looking at porn or i know he does before he goes to work.. or when im downstairs making dinner..
makes me feel completely unattractive and unwanted... both of those are great feelings to have anyways- let alone after you've had a baby and already feel shitty enough about yourself.
so it;s been 4 weeks since i gave birth and i havent so much as even masturbated once- thinking id hold off (you know-- make more build up and the sex would be better) well f*** that-- ive just been too horny and he just doesnt seem interested in me anymore- so masturbation it is!
Sorry i dont have any advice for you... other than tell him it bothers you?
2007-03-14 05:44:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nothing wrong with porn, unless you can get the real thing. Honey you need to try something new because this guy is totally not into you right now. Experiment, try something new. Buy some new lingerie or some toys from the sex shop. Ask your husband if you can tie him up, watch the porn while you work on him. See what kind of porn he's watching, there's a reason he's watching it.
2007-03-14 05:42:44 · answer #4 · answered by tyemetght814 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it should. Most people use porn as a sort of fore-play either before or during an encounter. The fact that he is watching it alone and then not interested in being with you does not seem right. There is also more information needed like what kind of porn is he watching and what are your limits. Is he watching things you will not do ???? Have you talked to him about this ???
2007-03-14 05:56:52 · answer #5 · answered by trick1us 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES, Only you know your situation. If it was me it would be options, I'm not married but feel like it, been in a relationship for 9 years same man. Anyway nothing wrong with watching porn, but your husband is addicted and he don't want to slide love with you "HELLO" either take this man to the side and talk with him let him know how you feel about this "porn" or go out and slide love with the next man. Not telling you to go be no whore but at least go buy yourself a toy if you really want to slide with someone. I can tell you that it sounds like your husband don't find interest in you anymore its the girls on TV he gets off on. Younger women maybe, smaller probably, prettier I don't know. Like I said you know your situation you know whats best for you it will come to you, but something has to be done, because I consider myself a normal person with a normal life and watching porn on a norm is not normal to me anyways I wish you the best of luck and hope that everything between you and your husband work out and you two start back sliding love with each other take care.
2007-03-14 05:58:10 · answer #6 · answered by laverne j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES THIS SHOULD BOTHER YOU! I like watching porn too. More fun to watch it with my wife, but I admit it! I like watching porn! But when your husband chooses porn over sex with his wife? A wife willing to watch porn with him? Then sadly the answer is yes. This should DEFINITELY bother you. Clearly he has a problem. Which means unfortunately, you have a problem too.
2007-03-14 05:55:24 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would need to know a bit more information..but if you are saying that by "enjoying it" he is pleasing himself...well then that is where porn is used sometimes to avoid personal intimacy with a partner...and that would concern me a bit..but if you mean by enjoying it, he is just watching it...that is not a big deal...actually I guess I thought porn was sometimes used to "spice up" the relationship between partners...
2007-03-14 05:51:38 · answer #8 · answered by Suzanne 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay now there is an issue. The porn has become a substitute, and that is wrong. Yes it should bother you. You two have got to sit down and talk. He isn't going to like it, but this is for the health and happiness of the marriage.
Let him know what you are willing to accept and what you aren't. What are your wants and needs and what are his? Do not use accusatory statements, use "I feel" and "I think" statements.
2007-03-14 05:47:18 · answer #9 · answered by Poppet 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I watch porn all of the time, but if he didnt want to have sex with me then started watching porn I would be pissed!!
2007-03-14 05:44:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋