iam 44 & my wifes 30?

Question

i feel iam over the hill & if we had the money for it my wife would be out all the time clubbing it realy gets me down some times i think she would be better of with out me but i love her & the kids so much

Answer 1

Do you know this my husband is 10 years older you are supposed to feel as young as the woman you feel. Think yourself lucky she chose to be with you and stop feeling like your over the hill - she will get bored if you don't try hard to keep up a little!!! Treat her like you just met and everything will work out fine!

Answer 2

Roy, you are very vague. Not much data to go here bud.

With respect to being 44, you are NOT old. I would like to see 44 again....:) Yes, there is a little disparity in your ages, but it is not that dramatic. I know many successful marriages with the same age differences as your's.

How would she be better off without you? Does she love you? Do you have a good relationship? Do you think your kids would be better off without a full time dad? All questions you need to look at and answer sincerely.

Roy, I know some men who are 60 and they could qualify for a right fine stud muffin. So don't worry about your age, you are NOT over the hill yet. Being 44 doesn't mean you have to think or act 44. If you think old, you will be old. If you maintain a youthful attitude....your youth will last longer.

Maybe you need to find some creative ways to put some spark back into your marriage. Creativity doesn't always have to cost a lot of money.

As you well know though, it takes two to make a good marriage or relationship. Both have to want it.

I wish you well Roy and hang in there.

Answer 3

I didn't see a question in there, but assume you'd like some feedback or you wouldn't have posted (remember this is Yahoo! Answers though, so we're supposed to be responding to Questions) ☺

Perhaps it's time for you to see a doc and find out why you think 44 is "over the hill". I'm 42 and I'm FAR from being over the hill. If you feel worn-out and useless then you either need some medical or emotional attention.

I know plenty of people in their 40s and 50s who are more active and vital than some 20-somethings.

Get busy being the person you want to be...and if your wife hasn't expressed a desire to leave you or that you aren't fun anymore, then drop the "better off without me" idea. Be the kind of person you'd enjoy hanging out with!

Answer 4

you r only 44. u r not over the hill. your wife is 30. im sure she loves you very much. so you dont have lots of money who does? do other things together as a family and as a couple, tell her how you feel for start. then suggest that you do a family night for the family maybe once a month or week whatever. whatever you guys choose to do with the kids. be it movies, renting, or watching what you already have. going to the park etc.. then you guys doing something for the two of you alone if it has to be when the kids go to bed because you cant aford a babysitter then so be it. do something that makes you to feel close again and have fun.

Answer 5

Interesting! I'm in a relationship where my boyfriend and I are nine years apart and I love it! He's "been there and done that" and he sometimes feels like he's over the hill, but really, neither of you are. He's your age and I'm 35. Maybe your wife is immature for her age if she feels or you feel she would go out clubbing all of the time. I don't club anymore because that gets old =) Like I said, it depends on her maturity level and what you both really want out of your marriage. I can't imagine being with out the man I'm with now; we don't live together or anything; but will be next year =) Best wishes!!!!

Answer 6

Oh, come on. I'm 35 and my hubby is 44. If your wife would be out clubbing all the time like you said, something would be wrong in your marriage. When you get married, you don't go out as much as you used to, things change. You sound like you are having a pity party for yourself. It's ok, just realize wifey loves you and maybe would should talk with her about your feelings and let her reassure you that you are fine. Even thought you are SO much older. :) Just kidding.

Answer 7

I am 24 and my husband is 35. Sometimes the age difference may cause a argument, but just remember the reason why you fell in love and got married in the first place. Talk to your wife about the way you feel and maybe even go out to the club with her, you are only as old as you feel.

Answer 8

I just turned 31 and my hubby will be 45 in July. Lately I have been hanging out with friends more and as a result drinking a little more. However these are moms of my daughter's friends and we have just really clicked and I truly enjoy spending time with them because our lives are similar. We don't go clubbing but usually to dinner and have a few drinks. I always invite him and sometimes he goes, but more often, does not. Does she have new friends? Before assuming the worst, look at the big picture......there is NOTHING out there that beats the hubby I have, and your wife likely feels the same way!

Answer 9

Sometimes that is the price you pay when you marry someone who is so much younger than you. If you were either closer to her age or you enjoyed going out clubbing as much as she does then it would not be a problem. If she wants to go out all the time especially without you then she should probably be set free. Not a good role model if she is out all the time and not taking care of the kids. If you really love her then you need to think about whether you are willing to accept her going out all the time to the clubs. Good luck.

Answer 10

She sounds a bit immature. At 30, married and a mother, she should be done with the clubbing. You're not over the hill, you are a normal dad. Don't leave her, because then she would be out clubbing, while the kids are with a babysitter.