what would you do if your husband cheated on you?

Answer 1

If he did it once, he crossed that line and would do it again. He would just be more careul that you didn't find out. It would be time to end the relationship.

Answer 2

That all depends upon what you would like to do. You know yourself better than anyone. How do you feel about it? If you are extraordinarily angry and believe that cheating is a forever "trust breaker" and you know that it will diminish your life and close your heart to be with him...well there is your answer. If forgiveness in general is difficult for you then this could be a "deal breaker." Everyone has their own specific limits, and these should not be judged. It is just where their soul is at, and there is no right or wrong.

If you really want to get to the bottom of why, perhaps out of curiosity, perhaps because you love him, and perhaps you think forgivenss is essential, well you have a long journey ahead, but one that could strengthen the bond more, or end it. You would definitely need professional help for this. It will be an emotional, time and financial investment to get to the core of it really. And if you choose this no one should judge you. It is your choice. It is where your soul is at and there is no right or wrong in it.

Answer 3

I have always said that I would leave him but tot ell you the truth I dont know what I would do. We have an 18 month old daughter and I am pregnant again, I think that I would make him leave for a little while anyway. there would have to be some deep thinking and some talking going on. I just hope that it never happens. If it does then it would seem like he didnt care in the first place, and it doesnt matter if they are drunk or not they still know what they are doing!! That is used as an excuse too much.

Answer 4

I always had the same attitude the marriage would be finished untill it happened to me.. We were married 17 yrs when he had the affair and walked out 3 days later he's made a mistake and returned home we talked about everything including her.. We were working the marriage out and all was ticking along nicely till 3 yrs later he walked out door again for same woman he was leading 2 lives and couldn't cope with it, i have since divorced him and would say he's a lot happier and so am i.. No 1 knows how they'd cope or what they'd do till it happens to them only the people involved can make the decisions whether right or wrong at the time..

Answer 5

Unless you have lived through this then your answers are worthless - no-one knows how they will react to this unless they have faced it. All the ''I'd leave him'' comments........very easily said, much more difficult to do. Life is not so black and white.

Everyone can make mistakes - ''once a cheater always a cheater'' is clearly rubbish as people can change. To throw away a long marriage over one mistake (of any description) is ridiculous and shows an enormous lack of understanding and compassion.

Cheating is not right - but it does happen to good people (both cheating and being cheated upon) - if you think otherwise you're a complacent fool (especially the person who says it will never happen).

Answer 6

WOW!! I can not believe how many people who would just leave. That is amazing to me. I love my husband, if he cheated on me it would break my heart. I would be devasted. I would want to know lots of answers. But if he was not in love with this other woman, I would want to find out if our relationship could be saved. What was wrong with him, why he didn't tell me there was a problem. Not that I would stay if he continued to see her, or necessarily stay after we talked, but I would at least TRY. Divorce is the last thing I want to put my children through.

Answer 7

first of all i would have to have solid proof that he really cheated on me. I would more than likely hear his story find out what really happend who he did it with if he really had sex or just made out still cheating is cheating but i would listen to his side of the story. if this is his first time and he had a really good reason. (no reason is good enough to cheat) but if he had a valid point i would probably take him back making him swear to me that he would never do it again. and i would be more cautious. The trust will definatly be gone and he would have to earn that back but if he's done it more than once he will doit again cause he will think he can get away with it. I'd say sit down have a talk with him find out all the details find out how many times he's cheated. if its more than once let him go it wont ever work.

Answer 8

I'm going to keep it REAL because seems like some people aren't!

I wouldn't leave him # 1 he's paying ALL my bills and taking care of what needs to be done , # 2 Hell there is no # 2 He's taking care of home!

I wouldn't have sex with him anymore for fear of STDs, etc. But I definately wouldn't leave!

Depending on the reason why he's out there cheating can also play a factor in my decision to stay or leave.....

Answer 9

I could sit here and write out my feeling on this but misbahavin hit the nail on the head. I always said I would NEVER stay with a cheater and of course my husband NEVER had intentions of cheating. After 12 yrs of marriage it happened. I did not leave or kick him out. We worked on our marriage and are coming through just fine (most of the time). You can always tell someone what you think you would do, but until you are faced with the situation...the truth is...you have no idea what you would do.

Answer 10

so many people say they would leave - and i suppose that would be my first reaction too. but when you think about it, to get married in the first place you should have enough love for someone to understand that they are still only human and can make a mistake. if think if my husband just went out and cheated cause he thought he could get away with it then fair enough, i'd go mad and then leave him, but if we've been having problems and he cheated, but knew he was wrong and tried his hardest to make it up to me, then i think i would try to make it work, because i love him. - but no third chances, he only gets to be sorry for that mistake once, cheat again and dont bother coming home.

Answer 11

Everyone will tell you that they would throw him out and get divorced. That's the first initial reaction to finding out our spouse has cheated. The ultimate betrayal and only reason to get divorced according to the bible.

However, no one can tell another person what to do in a situation like this as there are reasons why some folks stay married and forgiveness is possible.

This is a decision that has to be made by the individual and true family and friends will respect and support (and not judge) any decision you make.

Good luck.