my friend smells how do i tell her?

Question

she sorta has low self esteem so i need a NICE way of telling her so it doesn't hurt her feelings

Answer 1

That's going to be hard since she already has issues about herself... I think a nice way of saying something is maybe you could by her a nice smelling shower gel and lotion and tell her that it makes you have really soft skin but that you have to use it everyday in order for it to work... Now if her hair smells then just get her some shampoo and conditioner and tell her that it makes your hair super soft and shine... Then you wouldn't be telling her that she smells bad but just one girlfriend giving another one some beauty tips... if she smells like BO then you can say that there is a new deodorant that your trying that doesn't irritate your arm pits and ask say that she should try it... I hope that help some....

Answer 2

I guess, "Hey, that fart smells terrific! You should bottle it" isn't the way to go.

Is it due to hygiene? If so, give her a few samples of some scented lotions and say how much you love them... "here, try this one on" and see if she goes for it. Someone had mentioned diet. That is a possibility, but less of one (you smell like garlic, not sweat or dirt).

There is also the dental hygiene problem... bad teeth just reek! If that's the case, descreetly mentioning dental appointments and the like could help. Back in 2001, I was flying out to meet a woman I knew over the net. Yes, she looked like her picture, but one thing she never mentioned was her absolutely HORRIBLE breath. I mentioned during lunch (we were eating a salad) that it was a good thing I had had a recent cavity filled, because I could enjoy Bac-o-bits in my salad again. She responded, "I'm terrified of dentists." We went from there. I talked about how a lot of dentists now used sedation and other methods for those who don't like pain... without coming out and saying, "Sweets, your breath is it's own form of birth control!" We never got past the "friends" stage.

Answer 3

I had a similar friend and I basically asked him how he would tell someone that they had offensive body odor. I spent a few minutes before that building him up, talking about how intelligent he was, etc. He told me that if it was him, he'd want to know. So I told him... "Sorry, but it IS you." He was a little hurt at first, but I reminded him that only a TRUE friend would have told him the truth. We're still very good friends and since then, we have found out that his problem is related to a chemical imbalance. He had to adjust his diet, but his social life has improved greatly.

Answer 4

Why does your friend smell? Is it poor hygene or is it because of her food intake. I know I'll get thumbs down for this but have you ever been around asian ppl that eat lots of garlic and kimchee? They smell but not because of hygene but because of their diet. And even bathing everyday is not going to stop it, its in their sweat. And we all sweat every day no matter what you want to think. If it is poor hygene I agree with the guy that says get her some things from bath and body works {my 2nd most favorite store} and if you cant afford their prices I hear walmart has lotions/bodywash and stuff that smell like b&b but not the price

Answer 5

if you are truly good friends she would understand if you tell her. just say nicely, look you my girl and love you and when something is wrong I'm going to tell you, but you need to work on your hygiene alittle because your smell kind of bad and i don't want anyone to talk about you. I'll help you out if you need me to. She should be cool knowing that as her friend you are there and not making fun or her.

Answer 6

You could start subtle - like maybe recommend a certain deodorant or a new soap or something. If that doesn't work then just tell her straight out - but do it in a way so that she knows you are concerned and not trying to make her feel bad.

Answer 7

Impossible to do without her being hurt. If you want to keep the friend let someone else tell her or she will be offended/embarrassed enough to not want to see you again. Trust me on this.
My sister has no sense of smell and because of it her flat pongs as she never opens the windows, mum and I agonized how to tell her and decided on an anonymous note, but before we could send it her mother-in-law worked up the courage to mention it to her son. He was extremely put out about it, didn't see it as an act of love at all, was highly offended, angry with her and in complete denial. Nothing has changed and so we just bare the smell when we go there....

Answer 8

Tell her nicely, with lots of love, affection & caring in your voice; look her right in the eye & say that she's kinda stinky...but not too bad...mention keeping clothes freshly launderd, daily bathing & recommend a good anti-perspirant/deodorant. THAT'S WHAT GOOD FRIENDS DO FOR EACH OTHER!

Answer 9

Buy her a nice little bath and body kit. Tell you that you were at the store and were thinking of her and was glad that she is your friend so you thought you would buy her a small gift to show her how much you appreciate her friendship.

Answer 10

Just be honest, don't say it in a hurtful way. If you are her friend you definitely need to tell her before someone else does and they may not say it in a nice.