As you guys all know, i am at least 6 weeks pregnant. My fiancee knows and is ecstatic. He has told his family and friends, but i haven't told my family yet because i want to wait until i know for sure that everything is progressing along well. He says he stresses all day long about it, can't sleep and just feels like telling my parents himself because i don't want to tell them yet. He wants to get the possible initial "shock" and "anger" issue out of the way as soon as possible so we can just move on with this. (being that this is my first baby, i don't know how my parents will react, i mean i'm 23 years old, but i'm the baby, so, i dont know!) I told him that i will tell them when i am ready but he mopes around all day and i don't want him like that, what do you guys suggest?
2007-03-14 05:05:11 · 5 answers · asked by ♫Mama of One♫ 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Well, it is your decision, but here are a few things to consider:
1. If your fiance is being a big mopey baby about not spilling the beans right this second, you really need to have a talk with him. Tell him that in order to make your upcoming marriage work and be good parents, you need to support each other's needs and desires. One baby in the house is enough for now.
2. If he's already told people, what are the chances that your parents will find out from the people he's told? If there's even the slightest chance, then I'd recommend telling your parents yourself, so they don't get hurt feelings later on.
3. I know you want to be out of the "danger zone" before you make the mass announcement, but you should also have a support group of close family and friends to talk to about your pregnancy. I miscarried my first pregnancy early on, and while I hadn't told casual friends and acquaintances, I was so glad that my mother and close friends were in the know so that I could lean on them during such as rough time.
Good luck!
2007-03-14 05:18:39 · answer #1 · answered by LadyJag 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know your parents and should be able to tell them when you feel comfortable doing so. If he is your fiancee your obviously going to get married - right? Do you think they will be upset because your not currently married? You are 23 and therefore an adult who has the right to make decisions about your life. We can not always make our parents happy. They might be upset at first but eventually things will cool. They will not be able to help but love this new person. You may find you have more of a support system than you know. Your fiancee is probably afraid of their reaction and that is normal. If he intends to marry you and take care of his child then there is nothing to fear. It will take time for them to see this. Maybe you could set aside a time for both of you to tell your parents together and this could ease his mind. Don't shut him out he is part of this too. It can be scary but I think you can get through it. Best of Luck to you all. If it helps any I was 29 when I got pregnant out of wed lock and had to tell my parents. It was scary but finally telling them took some of the pressure off. I did eventually marry my baby's father and my parents just love their grandchildren.
2007-03-14 05:25:48 · answer #2 · answered by Cindy M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are in love with this man and want to spend the rest of your life with him, then I suggest getting married instead of waiting. After all, you are already engaged, right?
I think people will take the news about the baby better if you are married, I think.
2007-03-14 05:12:24 · answer #3 · answered by EmLa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your parents! It's not hard to do. They are bound to notice something when they see a big belly, don't you think? What can it hurt to tell them and make your fiance happy?
2007-03-14 05:20:28 · answer #4 · answered by Caelan's mom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him time does march on and they will be told...In the meantime he needs something to occupy his time
2007-03-14 05:13:20 · answer #5 · answered by Patches6 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋