How to not ruin someones wedding before it happens?

Question

I am 22 yrs old i just graduated from college and have been married for only 4 months.My marriage is having a lot of problems because many things were not brought up till after our marriage even though we dated 2.5 yrs. I have a 4 yr old son from a prior realationship but my hubby never asked much about the past so i thought it did not matter.I also choose never to tell anyone who my sons bio-dad was to avoid drama.While at wedding run-through for one of my hubbys old friends from high school the groom turned out to be my sons bio-dad.It was a shock for me but i told this private info to my hubby who got angry.During a pre-wedding dinner my hubby got drunk and during a fight with me outside his friends mom heard everything .What are the odds his mom or my hubby says something?

My son was made after my ex.bf and i broke up.He was dating his current gf soon to be wife at the time when we had the fling.I was not planning on saying anything at all?

Answer 1

Talk about wrong place, at the wrong time. I'm sorry this happened to you, but there little or no chance that this won't come up. Just brace yourself for the storm and hug your son, because I'm sure he's worth all that you're possibly about to face. You didn't do anything wrong and if your hubby loves you, he will try to avoid any drama, but male insecurity and jealousy are hard to deal with, so if you love him, reassure him a lot about your love for him.

Answer 2

THIS IS SOMETHING IN YOUR PAST AND YOUR SON IS HERE NOW AND THIS MAN YOU MARRIED HAS KNOW RIGHT TO FIGHT WITH YOU AND I HOPE HE DON'T TAKE IT OUT ON YOUR SON. AND IF HE START ACTING MEAN TO YOUR SON, I BAG YOU DON'T PUT YOUR SON THOUGH THAT LET YOUR SON HAVE A GOOD CHILD HOOD AND YOUR SON NEEDS TO FEEL SELF WITH THE MAN YOUR WITH. YOU MIGHT BE THINKING HE WON'T HURT HIM,MAYBE NOT PHYSICAL BUT BY HIS ATTITUDES AND BEHAVIOR AND HERSH WORDS TO YOUR SON. LOOK OUT FOR IT. AND YOUR HUSBAND NOW NEEDS TO LET YOUR PAST GO TO HAVE A HEATH-LY MARRIAGE. YOUR STILL YOUNG DON'T WASTE YOUR LIFE WITH SOMEONE WHO GOING TO BE FIGHTING WITH YOU OVER WHO YOUR SON DAD IS. TRUST ME IF HE DOING THIS NOW AND KEEPS DOING IT, YOUR HARMING YOUR SON.DO THE RIGHT THING.