Should i just give up on my boyfriend?

Question

hey, well i been asking questions about my life on yahoo ask, and asking my friends in my life the same questions and always got the same answer.. this is really bring me down. its like everyone is right and im wrong. they want me to give up on my boyfriend who i love so much, it makes me wanna cry. but things are just getting worst.. he lives so far, and is about 4 years older than me. (college guy) yes its probably agaisnt the law. and i should find someone local. but how easy is it to let go some one you love so dear? i tired breaking up with him. telling him i should focus on school, but i knew i didnt want to let him go. he refuse to let me set him free. he really loves me. he never cheated in his life. i can trusth him completly. but everyone is telling me to let him go.. should i just let him go? and if so how? has anyone let someone go that they loved an regreted it? im i doing the right thing of giving in and just saying good bye? is it the right thing to do? doesnt love mean

anything any more?

what if is the prefect guy for me? and cant find anyone like him? i left my ex for him. i didnt see a future with my ex. but i do with my current boyfriend. will i regret this later in life?

i know im not lusting him, because there are other guys i could have at my school and there are girls at his school he could have but we known eachother for so long, and grew to love eachother. if let this love guy can i find new love? im afraid of living alone when i grow up with thousands of cats complaining about not having some that loves me..

Answer 1

If there is a strong love between you two then you should keep it. True love doesn't come along too often in life so when you have it & when you feel like you have a future you should take it.

Long distance relationships are incredibly difficult, but both people can agree to the commitment to each other. Personally, i am in a long distance relationship with my fiancee. We've been together for 4 years, and she lives in Brasil. I live in South Florida. It's an incredibly difficult thing, but I love her with all of my heart & it's totally worth it. I'm lucky to have the support of my family & friends, but even if I didn't have their support I would continue with her because i love her too much.

If you both really love each other & do not want to split then stay together! Do not listen to what everyone says you should do. Only YOU know what is right for you. Talk with him... make some plans to be together. If you really want a future with him the distance won't work & may start to cause problems if it comes between you for too long. So you should get some plans going for you two to be together.

Just because he's far away that does not mean that you can't make it work. As long as there is mutual love you can hold on.

Best of luck to you!

Answer 2

Sounds like you're going to keep asking this question until you hear the answer you want. Sorry, but it doesn't work that way. You already know that you should give him up, so just do it. It will hurt for a time, but that will pass. You need to find someone your own age, and enjoy your life. You're young, and will have many boyfriends before you're ready to settle down. Don't keep yourself in a loose, loose situation! Many years ago, I had to make that difficult decision, and I did what I knew was right; never had any regrets. Get on with the rest of your life, today!

Answer 3

My first impression is that you respect one another and like one another a great deal. If he is 18 and you are 13.5 or 14 well you know folks are going to say something. There is developmentally speaking a real gap in terms of life experience etc. You know maybe you are in your first year of high school or less and here he is the college man. That probably concerns folks regardless of how kind and nice he is. People will always have opinions. It seems regardless of what others say, and perhaps what your brain says, your heart is ruling the day so you keep cycling back to him. I would avoid the drama and pain of resisting this. Who is to say what love is and isn't? As long as you are not being verbally, mentally or physically abused...and are loved dearly continue to go with that love...see where it takes you. Love in the purest form which to me is kindness, respect and joy comes along rarely in life. Hold on to it.

Answer 4

I do not think you should give up on him, i'm 18 years old an the guy i'm with and love more than anything is about to be 25..and when i was in highschool i was with a 26 year old who also had my heart...age doesnt matter and neither does distance because if you love him as much as it sounds like you do your never gonna forget about him and you'd always regret it....and life is way to short to have regrets!!!!Hope this helps

Answer 5

if you are still in highschool and stressing about this then there is your answer. He and you both will get over it. Let him go.you have your entire life ahead of you to find someone. seriously focus on family and school. After you graduate and get a real job, you will start hanging out with new people and more mature at that. You will find someone I promise. dont worry about it. let him go and date. dont sleep with anyone. just date. you will see that there is a ton of people out there wanting to be around you. have some fun. I am

Answer 6

You are too young to be tied down. You should be out having fun and learning about people. Dating helps you find out about the different qualities in people and you need that. Someday you will regret not having more fun when you were young.
And there is something wrong with a guy in college dating a young kid.

Answer 7

Do what you want. If he treats you right then stay with him. He is college and there is a four year age difference you said so you should be almost at the legal age. Its not like he is old enough to be your dad. 4 years isn't that bad. You have to do what makes you happy. Not anyone else.. Good luck!

Answer 8

You have not lived life yet. You should never settle down before you are 21. Your life changes and there are no restrictions. You are young and dumb which is a scarey situation. He doesn't not want to break up with you because you are distant safety poon. You should go to his college and go out with him. He will not let you because he will be hidding his true life.

Answer 9

First of all, there is a difference between love and lust - at your age I would argue whether it truly is love. Seems more of a crush to me.

If you love him, set him free... grow up a little... if he comes back to you then, after focusing on school. THEN you know that it's love.

Patience, and close proximity will tell you it's true.

Answer 10

Okay well you have to do what YOU feel is right. If you want me to be candid with you, NEVER take advice from your friends, in my past experiences(especially if they are single) they will tell you what THEY want you to do. You can ask for advice but you have to make this choice. If distance is a problem, break it off for now. If its meant to be, it will be. Good luck.