This is a sad situation...we are at a funeral....Now I knew the?

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deceased husband, but "barely"knew her...anyway, he died young of cancer...when we were at the gravesite....his wife was up near the casket...I was just watching...anyway..i just mentioned..."I wonder where her Mom is?"...this woman came up to me. I did NOT KNOW WHO SHE WAS...and said.."this NO TIME FOR CRITICISM.!.....i was SHOCKED!!!..My friends said i should have said something to her..HONESTLY, I DID NOT HAVE ANY INTENTION TO CRITICIZE...what could i have said, before i just walked away!!...some people!!!

Answer 1

The best thing is to say nothing and let it go. Different people handle grief in different ways. Perhaps this woman was a very good friend of the widow, or a relative. Yes, she was out of bounds, but, as anyone who has been through the process can tell you, sometimes people say the oddest things at or after a funeral. I think it's because folks just don't know what to say, so they just say something, ANYthing, to fill that empty space, or, as in your case, take out their frustration on someone else.

I'll never forget how, after my mother's funeral, a childhood friend approached me to tell me about her husband's new job at the firm where my father had worked for years and wondered if my Dad could introduce him to the important clients and show him the ropes. I thought, "Pardon me... but this man's wife of 39.8 years just died.. and you want him to do WHAT?"

Answer 2

actually, that was quite impolite especially at the gravesite so i can understand her saying that to you. your intentions were not that bad but when people are in a state of grieving, nothing is really important at that moment. take that into consideration and feel free to apologize to the wife when you have a chance

Answer 3

Just let it go
They will all get over it

Answer 4

You could have said, "I'm sorry, but I'm looking for the mother to extend my deepest sympathies to her as well"........