It seems that women value marriage more than men do. Why is that so?
2007-03-14 04:45:38 · 45 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
After reading some answers, I am confused about one thing: what is the difference between marriage and wedding? in India we use the words synonymously. And to those who doubt why I am asking this question: I am just curious. I think I should get married (I am almost 30 now) without much delay but I really do not understand minds of women, this is really a confusing issue for me.
2007-03-14 06:00:03 · update #1
I disagree. I know plenty of men that have been burned by their wife. One of my friend's was doing everything he knew to do to keep his family together and happy, and one day the wife decided to sleep with someone else because she said she had always dreamed of being with a man that handsome. Well, even though SHE committed adultery and it was even proved in court, my friend still have to give her HALF, and she was a stay at home mom. Talk about NO justice.
2007-03-14 04:49:07 · answer #1 · answered by It's Me 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
While mostly true, there are quite a few cases where the men are more enthusiastic than the women about marriage. The idea of an inseparable union is what attracts most women to marriage, and that minority of men as well. Men tend to be more practical about it, which is why men show hesitation or downright fear when the matter of marriage comes up. The fantasy, in either case, is that once married, things will be better for the relationship. Statistics and life-experience have shown me that these unions don't tend to last. Any problems in a relationship before marriage will just be amplified, and a crop of new problems are bound to rear their ugly heads. From what I've seen, you must be able to effectively address and resolve problems through compromise, and both parties must be willing to do so, or generally at least one person in the marriage will be unhappy- hence they fail.
That's my two cents for ya.
2007-03-14 05:00:02 · answer #2 · answered by dontsmokecrackorshootthatsmack 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I think women generally speaking are enthusiastic about weddings, but not marriage.
Look at the stats. The wedding industry targets women as customers.
However, when it comes to looking at who ends the marriage, in 2/3rds of all divorces filed, it was a woman seeking the divorce.
These are not all unfaithful, abusive men. Many divorces are filed by unfaithful women.
So, given that women file the majority of divorces, I'm not convinced that women are more enthusiastic about marriage. They seem to want to end marriages in greater number than men, so how can one say women are enthusiastic about marriage?
2007-03-14 05:10:09 · answer #3 · answered by camys_daddy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it is true. Perhaps women are generally ready for marriage at an earlier age than men...young men seem to look at it as something that limits their freedom. But most men I know who are in their 30's or above value marriage as much as women. That doesn't mean they're always capable of making a success of marriage. But a good many women aren't very good at that either.
2007-03-14 04:47:31 · answer #4 · answered by MOM KNOWS EVERYTHING 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have no real knowledge or experience, but as far as I have read, women define their life's worth on the basis of their relationships-while men do so with career/money. Of course, this is a massive generalisation, but it would answer the question you asked-marriage is THE relationship,living with the same person forever, so I guess that may be the reason. Besides, all things being equal, in a marriage, it's the women who can control the man easily! So that could be another reason-hahaha.
2007-03-14 05:23:12 · answer #5 · answered by Seven 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's because women are about to enter a new completely different world. For men, they would still be living in the same environment.
Secondly, women understand, how different their life is gonna be after marriage, men don't. It comes as package of surprise to men who think that they know it all.
About your confusion, I hated the term marriage. But once I got into it, I find myself to be the happiest person in the world.
All the best...
:-)
2007-03-14 09:04:32 · answer #6 · answered by plato's ghost 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of women select the wrong type of man. For a marriage to work both people must be fully invested in marriage. If you marry a "family man" you will find that you are equally enthusiastic about marriage. If you find a more selfish, self absorbed man or a needy man or a womanizing man you, indeed will find little enthusiasm.
2007-03-14 04:52:26 · answer #7 · answered by Jacob W 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
i think it's true that women are more enthusiastic about marriage than men... because they are more romantic.. they know who they want to be with for the rest of their live and they want to secure a position as a "wife" by marriage. also, they want to settle down for a family of their own. =)
2007-03-14 04:50:16 · answer #8 · answered by jv637 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Men value marriage too. But, when we are not ready for marriage all we can think about is sex. From my experience, the guy has to be 25 or 30 years old before they realize that there is more to life than sex. Hopefully, you find value in marriage before you get married. Before you get married, find out what it is that you value and want out of a relationship. Be realistic, and discover who you are first.
2007-03-14 04:52:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's because women think on a more emotional level than men. We're just wired that way, you know? If the man is a gentleman and has his head on straight; he'll think marriage is important and very much valued =)
2007-03-14 05:05:17 · answer #10 · answered by suzlaa1971 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋