my older brother jason (19) and i (17) are really close. we're like best friends. when we go to the mall together (or anywhere for that matter) he puts his arm around me or we hold hands (there is nothing sexual going on for all of you who have wondering minds). my friends/kids from school always think he's my boyfriend, and i didn't mind at first, but now it's really starting to bug me. i don't want to wreck my friendship with my brother. what can i do?
2007-03-14 04:40:02 · 26 answers · asked by I'm 17 and ME!!!!!! 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
There may be nothing sexual going on but I do thing it's kind of creepy to be holding hands with your brother at the mall. Putting is arms around you when you are in public is also a signal that you're 'his girl' and that is creepy too. I'd stop him from doing that. Don't let him kiss you on the lips either!
2007-03-17 19:30:40 · answer #1 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what -- I have two brothers that I am really close to. I thought it was fun! We are still the best of friends and we are all in our 30's. We hug and kiss and it's a-okay!!! I have a brother who's birthday is the day after mine (2 years apart) but we were always with one another and looked a lot like one another so we often told people that we were twins. My other brother and I are really close too -- we would actually tell people we were BF/GF just so people who were hitting on us would stop!! That was always a good laugh!!!
Don't mind what the others think. You know what's going on and that's what counts. I know it's hard when they start making derogatory statements and you feel it necessary to defend yourself but stay strong. Why not hold hands less in public to avoid harsh comments. Not saying to stop completely but do it less. I'm sure your brother won't mind, especially if you tell him that some people have been hurting your feelings and instead of subjecting yourself to the hurtful comments you have decided to avoid the situation in whole and hold his hand less. Tell him that it doesn't change how much you care for him but it's getting harder and harder to have to defend your affection. He'll understand. If you two are so close, he'll understand!!
My only other suggestion is to never quit telling your brother how much he means to you and what his friendship means to you as well. It's great when siblings are the best of friends too. Makes for a great childhood and a wonderful adulthood. Keep it up and hang in there!
2007-03-14 04:53:10 · answer #2 · answered by momto3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just stop holding hands so much, that's too affectionate. I don't see anything with hugging your brother in the mall, but prolonged hugging is a sure sign that you're taken. Since you're 17, I guess you didn't realize this. You'll just have to keep the affection short, instead of long. Like hug, but quickly. Really, if you saw a boy and girl holding hands while walking in the mall, you'd think the same thing.
2007-03-14 04:46:04 · answer #3 · answered by downinmn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest you stop with the close contact for starters, your giving a lot of people the wrong idea. You can still be close and hang out but the contact should be kept to the absolute minimum.
Growing up my brother would drive us to school, everyone thought we were dating. It was kinda cool but weird too, that's probably why the great guys just stayed away. We were and still are also close but showing affection was and still is, never shown that often. We both know we love each other but the contact is not all that necessary.
2007-03-14 05:00:26 · answer #4 · answered by trojan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl don't let what others think influence your relationship with your brother. It is wonderful that you have such a great relationship with your brother, I have two brothers and we dont have a very good relationship. Count your blessings and continue to grow and bond, your siblings will be there for you when everyone else is letting you down or stepping all over you.
Remember:
Those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind.
2007-03-14 07:20:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You hold hands...that's a little weird. My brother and I used to go to a church for single people together. I didn't find out until later that a lot of people thought we were dating, and that's why I wasn't getting any dates. My husband finally asked his sister about me and she told him we were brother and sister, then he (my husband not my brother) asked me out and eventually we got married. Anyway, maybe you should get t-shirts you can wear when you are together that say you are brother and sister? Or maybe you should stop getting so close together in public?
2007-03-14 04:45:37 · answer #6 · answered by mommyem 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it fairly is a threat, yet you won't be able to be effective. it ought to've been some thing else or he ought to've only replaced on his own. whether it bothers you i would not confront him approximately it if he can not even cope with human beings speaking approximately comparable concerns. From journey, it sounds probably that some thing did take place. you won't be able to alter a guy or woman back inspite of the indisputable fact that, time has to try this. only attempt to no longer communicate approximately issues that make him uncomfortable. it ought to help too in case you do issues with him that are relaxing and could save him busy... I ought to try this with my boyfriend in the different case he's plenty distinctive and fairly depressing to be with.
2016-09-30 22:07:51 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who cares wot anyone else thinks. It's wonderful that you and your brother are so close. I never had any siblings growing up and would've given anything to have that kind of kinship with someone. You guys know the truth, that's all that matters.
2007-03-14 04:42:28 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I used to be close to my cousin like that and everyone thaught were were dating just let people kno hes your brother... & who really cares wht everyone elce thinks so whatur close to ur family thts a good thing
2007-03-14 06:22:56 · answer #9 · answered by lilash 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is so coincedental..... myself and my brother (he is 23 I am 21) are very close to .....when it comes down to it there aren't any best friends like your siblings! so what i suggest is this: whoever may ask about your brother just simply say "I don't understand why everyone keeps asking if MY BROTHER is my boyfriend? i just don't get why everyone thinks that just because we are best friends like we are....maybe you and everyone else are jealous because you don't have a friendship like me and my brother do"
2007-03-14 04:46:08 · answer #10 · answered by Sam Fisher 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋