For the last week my husband doesn't act like he wants to be around me or his kids. He use to call on and off every hour of the day because his a driver where he works and send me sweet text messages. Lately he may call 5 times a day maybe 1 or 2 texts saying I love you! He always finds a excuse to leave every night when he gets home from work. He's been trying his best to get a new car for some reason. An he texts me and says he wants me but when he gets home he's to tired or to full from eating. Is he cheating on me? How can I find out?
2007-03-14 04:28:54 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He only calls 5 times a day? Oh no!
As for the rest of it, sudden drastic changes in behavior are a sign that something is up. It may not be cheating, but it means something has changed. It's not necessarily bad, but it warrants investigation.
If you can't find out yourself hire a PI.
2007-03-14 04:31:19 · answer #1 · answered by Disco Stu 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should ask him point blank. It sounds like he's having a mid-life crisis. He may not be cheating in the classic sense but if he's gone a lot he's cheating you and your children of his time. I never call my wife more than once a day unless there is a very pressing matter, so his 5 times seems a lot to me. The only sign of possible cheating is going out every night. Some guys spend time with their male friends and some just want to get away from the family after a hard day at work. Tell him you want to go out with him the next time he says he's going out.
2007-03-14 12:04:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband is a driver too. I get the am too tired a lot. I started having to matters into my own hand. He never seem to tried then. I don't think he is cheating. Drive takes a lot our of a person. My husband has been driving for 5 years now and he still get really tired from driving 9 hours a day.
2007-03-14 11:37:28 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What are his excuses for leaving each night? If he doesn't have a second job, then it sounds pretty suspicious to me. Ask him right out, what's going on. That you notice his behavior has changed and you're worried that something big is going on. Ask if there is something you can do to help. Maybe he is under some stress that he has not communicated to you. Maybe he is going through mid life crises, and not necessarily having an affair. He might be afraid of losing his "youth". Some men might compensate by dressing "younger", buying sports cars, or returning to the bar scheme. Talk it out and get informed.
Good luck.
2007-03-14 11:37:14 · answer #4 · answered by Lidya D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best way to find out, ask him. I would say you and he have good communication, with all the calls and texts, so talk to him. good chance he is tired after a long day at work. He might be leaving to work a second job, or something. Just need to talk to him. good luck
2007-03-14 11:36:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well - I think he's just preoccupied with something.
Maybe not someone - ask him where he's going when he goes out. Invite yourself or the kids or hire a sitter.
If he acts all freaky just say "WHAT THE HECK".
Sounds like he's just being a guy and thinking about other stuff - and my man still calls me up to 3-5 times a day and we're married 14 years. Just life stuff or kid stuff or we really do love one another. ;O)
2007-03-14 11:34:52 · answer #6 · answered by kelly e 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give him the benefit of the doubt maybe he is to tired. But, if you feel as though he is cheating and want to find out just sit back and wait you will find out eventually. Don't go following him because he will be very upset with you. Not because you found out but, because he got caught.
2007-03-14 11:36:07 · answer #7 · answered by shay 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're just probaly in a lull. But, calling 5 times a day and texting would be a lot to me.
2007-03-14 11:33:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think your worrying for nothing, i dont think he is cheating and is probably tired from working all day.
try to find a time once a week just for you and him without the kids and go to the movies or to dinner. have some alone time and make it special.
2007-03-14 11:33:49 · answer #9 · answered by vanessaoz 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ASK HIM. calling and texting that much a day seems overboard to me. but ehatever works for you 2. instead of worrying about the possiblities, ask him directly. he could be stressed, tired, sick, or any number of things that arent as dramatic as what you fear.
2007-03-14 12:59:55 · answer #10 · answered by Donna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋