I get an invitation from a friend of mine to a "surprise" house warming party she's having for a friend of hers. I have met this friend of hers maybe 3-4 times. From what I gather her friend is a mid thirty some year old divorced single mother. Anyhow, her friend was living with her parents and now just bought a house. I get an email this morning from my friend saying FYI she's registered at Target! How tacky is this?? I don't intend on going because frankly #1 I don't have the extra cash right now to buy a gift for someone I really don't know, and #2 it's on Easter weekend.
I haven't been this irritated since my cousin who got married for the second time registered for wedding gifts that were really furnishings for her son's (from her 1st marriage) bedroom, ie bean bag chair,sheets for a twin bed etc.
Is it just me? Is this normal now a days?
2007-03-14 04:23:12 · 11 answers · asked by honeybaby729 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I'm sorry but the whole thing sounds like a set-up. First off, no one has housewarming surprise parties. That's sort of an oxymoron. Second, the fact that this women felt it appropriate to register, just shows that she's in it for the gifts. Not to mention that she is having someone else invite people, she obviously doesn't know that well.
I say no way, don't go, and don't buy a gift. I would even write the person who sent me the email telling them how ridiculous the invitiation and requests were. They should know how ludicrous the whole thing is.
2007-03-14 04:35:16 · answer #1 · answered by Queenelizabeth79 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's not tacky that she told you where she was registered since a lot of people do that nowadays. But I can understand why you wouldn't want to buy a gift for someone you barely even know, when you don't have the extra $$ and it's on Easter weekend. I would just RSVP your friend who is giving the party and say, Much as I would like to come, I have to respectfully decline the invite. My family has made plans for Easter weekend, so I won't be able to make it. After the party is over say a week or so later, you can buy the lady a small houseplant or something and give it to her personally saying, I'm sorry I wasn't able to make it to the party, but here's a lovely plant for your new home. Come to think of it, after reading the previous post, how do you register for something that is supposed to be a "surprise"? Sounds kinda fishy to me, I wouldn't buy her anything.
2007-03-14 11:30:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get your friend a book on etiquette for her next birthday and tell her it's a great read. Don't feel bad about blowing off the party, seriously who does that? Registering for gifts because you messed up and have to start you r life over?
Stick to our guns girl!
2007-03-14 11:34:19 · answer #3 · answered by . 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if it is tacky. However, why would your friend assume that you would want to attend a housewarming party for her friend. Just because the two of you have a mutual friend doesn't automatically make her your friend.
2007-03-14 11:28:14 · answer #4 · answered by mark my words 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey someone may fall for it...and she gets lots of free stuff. But then we accept unmarried people living together, babies born outside of wedlock, the term "single parent" to describe a divorcee or unwed mother. Why not this?
2007-03-14 11:31:41 · answer #5 · answered by lily 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
registering for a housewarming??? how do you have a "surprise" then?
what a gift hound
it is tacky and don't go or give a gift
2007-03-14 11:28:36 · answer #6 · answered by ann s 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its becoming "normal"... but to me, its tacky.
What i do is i just dont go, dont get a gift and just say "I couldnt go" if they ask. No details about why i couldnt go, that's my business and not theirs.
Dont feel bad or angry...just ignore. Just like they're not ashamed to do something so tacky, you dont have to feel ashamed or bad for ignoring their "tackyness".
2007-03-14 11:53:37 · answer #7 · answered by Java Chip 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who knows what their thought process behind it was. I say, send a short note with your best regards and a package of LIGHT BULBS!! :) Those are cheap, everyone uses them, and you might get your point across without having to say a word.
2007-03-14 12:24:12 · answer #8 · answered by bubblingbroo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Calm down killer. I dont think ANYTHING isnt normal these days... Whats normal to one, probably would NEVER be normal to another... so NOTHING is normal. I think it was pretty tacky, but maybe she is relying on her own friends to help her other friend out. Its clevar, but it probably wont work.
2007-03-14 11:26:55 · answer #9 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's very tacky and crass
2007-03-14 11:26:25 · answer #10 · answered by Experto Credo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋