I don't believe in abortions, and I wouldn't want to give the baby up, I don't know what to do!
2007-03-14 03:55:49 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
it's not that i didn't ever want to get preggers again, it's just my life has made an ugly turn ...and i don't know if i can handle another one. problems with the father.
2007-03-14 04:05:20 · update #1
Wow. What brutal answers you are getting. Sometimes things get hard and sometimes things seem like they are only getting worse. You are going through a very stressful time and your hormones are not helping. Just take it one day at a time. Right now things may be bad but you have 9 months to get things right for this little one. You can tell by your answer that you want the baby. You can do it. I believe in you... now you should too!
2007-03-14 04:10:48 · answer #1 · answered by Mrs. Always Right 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I felt the same way about my 2nd child too, but for me it was a lifestyle change b/c we were getting married and my heart was set on marrying someone else when I never even dated the other guy! I think a lot of it is just nerves and the knowing that you're going to have to be responsible for yet another life! Even tho' you're having problems w/ the father, understand that this child didn't ask to be brought into this world, but was given to you as a gift and there's a reason for his/her upcoming existance. You may be surprised in that this 2nd child may give you the strength and courage to make whatever decision is necessary in dealing w/ the father. Hopefully you have friends and/or family that will help you in their emotional support of this trying time in your life. Consult your ob/gyn and tell him/her what's going on in your life and they'll help you figure out what the next step should be. They can put you in contact w/ a family counselor and from there you'll be able to work out your own problems and maybe even get the baby's father involved in the counseling process. If you continue w/ the pregnancy, just be aware that this stress that you're dealing w/ during your pregnancy may overflow into post-partum depression after the baby is born. I tried to deal w/ my stress on my own and when my son was born I wanted absolutely nothing to do w/ him. I sat in the dr's office and cried b/c I told her that I felt that I hated my baby, but I knew it was just my head saying that and not my heart. She prescribed me Prozac and after a month, I was back to normal. Hope everything works out for the best and good luck w/ whatever decision you make!
2007-03-14 04:20:08 · answer #2 · answered by sweet libra 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, I think you answered you're own question because ina situation like this you only have three options; abortion (which I am not in favour of), adoption and having the baby and giving your best to support this child and the older sibling. You cannot fault the child because your relationship did not work out, every child is a blessing and deserves to be treated with love and affection. If you really do not think you can provide this for the child (I don't see why not) your best alternative is to give him/her up for adoption because there a countless couples out there whi would love to have children but cannot. I have a friend who is 23years of age and has three children ages 3, 1yr 9mths and 8mths and I admire her devotion to these children so much because she has no help. She works to support them and does her best to give them a normal life despite any shortcomings and because of this determination to do the best for her children there are alot of persons that are willing to assist her. Your children is what you should look forward to not the promises of society or a man or anyone. Have faith in God and do your best and everything will work out.
2007-03-14 04:58:28 · answer #3 · answered by redz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to your doctor or a counselor . to help you come to a decision.you need to decide you don't believe in abortion and you don't want to give the baby up .so that doesn't leave you with any more options than to raise the baby.If you honestly do not want this baby and it was me i would carry the baby to term and give the baby up for adoption to a couple that can't have children.u could have an open adoption and get photos and updates how the baby is doing...A baby is a blessing and i wouldn't change my children for anything in the world even though i have been doing it on my own...Good luck.ask your family for support or a close friend..
2007-03-14 04:08:36 · answer #4 · answered by angie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not even consider having an abortion. I think this is something you really need to ask yourself what is best for you, your child, and your unborn child. Give it some time. You could always have an open adoption. You would still be a part of your child's life but also giving them a loving family that may not be able to have children. Many people (like myself) sometimes take for granted how lucky they are to be able to carry children. Just give it time and decide what is best for all. Good luck!
2007-03-14 04:12:01 · answer #5 · answered by Mommy of Two 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well all I can say is you should have thought about that before you put yourself in that kind of situation you don't want to get an abortion (which I can totally understand) and you don't want to give the baby up for adoption so what are your other options my advice is to keep the baby and make the best out of a bad situation.
2007-03-14 04:52:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there a pregnancy crisis centre in the area where you live?
Give them a call and talk to one of the counsellors there. They can help you and support you no matter the decision you make. And when the baby is born if you choose to keep it they can help put you in touch with support groups to help you with the newborn.
Also depending on what the situation with the father is maybe you can discuss it with him and suggest relationship counselling to either repair the relationship or to make the split friendly and mature so that when this baby arrives the two of you will be friends enough to be able to raise both children together.
2007-03-14 04:28:57 · answer #7 · answered by Donnertagskind 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You realize that everything happens for a reason. And that even though you may not see any good coming from this that the moment you look at that baby you'll be thankful you saw it through. Life gets hard sometimes but often you find that the hardest times were the ones you learned the most from and wouldn't go back and change. Good luck:)
2007-03-14 04:02:59 · answer #8 · answered by leahpar77 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not believing that you should give the baby away sound noble, but still... Does the baby deserves to grow up in that kind of environment?
And I bet that the baby is not the only problem. There are things that you need to work out with yourself.
I mean for some reason you put yourself in that place that you obviously don't like. Why?
What makes you the victim of your own life?
And why procreating even more victims, seems like the moral answer?
If you don't know how to protect yourself from life itself how do you expect to teach that to your children?
2007-03-14 04:09:42 · answer #9 · answered by Elena E 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hugs....
I cried SO hard when I found I was pregnant with my 4th. At the time I had a 4 month old, a 19 month old and a 6 yr old. (no probs between me and hubby except 2nd time bc failed on us).
Kept that baby - he's 7 now. Want to kick myself for crying about him. Cannot imagine life without him....he's my baby. He's 7 now ----but my heart.
You WILL be fine. Even if you're not religous - I'll pray for you - and He will make sure things turn out right.
2007-03-14 04:11:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋