since your divorce...loss of wholeness...missing the family unity...outings...togetherness...feeling like buried above ground...even missing the realtionship with the ex as stressful as it became...missing all the good things between us and our son...sharing all of that when it was good...realizing past mistakes...no cheating, drugs or violence...more neglect yet still deep love then...feeling it all loss since the divorce...4 years ago...what is one to do to get out of this state of being buried above ground? knowing all of this...
2007-03-14 03:53:05 · 5 answers · asked by RealEYES 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You should be over it after 4 yrs. I would suggest counsel ling, a divorce takes it toll on ppl. Whether they admit it or not. this is really true if you didn't cause the break up. I went to a divorce recovery group and they had us draw what we were feeling. Do you know what I drew, well of course you don't, I drew a big question mark, and as I told them that's what I felt inside was a big question mark. Why did my ex get a boyfriend? why did she destroy our family? Why did she get our 2 wonderful son's?
You know what the answer was? neither do I, only her and god know and neither ones talkin. The point is you have to move on regardless of the who,what, when, where, I did and I'm now a newlywed of almost 12yrs. ya know she the last love I'll ever have
Hope this helps
2007-03-14 04:05:10 · answer #1 · answered by walker9842 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is time to get involved. You have to replace all this good stuff with something else that makes you feel good.
perhaps applying to be a big brother or volunteer at a youth home or centre.
You need to be around kinds. Do you do sports???
maybe they are looking for a softball or hardball coach, football coach or assistant.
There are lots of association out there crying for volunteers.
You will be meeting new kids, new parents and a whole new set of people just like you....
Give of yourself to others freely and you will receive 10 times back.
get involved and get yourself out of this slump.
Start with baby steps all the rest will follow.
2007-03-14 11:01:46 · answer #2 · answered by doclakewrite 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are dwelling on the past because it's what you knew and what was familiar to you. You need to find new things to do in your life and different people to be around, preferably people that are happy and positive. You have to force your memory and your heart to let go, maybe through meditation. Just tell yourself it wasn't a good situation, and you deserve happiness.
2007-03-14 10:58:06 · answer #3 · answered by bina64davis 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all---this is your life and it is exactly what u make of it
try moving to a new state
get a new job
join a church
join a club
keep yourself busy
spend time with your friends
visit family
2007-03-14 11:16:48 · answer #4 · answered by sunbun 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u need to put it behind u, seeing it as good times gone bad, and get a new set of friends, companions, fun
2007-03-14 12:28:09 · answer #5 · answered by Jim G 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋