Why I am asking is because my boyfriend and I have been dating for 6 months. The 1st 3 months were CRAZY. It was sooooo much fun and absolutely nothing was wrong. I was the one who was initiating everything and hoping to make plans for a long future...
3 months ago I woke up with this thought that I had fallen out of love with him. I was scared to death. Didnt eat or sleep for at least a week...was just a mess! I had to take 2 weeks off work because of the anxiety...It felt like it was the end of the world....
I dont feel like I love him as much as I have loved some of my ex's (abusive relationships...mostly emotionally) Now I just have fun with my current beau but for some reason am having doubts. I feel as though I have 2 ppl arguing about it. One telling me I love him the other telling me I dont....
Is it normal to feel this way? Am I just not in love with him yet? I don't think that it was just infatuation and then fizzled down and realized who we both really were together. There is no reason that it could have fizzled down cause he is everything I want...
This is my 1st non dramatic relationship and my friends say I seem so myself! I dont want to have to break up with him and I dont want to have anything to do with "bad guys" anymore
Does this mean that we are not compatible and he is not the man for me?
Thanks
2007-03-14 03:43:27 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
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2007-03-14 03:47:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You loved your abusive boyfriends but you don't love the good guy. And he's your first non dramatic relationship. You need to look inward and figure out why you seek out drama and can't be happy with a good relationship. Maybe he is the right guy for you but you can't allow yourself to be happy. Why?
Many people ask what love is and I suppose it's different for everyone to answer. I can say what I know love is not.
Love is not controlling. Love does not belittle, make fun of, or hit.
2007-03-14 10:54:23 · answer #2 · answered by alikilee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, it probably means that you dont have the 'right tools' to deal with this type of relationship, hence why people are drawn back into abusive situations, because it feels normal to them, go and see a counseller or therapist, they will help you make sense of your feelings, which in turn will boost your relationship, well done you on seeing the light, get yourself this help and you'll never look back...i promise..good luck xx
2007-03-14 10:59:37 · answer #3 · answered by clare s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You had abusive relationships in the past, and since this isn't one of those then you feel bored. You want a bad boy. Just ignore those bored feelings and be with the guy who treats you right. Eventually you will see that what you want is stability and a good guy that protects you.
2007-03-14 10:52:11 · answer #4 · answered by Amanda D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it may jusy mean that your brain is so conditioned to take abuse that when your in a healthy relationship, you reject it. especially considering how fast you guys have moved and how fun it was. also, you may be worried that once the honeymoon period is over, he will be just like your ex. i'd suggest talking this out with your friends. he sounds like a great guy & u guys have chemistry. that's hard to find. don't let it go w/o some serious thought. good luck
2007-03-14 10:48:05 · answer #5 · answered by RedDevyl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me like you are worried about it turning into another one of your previous relationships. the amazing start is a common period everyone goes throughcalled the 'honeymoon' period. this is where everything seems trivial compared to the love you are experiencing and it feels as though you are on a constant high and head over heels for your partner. eventually this becomes normal everyday like. the love and respect are still there for him they are just not as hyped up as before. try to keep the relationship going you probably do love him youve just come out of the 'honeymoon' period thats all.
2007-03-14 10:50:05 · answer #6 · answered by LusT aFter INsaNIty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you had a sudden relationship mate. it last a couple of months but after awhile you lose the feelings
2007-03-14 10:47:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋