Summary - Married for 11years, 3 kids, last one is 2yrs. Anonymous caller says hubby at hotel with co-woker, called 8 times not answer on cell phone; 2 hrs after calling and 4 hrs after he went missing from work he calls to say he was liming with another co-worker. Anonymous caller gives details of my life, my kids and specific situations of 3 years ago. Relationship going on for about a year. now he knows i know, he says its somebody else, and is investigating to find out who squealed on him. his phone records show calls at all hours, text messages. she dosen't feel guilty cause he lied about our home life and portrayed me as the worst wife. he dosen't want to tell me about his so-called investigation; blames me for the entire scenario and is now trying to kiss up and be the attentive spouse. his business profitability rests entirely with me. i have no more strength for this.
2007-03-14 03:43:19 · 7 answers · asked by Brown'n 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Okay.
I'm not down with the whole forgiveness/go to counseling thing.
This guy sounds like a true jerkoff who has shown little regard for his wife or family.
If I were you, I would be showing him to the door while thanking him for the financial contribution he will be making for the next several years to you and your children just prior to kicking him in the nuts.
Or maybe you should just forgive him. : P
2007-03-14 04:05:22 · answer #1 · answered by spamovision 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry you're facing this situation. Any person's nightmare.
Can you forgive him?
Can you trust him?
It has been going on for a year! and it wouldn't have stopped if you hadn't caught him. Have you discussed with him why he was unhappy? or was he just "bored"
Some people cheat to cheat, others at least have remorse and there is hope for those.
Sounds like you need to really analize his true heart and make a decision.
2007-03-14 03:50:13 · answer #2 · answered by Amy B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Royal. Sounds he stands to loose a lot. You can go to marriage counseling, but I bet you would never trust him again, and that would cause continued bitterness. It sounds like a divorce may be the next step.
2007-03-14 03:51:06 · answer #3 · answered by bina64davis 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The next step in this story is you calling a lawyer.
2007-03-14 06:20:20 · answer #4 · answered by Tiss 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He should find all his belongings out on the front lawn and the locks changed when he comes home tonight. Big ole loser!!!!!
2007-03-14 03:50:29 · answer #5 · answered by kitkat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What's liming?
He may be serious about patching things up. Infidelity can be forgiven.
Counselling, counselling, counselling for both of you and if he won't, do it yourself.
2007-03-14 03:52:47 · answer #6 · answered by grapeshenry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Geez, I'd help him pack his crap. Who cares how he's acting now? He's only doing it because he got his Twinkies caught in a door!
If he did it once, he'll do it again.
2007-03-14 03:47:23 · answer #7 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋