Let's assume homosexuality is psychological for a minute?

Question

Do you honestly think that it's homosexuality that is destroying the precious "family unit"? In all these cases, Ted Haggert, Anne Heche (her father was gay and walked out on his family), etc., it seems to me that it's the repression of their natural feelings that's causing all the problems. I'm not saying that the blame doesn't fall squarely on their shoulders, but maybe the issue is a bit more complicated than those who would write it off as an "abomination" (that word triggers a Pavlovian reaction in me that makes me roll my eyes and giggle a little) want to believe?

The majority of you seem intent on "correcting" my idea that homosexuality is a psychological condition. Which is why I said "assume".

Wickey, if you don't know where I'm going with this from the very obvious tone of the details that I gave, then DONT ANSWER THE QUESTION. Simple as that.

GoodQuestion - well, you would know wouldn't you?

Answer 1

It doesn't. What destroys families is rejecting one (or more) of its members because they're gay.

Answer 2

First, homosexuality is psychological, at least in some of the ways in which it's expressed. The cause is almost certainly biological in males, and the manner in which it's expressed is going to be influenced by life experiences, with earlier experiences being more powerful than later ones.

Many psychological traits have biological origins. Being very shy, psychopathic, autistic, having Down's syndrome, these are all conditions that are genetic in origin that have profound psychological effects on the individual.

Homosexuality is another such condition--biological in origin, at least in males, and both physiological and psychological in expression.

Now, as to your main question, of course we're influenced strongly by our parents. Those of us who are different in our sexuality are taught that it's a bad thing to be and learn to either repress who we are or to be ashamed of expressing it. Both are unhealthy and can cause adjustment problems, and eventually come out much later, after the person has lived an unhappy life, possibly being in relationships that subsequently hurt other people when they discover they can't live with the lie any longer.

Hiding your true self eats away at your soul (or spirit, or self image, etc.) but it doesn't make that self go away.

Yes, repression does far more to hurt families than does being openly gay. The man who accepts that he's gay early on can find fulfilling relationships. The gay man who represses this can end up in an unhappy marriage to a woman he doesn't love, which hurts everyone when it does eventually come out.

The more free we are to expess who we are as people, the better and stronger the families formed will be.

Answer 3

For part - I actually agree with you however I also must state that as far as the word 'psychological' I'm thinking that the thought of performing their 'ahem' christian duty because some book dictates or some religious sect demands can #!$^@ any person's ability to cope.

I for one, will not adhere to these rules and regulations of these idealistic groups. Having said this, I am not saying I don't believe in Christianity, however, I don't believe half of what these people say. The mere fact ? Because half of them only declare they've gotten some epiphany from their god telling them that 'this must happen' or the world will stop. Hogwash.

Oh well, that was invigorating. I hope you understand where I am coming from because it surely helped me get it out.

Cheers,

bga

Answer 4

If we are to assume that homosexuality is psychological, are we also to assume that all sexual orientation is psychological? Besides, if you really study science, you'll learn that just about everything we do is psychological. It's all in our heads.

I don't think anyone that believes that "homosexuality is destroying the family unit" has a healthy family to begin with. I think opinions like that would create oppressive parents that would only accept their children if they were what their parents wanted them to be. There is no growth in a system like that.

Answer 5

If society and the bible didn't go around telling everyone that it was such an issue then I really don't think that it would be.

Left handed people used to be witches and warlocks. Left handed people are different and were ostracized because of it. People tend to fear what they don't understand, I think it's the unknown that is so frightening. If people could just see it as love and not what society makes it up to be, homosexuality wouldn't be that big of a deal either.

Answer 6

How could it be homosexuality that would destroy families? If they were allowed to express themselves the way they had wished and not forced themselves to conform to a hetrosexual lifestyle then the children wouldn't have existed to have a family torn apart, which wouldn't have happened due to their choosing a spouse based on love. The hetronormative culture and disapproval of those who don't follow it destroy families.

Answer 7

Families are in trouble because of heterosexual infidelity, immaturity, spousal abuse, alcoholism, drugs, and finances. Religious beliefs alone haven't been enough to maintain stable families, so they chose to blame homosexuality, today's designated scape-goat for all social ills. In Europe everything was the fault of the Jews. The beat goes on.

Answer 8

Its not a horrible idea but i believe small amount of homosexual and bisexual people have had problems like that.

I myself am gay, i have a mom and dad and aunts and uncles and grandparents and cousins and 2 siblings ect. Never abused or beaten or molested or suffered any trauma. I wasn't "smothered" by my mother or female relative or male for that matter.


Its just the way I turned out and that's the way it is for countless homosexuals and bisexuals. That's why the psychological root seems extremely bogus, to me because it seems like people are trying to make something wrong out of this whole thing.

Answer 9

Homosexuality isn't the problem.
People being pushed, harassed, teased, and otherwise coerced into being something they aren't is the problem.
You can only lie to yourself for so long.

I find it so amusing that "homosexuality" is destroying the family unit, yet there aren't any laws being presented to make divorce illegal, the only thing they can do is to try and prevent same-sex couples from forming their own family.

Answer 10

If we are assuming homosexuality is psychological, then we must assume all sexual preferences are psychologically linked.

So, under the assumption that ALL sexuality is psychologically based, then what would the deciding factor separating homosexual from heterosexual. There is none. Homosexuals have had sexual abuse as have heterosexuals. Homosexuals have had family problems, some have had great family lives, as with heterosexuals.

I'm not sure where you are going with this???

Answer 11

I suppose some people feel they are above rebuke especially when so many excuses are present....however misleading that is. As far as I know there is no difference between those that choose to justify sin and those that choose to commit sin.

Considering manipulation never made an honest living....wink.