Is it wrong to have this fantasy, and should I tell my wife?

Question

I have a fantasy of my wife making love with another guy. I am not very well endowed, so the thought of her being with a hot studly guy is a big turn on for me, should I tell her about it?

Answer 1

You should explore it further with her. Spice up your sex life. Invite another couple into one of your sessions. Talk to your wife about it.

Answer 2

You should really think hard about bringing it up before you decide to. Make sure it's really something that you could handle and that you're both secure enough in your relationship to know that she won't start having an extra-marital affair. But if this is really something you want, you should be able to tell her. Coming right out and saying it bluntly may take her by suprise, so try feeling her out about it. Bring up something in conversation about hearing about someone you know having that kind of fantasy, see how she reacts and then go from there. At worst, she'll say she's not interested.

Good luck! And btw, there's nothing wrong with that fantasy. You'd be suprised at how many men like the same thing and lead happy marriages while inviting other people into the bedroom with them and their wives.

Answer 3

Yeah - NO! For starters, you shouldn't want your wife to be with anyone else, but you. By telling her this fantasy, you're running into a some of the following senerios:

1. She'll accuss you of cheating and this is your way of wanting to ease your guilt (I am woman, we can make this leap!)

2. She'll think you're giving her permission to cheat.

3. She decides she likes the idea since you do - you'll do it and you'll end up hurt (tried this once, didn't get too far and I ended up crying for hours just seeing him kiss another girl) seeing her with someone else.

4. You calling men studly - she might end up thinking you don't want her anymore.

A fantasy is just that - a fantasy. It's not real.

Answer 4

theres a big difference between fantasy and reality. if your wife was to make love with another man in front of you, i doubt it would be as exciting as when it was kept a fantasy. not to mention the flood gate that might be opened by doing this. my suggestion is to keep it a fantasy in your own head. and how willing do you think she would be to take part in this? all i'm saying is that if you act out your fantasy you could really hurt your marriage.

i just saw another question of yours that said your wife had a fantasy involving you, her, and your best friend. you need to go ahead and do it then and leave us alone by asking the same question a zillion times.

Answer 5

Hmmm you know your wife more than us so you have to think about this very carefully before you break it to her. Many things can happen when you do (if you do)...She might get so angry she won't talk to you for a while, the relationship you have with her now might change for better or for worse, she might take to on it and do it or she might take you on it do it and then regret it and then life wont be the same again. Stop and think before you act. This is a fantasy and it might not be that good when it's laid out. It might not be worth rinsking your relationship.

Answer 6

This is a tough question, I would think that you shuold know your wife well enough before you get married that this shouldn't be a question, rather something you should already know the answer to.Now having said that maybe you could approach the question by asking her to have a serious discussion, because honey i love you and want to know everything about you and want to keep you happyand I plan to be here along time and I wan't there to always be an us.

Answer 7

If she's open to such topics, tell her about it. You could tell her while getting in the mood of love. You'll be surprised at what she may tell you. Anything she said could be a huge turn-on to both of you.

And if you're only imagining and not hoping her to really be with another man, please tell her so. If not, you may fall into the danger of your wife with another man. Just tell her, it's your fantasy, and it's not meant to be real.

But if you're really open about her with another man in reality, by all means go ahead. But I strongly advise you not to allow it. Just imagine & share your imagination with your wife will do.

Anyway, marriage is about sharing everything with your spouse. Your thoughts, feelings, opinions, fantasy, imagination, dreams, resources (eg. house, money, food) etc

And please do not think lowly of yourself about being well-endowed or not. It's not the size, it's the performance. And your overall performance as a husband to love her, care for her & support her.

Answer 8

Well my friend, it's not the amount that counts, it's what you do with it. A fantasy is just that, a fantasy. It all depends on if you want that fantasy to come true or not as to whether you tell your wife or not. The factors that will be as to whether or not you tell her is how strong are the desire to fulfill your fantasy.

Answer 9

Yes, tell her about it, if you are intimate with each other you should share your fantasies. Weather or not you want to make that a reality is between the two of you, but be careful. Why do most men think they're size is not good enough? That's my question...

Answer 10

Yeah, but be very careful with ur words when u tell her. She could take it as a big turn on that u like seeing her with another guy, but then she might take it as either ur kinda funny( meaning sexuality) or she might think you dont like her anymore sexually and u rather watch than be with her. If she likes it she might actually want to do it. And then the question is, is would u be ok with it? Its all about wording it.

Answer 11

My husband and I tell each other all of our fantasy even the weird ones. I don't think there is anything wrong with your fantasy, you just want your wife to be happy. I would tell her and see what she say.