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My wife and her mom set me up on a Domestic Violence, last November, after coming home from a 10 hour day at work. She tackled me from behind twice, admits that she did, one of the two times. I was arrested for it. She has me kicked out of my house for 35 days with nothing but the clothes on my back. Then she comes onto my property, which she is not suppose to do, and demands that I give her the kids, which it was my weekend with the kids according to our approved parenting plan. I told her to leave. She did, but just to down the road and parked to watch me. I put the kids in the car to go to the movies. She tried to cut me off when I left, but was unsuccessful. She then calls the police, and I was arressted on the grounds of kidnapping. Now my visitation rights have been cut down to 2 hours a night, 2nights a week, supervised with a psychological evaluation, thats going to cost me a grand, before I can get visitation rights back. All because I was at my house minding my own business

2007-03-14 03:27:11 · 13 answers · asked by tom c 1 in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

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I myself can relate on so many levels. My ex-wife literally stabbed me in the back(in the back of my left shoulder)with butter knife. Yes, she went ballistic on our 2 year old son - slapping and back-handing him repeatedly. As I attempted to vacate her abuse with our son... That is when she stabbed me. When I reached for the door knob to the front door, and my son in my other arm - holding him. My son had his arms wrapped around me so tight, crying, and bleeding from his nose. Even though I was STABBED with a knife by her? I got outside regardless of my injuries. Oozing a good amount of blood, I was able to escape with my son. However.... She called police alleging "some guy kidnapped my kid".

Police did catch up to me, I complied with all their demands. I was then slammed to the ground by one officer, as the other police officer took my son from the back seat of the car(I used the car to try getting away from her), and gave our son back to her. But while she had our son dangling in one arm, and with police giving me a beat down...... She decided to kick me in the face and ribs - at full force... Yes, right in front of the police.

Could ANYONE here take a guess as to what the police officer said in regards to her kicking me? Try this...."he probably deserved it". Yes, that is what one police officer said!!! Yes, our system is BIAS against MEN! It did not matter that I was the DAD of my child... The cops still treated me as a criminal. However, due to the fact she physically assaulted me right in front of police - I did NOT get arrested. However..... As she should've been ARRESTED for Domestic Violence... She was NOT arrested!!!

I too... was forced to leave my own home, and leave a violant woman with my son...... I've never felt such a depression, pain, enxiety in my life...... Knowing that she could easy MURDER my little boy due to her ANGER.

VIOLENT WOMEN ARE PROTECTED BY THE VAWA.

ENOUGH IS ENOUGH!

STOP ABUSE FOR ALLLL HUMAN BEINGS... NOT JUST WOMEN - whom actually perpetrate HALF the abuse!

As for PROOF? Guess what?! The police NEVER filed anything regarding HER ABUSE! But there is a public record of a "domestic dispute".

2007-03-14 04:26:25 · answer #1 · answered by Timmmay! 3 · 2 0

This is not an unusual situation or an odd occurance, sadly. You are one of 100's of thousands of men being abused, violated and having your Human Rights and the Rights of the Children being removed. This is a global problem and it is the result of desensitization, which is the major agenda of the Radical Leader's of valid Movements that are everywhere.

The current legal climate is extremely unhealthy and cancerous, and is causing greater harm to Families, Children and in particular has targeted Men/Father's as a "scapegoat". It's obvious & clear that the "few" incidents of bad men, gets all men painted with the same brush stroke. It is no different than Racial, Political or Religious persecution and the public consciousness has been desensitized and subsequently corrupted. This is an agenda that has been supported by the Media and the minimalisation of Violent, Abusive, (bad fems) is the single major impact factor in this.

Statistics, laws, the press, public opinion have been manipulated now, for a great many years... but the truth is becoming ever increasingly noticed, albeit very slowly.

You need to be active and be a participant in the future... You need a good attorney and access to true help. Hang in there and go to ShatteredMen and other group here on Yahoo.

About me...
I am a Victim of Domestic Violence, up to & including 4 attempts on my life and a whole lot more which I will not detail here. Our children are victims in this and have been actively abused and injured by their mother and I have come to believe that she has also affected Munchausen by Proxy on them (now under investigation). My situation is on the extreme side of the scale but I know what the situation is like for a very large majority of people. I am active in the Shared Parenting and Legal Equalization movements...

2007-03-14 04:39:48 · answer #2 · answered by canucksis 1 · 2 0

Shes a woman scorned for whatever reasons, the law will take her side always, realize that and don't forget it! As much as you love your kids, how old are they? You may want to back off from her and them for, lets say a year...maybe more! In future, don't have more kids and be more picky who you get involved with. She's winning and will continue to win...that's how the system is built. I'm trusting that you are the nice guy and shes the witch. Let her masturbate her frustrations with her mother until they realize who's really being hurt here. Sometimes there are no winners, but bank on this...the kids are the losers always. If and when you regain some stability in all this....a dark movie theatre isn't the place to take your kids...next she'll be saying you are a molester. Take the kids to family functions and parks and a video camera to show the kids being happy and content wont hurt your case!

2007-03-14 03:39:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

You need to find a good reputable attorney and seek legal advice. If you don't know of a good attorney contact your local Bar Association or Attorneys Association for a referral to an attorney who specializes in this type of law. I would also suggest carrying a camera around and possibly one of those hand held recording devices, whenever you see her coming turn on the recorder and get out the camera, then you will have proof. How old are your children? In most states children age 7 or older can testify as to certain situations, and they were witness to at least some of what went on (what a shame). Keep your cool under all circumstances and eventually everyone will see that it is her and the tables will turn. Good luck and God Bless.

2007-03-14 03:32:04 · answer #4 · answered by tersey562 6 · 0 0

When your wife came on your property, during your week end with the kids, you should have called the police on her, if she's not suppose to be there. then it was dumb of you to try to take the kids out to the movie ( or anywhere else) with her sitting parked down the street waiting for you to do just such a thing. In the meantime use your psychological evaluation to explain what's going on and why. you never did say WHY. What got this whole vengence thing started with her? you might also, point out that when she does such things, it not only lands you in jail, but also upsets and endangers the kids. i also think you need to get yourself a good attorney, before you wind up in prison or dead. good luck

2007-03-14 03:38:11 · answer #5 · answered by JEANNE B 3 · 0 0

Here are two things you need to know
Get a good atty.
You call the cops, social services, etc. on every wrong thing she does. Now you've created a paper trail, But for now don't loose your cool that what everyone wants you to do. Get the kids to talk about that night in front of Social Services. Get a voice activated tape recorder and tape everything she says, got to radio shack and tell them you need to hook a tape recorder up to your phone the part is like $12.00
If you kn ow she's doing wrong hire a P.I. to catch her

But what do I know

2007-03-14 03:43:13 · answer #6 · answered by walker9842 4 · 0 0

WOW, can you say DRAMA...gheez!! You must have hurt this chick big time, for her to be going off like she is.....my goodness!!! I would start recording all conversations between you and her (buy a pocket recorder). Document all occassions that you run into her or during visitation. Only way I see to end this DRAMA is to start a detailed paper trail and include all witnesses, if any. Then I would discuss this with my attorney. That domestic violence is a ***** to deal with, esp. if you did not do anything and Ihate it when scorned/hateful women use it as a means to get back or hurt their partner.......Ridiculous!! I have never actually been through it, but I can feel your pain. Jus stay focused on the goal and that is to continue to see the children and get that chick off your back. Keep your head up, stayed prayed up and start that paper trail. When it comes to subjects like this, I hate to say it but women dominate.....they can be so manipulating and spiteful......so BEWARE!!! Good Luck!!

PS: Try calling the police on her the next time she comes over without permission.......see how she like that.

2007-03-14 03:38:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0 1

Wow she sounds like my husbands ex girlfriend. What you have to know which is what I learned through my husbands ex is that she can and will do things to make anyone believe anything she makes up in her head. As for the kidnapping thing had that happen myself. Sherrif was knocking on my door demanding my husband and stepdaughter I asked her why told me he was being accused of noncustodal kidnapping..What a JOKE! I had the paper work that said we were to have her until the following day. Unless you have a court order stating when your visitation is the law is more apt to believe her over you since she has custody. With my husband he learned that the hard way now he emails his exgf with the dates he will get the kid and carries a printout of which days he'll have so she cant do that again. We spent 30 grand in a yr and a half battling our nut case and check this out she is so mulitiplive when she went in for her psych eval. she convinced the psychologist of the same things she was making up in her head! We have a court order that says she can not call us unless it directly relates to the child well now she calls at 1130pm starts off talking about their daughter for like 2 minutes then goes on about other things. We do have a restraining order in place so she can not come near us or on our property and when my husband picks up his daughter he has to have someone with him either his father-friend- or a police officer.. I have no advice we are living with this ourselves but good luck you are not alone. By the way he carried around a small voice recorder because of some of the things she would say and played it back for our attorny and guess what.......not submissable in court!

Now my husband also had domestic violance charges against him from her because she attacked him with a hammer whlie he slept. She threw knives at him and anything she could get her hands on. And one night she came after him with a sledgehammer he restrained her while her son {not my husbands child} called the police and because she had marks on her wrists {from being restrained} he was arrested and asked to leave the house! She has come up behind him while he was out on his horse honked spooked the horse which threw my husband and run over his legs! So trust me when I say your not alone honey. We moved 7 hrs away to get away from this woman but now my husband drives 7 hours one way just to spend from 5pm friday til 5pm sunday with his daughter 2 times a month and usually doesnt get there til 2am saturday morning since he works.

2007-03-14 03:37:13 · answer #8 · answered by texas_angel_wattitude 6 · 1 0

Tom, tens of thousands of men have experienced very similar things. It is very common for a battered man to be arrested and we have it on record from several state attorney generals that they will not prosecute a woman for domestic violence.

Much of this is thanks to the Violence Against Women Act which rewards women for being abused. It overlooks half of the victims because this half are male.

Please come to Shattered Men. We have almost 1,000 members who do understand the bias against men.

We are also part of a coalition to that is working on ending this bias in the VAWA and to prevent its world wide spread.

Unlike the typical women's shelter that denies men are abused, Shattered Men does acknowledge this and we do help women on an equal basis.

Unless we do look at both sides...we will not help anyone and we sure do know VAWA does not work

http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/shattterdmen/

2007-03-14 03:46:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2 1

I think you need to start carrying a camcorder around with you and point it at her everytime she shows up. A small voice-activated tape recorder in your pocket wouldn't hurt either.

2007-03-14 03:31:05 · answer #10 · answered by mental 3 · 0 0

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