I have decided to tell my ex girlfriend that I am in love with her. She broke up with me almost two months ago (was not a bad breakup), and we have decieded to remain friends. I am risking losing her as a friend in the process, but i have come to the realization that it needs to be done. I do not want to grow old wondering "what if." My problem is this. I get extremly nervous when doing things of this nature and i usually draw a total blank and it never comes out like i want it too. Would writing her a letter be too informal? Should i do this in person?
2007-03-14 03:08:00 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
i dont know if she feels the same way.. and i am really scared.
2007-03-14 03:12:45 · update #1
i honestly believe that she is my soul mate, and god put her in my life for this reason. What do i do if she doesnt feel the same way?
2007-03-14 03:17:50 · update #2
Just invite her to dinner, or coffee and tell her in person.
2007-03-14 03:11:20 · answer #1 · answered by Amanda 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would not write it in a letter to give to her, I would write it down so you don't draw a blank. Invite her over for a romantic dinner and let her know that you wanted to tell her something. Look her in the face and tell her that you are nervous, but you have to get this out. Hopefully she will understand and listen intently. If you still get nervous pull out the piece of paper or whatever you wrote it on and let her know how you feel.
You should really do this in person, it means much more if it comes from you face to face.
The worse she could say is that she does not feel the same way and I am sure that you friendship will be fine.
2007-03-14 10:22:35 · answer #2 · answered by Important 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are three options
Number 1: Talk to her face to face, take a deep breath before u talk to her and make sure u want the words to come out as they suppose to.
Number 2: Write ur feelings on a sheet of paper and talk to her one on one and read the words out in a romantic way.
Nujmber 3: Write a letter, it gives u more time to write down all your feelings you have for her, but dont over do it that might scare her off. Make sure the letter is given by u personally and privatley and give her time and space to read it.
A word of advise, if she doesnt feel the same dont feel bad at least u answered ur 'what if' question!
2007-03-14 10:21:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You tell her you need to talk to her, and then when you do get alone together; tell her that you don't want to lose her as a friend, but you have to tell her how you feel. Then tell her how you feel, or if you draw a blank like you say; then why don't you write her a letter, and have her read it with you there, and tell her when she is done you would like to know how she feels about the situation. Good Luck
2007-03-14 11:41:14 · answer #4 · answered by In love with Life 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write her a letter, it gives you all the time you need to put down everything you want to say and makes sure she has the time, and space to read it and digest it without either of you having a face to face confrontation, she will also realize you thought enough of her to take the time to do it and respect her enough to have taken the time to do this in such a way, you are right to go for it, life is way to short, keeping my fingers X for you, good luck
2007-03-14 10:14:12 · answer #5 · answered by ♠ Merlin ♠ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't write a letter that will spill everything out and may be saved. Talk to her and if you feel her tensing up then you can stop. Every girl wants to hear she is loved, so I doubt you will lose her. Be brave!!
2007-03-14 10:18:21 · answer #6 · answered by Dovey 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can get up your nerve, try doing it in person and give her flowers also. Since you were together before, she will understand if you're nervous. But also be aware that if she broke up with you, it may mean that she really just wants to be friends.
Good luck, I hope it all works out.
2007-03-14 10:13:47 · answer #7 · answered by mom of 2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't write her a letter!!!
take her to a place where you feel comfortable and relaxed, not a romantic spot with candles etc...!!!
talked to her about all the things you did 2gether, dont get to dramatic!!! make her laugh......
you will know when is the right time to tell her!!! and then just do it!!!!!
2007-03-14 10:19:42 · answer #8 · answered by chala 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your ex girlfriend to come over to your house this way you can tell her that you are in love with her in person and that you want to marry her.
2007-03-14 10:15:49 · answer #9 · answered by Heidi T 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she dout got a boy friend pull her to the side and just tell to listen to what you got to say and if she say okay i will listen
then you come out and say my fellings for have went away so can we get back together and if she say no say thats okay
and then walk away but when you walk away i need you to let go and know that you are not going to get her back.
2007-03-14 10:48:54 · answer #10 · answered by T_baby_09 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let her know and get it out your system,
but be prepared if she doesn't feel the same
2007-03-14 10:18:19 · answer #11 · answered by Fruitful1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋