how do i tell a guy i only want to be friends for now without being over the top rude to him, because i feel as if he's trying to force me to be with him because he already said that we go out to some people that i know, and he's kissed me without permission, and we aren't even dating, everything is just so weird to me right now because when i was little i went through some things so i try not to get to close to guys because i don't wanna get hurt again, or put myself in a situation that i can't get out of again like before, and i just wanna be friends and he's trying to get it to become more than that, and i'm not ready, and he's a very jealous person , trying to tell me who i can and can't talk to, who i can and can't date, things like that and he's very aggressive with me.
2007-03-14 02:25:07 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Just tell him your not attracted to him in that way. Tell him you value the friendship and that maybe sometime in the future would be better.
2007-03-14 02:29:08 · answer #1 · answered by Devdude 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes it's okay to be rude. This guy is not treating you right and you need to let him know. His advances are not wanted and are disturbing to you. And he has no right what so ever to tell you, at all, who you can and can't talk to, period. You will be surprised how much people respect you when you stand up for yourself. At the very least, you will feel more respect for yourself and will be proud of yourself too. Plus, you won't have this hanging over your head any more. Don't put up with his behavior any more.
2007-03-14 09:32:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart, why are you even considering being 'friends' with someone as nasty as this? This guy shows you no respect, over steps your boundarys, and tries to control you....He is not only NOT listening to you, he also has NO interest in what you want, Guys like this are can be in the extreme very dangerous, in the least very damaging, refuse to be in his company again and do not have any contact at ANY time, he is seriously bad news, much love honey xxxx
2007-03-14 09:35:52 · answer #3 · answered by clare s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey listen very carefully. This guy is a control freak. He is already trying to corner you and you haven't made a commitment to him yet. If you let him take control of your life by telling you who you can and can't see, talk to, go out with or date you are one step away from being physically abused for not obeying him. My advice is cut him loose, do not go anywhere with him and if necessary get the help of your family and friends to keep him away from you.
2007-03-14 09:32:05 · answer #4 · answered by kny390 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Screw not being too over the top. Just tell him that you just don't like him the way he likes you. If he really liked you, he wouldn't be such a controlling and what seems to be dominating idiot, he doesn't respect you, you're privacy or the relationships you hold with those you associate with. If all else fails just kick him in the shins and run in the other direction really really fast.
2007-03-14 09:40:58 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just eexplain exactly how you feel if he can not except this and your feelings then he can not have been a very good friend in the first place i wish you all the best of luck!
2007-03-14 09:38:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see the big problem. I don't want to see you anymore is easy enough to say. Then move on with your life!
2007-03-14 09:32:53 · answer #7 · answered by luckford2004 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋