He knew I'll expect some gift. I am upset now. When I asked him the reason he gave was he was buzy in his office work and he did not got time to buy a gift. Even a small gift on that special day is different.
For his birthday I presented him lot of things...
Also, my birthday was on valentine's day. and that was the first brithday and valentine's day after our marriage...
Why men are not able to understand these emotions??
2007-03-14 02:22:54 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Don't worry young lady, i'll tell you a story. If it provides you some solace.
Me and my friend (together since middle school - 25+ years) used to be present in each other's birthday from the first year we knew each other.
I continued and started giving him the gifts when i started earning. He never did.
He even started forgetting my birthdays but i continued. My birthday falls exactly nine days after his.
His parents, his sister tired reminding him on my birthdays and even his wife joined but he never lied that he didn't remember. Whenever, they tried to make me not to bring the gifts I said I like it that way and know that he loves me. I don't need gifts to know his love
In 2005, on his birthday he took me to a car showroom and wanted me to choose the car that would be best suited. I didn't find anything wrong because even after his marriage he takes me for his shopping (quite to my embarrassment).
Only later I came to know that it was for me. Believe me he didn't take a bite from my birthday celebration that we do in the family, till I had accepted that.
Now, let me also clarify that he himself doesn't own a car and gifted it to me because I am phobiac to driving two wheelers.
Just wait for your day. You'll never repent and life is not to worry about such small issues.
2007-03-14 02:49:10 · answer #1 · answered by sanjay 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have been very upset at his behavior and I am glad that you let him know you were not pleased. Listen, if he wanted, he could have had roses sent to your office or home. His excuse is not good enough. Especially that your birthday was Valentine's Day. More upsetting to me is that you are newly married. Is this behavior more of things to come? I hope not. Now what I would do is wait for the next important occasion in your lives, such as wedding anniversary, Christmas, and if he doesn't do the right thing, I would really tell him that you were deeply hurt at his callous behavior and as his wife you expect a gift. Also, any occasion pertaining to him, do not buy him anything, and I mean anything, unless he has changed his ways. I wish you the best. Don't let him ever think that you accept this behavior. Keep harping and he'll get the idea. If not, then there is something wrong, and I would have a real heart to heart talk about this situation. Good Luck
2007-03-14 09:09:05 · answer #2 · answered by cardgirl2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay - do what I did when my husband was too busy to remember my birthday. Yes, you're hurt, but get over it. But make sure he never does it again!!!!
Take him to the jewellers and pick a piece of jewellery - expensive, but not too expensive. And tell him "That's the one I want for my brithday from you." As a birthday present. And a matching something for Valentine's day. And tell him that if he ever forgets again, the price goes up!
My husband has never forgotten my birthday again.
PS He's a lovely man but he just didn't think birthdays were important. Your husband needs to realise that women need to feel special and cared about. And that remembering her birthday shows that he cares.
2007-03-14 02:29:36 · answer #3 · answered by True Blue Brit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think they were created without emotions or the need to feel attached as we do.... I went all out and always have for mine too-- Nothing for my 40th bday, which is a mile stone for most... not even a card for Christmas, I got his bonus in Feb as a belated xmas gift but it sucks not having anything to open on xmas morning when u make sure they all do...kids and him... MEN suck... pretty much.. It only matters when it is for them...so I became a little smarter and didn't get him anything for valentines day this year... and didn't feel bad at all either...
2007-03-14 02:39:26 · answer #4 · answered by momof3 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't feel bad sweety, men in general just do not remember dates and gifts are only material and true love is the most important thing in life.
If you do want him to remember something,just put a big note on the fridge,the one place they will go many times in a day.lol
2007-03-14 03:32:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He Forgot. If you wasn't his wife, he would have remember. There nothing he can gain that he doesn't already have. If gifts for special days is what you want. Keep telling him in advance, that way you won't get disappointed.
2007-03-14 02:48:10 · answer #6 · answered by wolf in sheep cloths 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweetie.... i have been with my guy 6 years and i have only gotten one birthday present, beside that we don't exchange gifts for holidays because A.) i don't need presents to let me know he cares and B.) there are more important things in life.
2007-03-14 02:30:55 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
did you get extra love and attention? sometimes that is the best gift of all.
2007-03-14 02:26:45 · answer #8 · answered by iwill 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋