I didn't think it was required of me, because it is traditional to only have one showers. But have times changed?
ps. if I had all the money in the world, I wouldn't bat an eye to buy my friends lots of lavish gifts for their every occasion, but the budget does not always allow!
2007-03-14 02:13:15 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
not at all, i think this is just a way to show off and get lots of gifts.
stand your ground and put your money to good use for either u or your family.
2007-03-14 02:18:37 · answer #1 · answered by stacey f 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Back when I had my children , we only had a shower for our first baby. We threw a shower for my middle daughter for her first baby and then she didn't have another baby until her son was 6 so we threw her another shower. The first was a boy and the second was a girl and after 6 years she had given almost everything away so we thought it was a good idea. But here it is 2 years later and she was expecting again and I didn't throw her another shower and her son was born in January so 2 weeks after the birth the women who attend our church threw her another shower. I guess it is normal now to throw a shower for every birth. There is one woman in our church who has just had her 4th child and she only let the ladies throw her a shower for the first baby. I don't think it is rude at all.
You don't have to buy a lavish gift for every shower you attend. You could buy a pack of onesies or a pack of diapers for a shower for a second or more child. But I would go and have a good time anyway.
2007-03-14 09:28:47 · answer #2 · answered by nana4dakids 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know that it's right to have a 2nd baby shower just like the first one, but diaper parties are good for the 2nd child+. If you don't have the money to buy the lavish gifts, just get a package of diapers and wipes. You can NEVER have too many of those!
You just gotta put yourself in their place as well. How would you feel if your friend didn't show up to your shower?
Good Luck!
2007-03-14 09:21:24 · answer #3 · answered by Shannon 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not at all. I have never had or been invited to a shower for a parent who is having a second child. Even my brother who has 2 children 10 years apart did not have a second shower. Since my boys were close together in age, we had no reason for a second shower and I really did not need anything except diapers and sleep. If people who get gender neutral items for their big stuff there realy is no need for a second shower. Also, I only gave baby gifts to second children, who were my nieces and nephews. Most of my friends children's didn't get a gift for their second child, as I didn't get to many for my second son either.
2007-03-14 09:35:44 · answer #4 · answered by ma2snoopy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not think you are rude for not going, however no one said you needed to go out and buy an expensive gift for the 2nd baby. For my 3rd child simple things were given to celebrate the life that I was bringing into this world....A few personalized wash clothes, I still use them after every meal with my daughter she is 2 now. I received a very nice stocking cap, hand made...and the first time she had knitted, a hand made blanket, all the little things that were more special because people took the time to celebrate with me the coming of my Beautiful Child. Go, enjoy, celebrate life with your friends and their soon to be child and give from the heart.
2007-03-14 09:34:05 · answer #5 · answered by Tawni B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not think that is rude at all. I don't know why people started having baby showers for every child they have, but it didn't used to be that way. People used to only have showers for their first child and then used the things they got at those showers for the children to follow. I don't usually go to showers for second babies either, but I do usually give the baby a gift after it arrives.
2007-03-14 09:21:54 · answer #6 · answered by Tallulah 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's rude of your friends to have showers for the 2nd baby if the 2nd baby is less than 5 years apart from the 1st one. That's PURE GREED, honey! However, it's perfectly acceptable to take a small gift for the baby after it is born; as long as you take something for the oldest child too.
2007-03-14 09:21:26 · answer #7 · answered by Romans 8:28 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you are rude at all- I think a lot of people would take your position (myself included). It wouldn't hurt to get a little something for the new baby (diapers or some other simple necessity) but don't feel bad about not buying a bona fide "shower gift" like you would if it was her first.
2007-03-14 09:27:06 · answer #8 · answered by Jennifer A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think its rude if you don't go. It is traditional to have only one shower. However, if this after the baby is born, it might just be more of a meet the baby thing. In which, I suggest buying a card and helping the family celebrate their new arrival. Just my two cents.
2007-03-14 09:23:18 · answer #9 · answered by raintigar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends. If the first time they had a girl and the second time they had a boy - they would need different items. But if it's two girls or two boys then they really don't need to have another shower. You could always go just to be supportive and get them something small. A little outfit or a book.
2007-03-14 10:01:50 · answer #10 · answered by charlie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i thought you were only suppose to have one for the 1st kid. unless the babies are 6 years apart or more then I guess it would be ok to have another shower. but if i were you i would purchase a very small gift, the dollar store has lots of baby things
2007-03-14 09:21:08 · answer #11 · answered by Olivia's Mama 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋