I just read a question about men's rights and abortion. I just thought about something out of the blue and wanted people's opinions. Okay, they have contracts for nearly everything out there, why not pregnancy contracts? Say you're dating a guy and he says he wants no children. You both sign a contract stating that if by chance you do get pregnant, he is not to pay child support. Another scenario; say he doesn't agree with abortion but you do. If you both sign a contract saying that if you become pregnant, he takes on all responsibility during the pregnancy for you and then will take care of the child after is born. It's just a thought though. I just wonder if people will push for something like this in the future.
2007-03-14 02:06:18 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I know both people should use protection if they don't want children. Lets be real though; birth control is not 100% effective and neither are condoms. I was just thinking that with all the lawsuits and contracts for everything, this could be one that people would eventually try...lol. I was bored and just wanted to see what people thought
2007-03-14 02:18:36 · update #1
I take your point, but wonder at what stage of a relationship one would start signing contracts.
Imagine you've been seeing someone for a while and you decide to go back to your place to 'further the relationship' - do you ask him to sign a contract before you fix the coffee? Before you kiss? Before you get undressed? What if you disagree on the terms?
Or maybe you sign contracts before the first date? Perhaps instead of the usual 'getting to know you' small talk, you get out your respective contracts and go over them with a witness...
Sounds complicated to me.
These days people should really be practising safe sex in the early stages of a relationship so the chances of accidental pregnancy are slim. If either one choses to have sex without condoms they are - in effect - saying they agree to the consequences whether that's pregnancy or STDs.
2007-03-14 02:51:32 · answer #1 · answered by Skidoo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a nice idea, but hardly practical. People just don't think in those terms in the "heat of the moment". If they did, they would probably use birth control anyway. Although you are correct that bc is not 100% effective, I believe that the vast majority of unwanted pregnancies are from not using it to begin with, not from it failing.
You also have to take into consideration all the men who wanted children and now refuse to pay child support, even though they are court-ordered to do so. I'm not sure why one would have reason to believe that a contract would be followed any more than a court order.
2007-03-14 09:57:42 · answer #2 · answered by leaptad 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I like the way you think! This is actually a very good concept. However, being the anti government involvement in my life type of person, I woudl have to say it wouldnt work for me. I do think though that it will work for most of the Country. Pre-nups, Visitation Contracts, blah blah blah..it's all out there, why not one more? One more that actually makes a lot of sense. Men should have rights too. I'm a woman and I'm saying that. Men are just as affected by parenthood so why shouldnt they be able to decide what happens after they conceive a child. Good thought and I wish there was some way I could help you get this in action, but politics we are not. Thank goodness
2007-03-14 09:13:33 · answer #3 · answered by Ruby Tuesday 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
thats silly. Contraception is the responsibility of BOTH people, if he used it wisely then there would be no need. It would just encourage people to be irresponsible and think they are dissolved of any responsibility. Not very romantic either. And i would love to ee a contract that would MAKE me carry a baby for 9 months in MY body for someone else, if i didn't want to.
all in all a silly idea
2007-03-14 09:13:18 · answer #4 · answered by Serry's mum 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It takes TWO people to have sex and TWO people to get pregnant. Why should the responsibilty fall on one person? BOTH people should make sure they are protected.
ETA: That's kinda my point though. BIrthcontrol can indeed fail so why should only one person be responsible if they BOTH had sex and they both know the risks?
2007-03-14 09:15:26 · answer #5 · answered by zinntwinnies 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i dont think that would fly. how many unkept contracts do you see on tv in court cases? i think that abortion needs to become illegal or we need to focus on the mens rights more. it isnt fair that we dont take their feelings into consideration. the sad thing is most women who know`the man would like to raise the child even if she didnt want it doesnt want to go through the pregnancy in fear of how their body might look afterwards. how childish. they need to look into our laws and make them more equal. women are screaming my body my choice and the men have to wait around for their chioce? am i gonna be a daddy of a live child or the father of a dead child?
2007-03-14 09:14:35 · answer #6 · answered by Mrs.Vick 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
sweetie come on now, i just dont see that happening, good luck
2007-03-14 09:12:41 · answer #7 · answered by Sunshine 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋