what can you do if your life feels controled? if you feel you are being ostracised?

Question

i have no social connections. friends. or a girlfriend. ive never worked. live in a small council flat. on benefits. struggling with, borderline personality disorder. im alone and isolated everyday. have terrible low moods that take over me. high anxiety. anxiety and fear about going out. inner rage. fear of losing control of it. my community psychiatric nurse, cpn, has said all thats bein done is being done, ive had my assesment and diagnosis, and now theyve refered me to be assesed by theraputic community uk. or something like that. the life i want. the relocation from the uk. the girl i want, 23/ 27 year old chubby, pale white girl thats cute, seems ' unachievable' and far out of sight. i may never get this..and no. i wont lower my standards, to anyone who tells me to. like one answer said in my last question. i wont quit, i keep fighting. to get these needs. ambitions. my hopes. but feel im fightin a losin battle. what concerns me most though, is the girl. how to get her? the type

of girl im looking for...you already no about my other circumstances through my other questions

Answer 1

you sound like onslow. hell, you must be daisy's onslow, much hated by mrs. bucket. are you the real onslow. bpd is bad. i have it. sent me an email at simmons.2007 on hotmail or gmail. i can tell you about bpd. but maybe you can tell me a thing or two. gts really mixed up with bipolar diagnosis here and you get wrong meds.

Answer 2

I know this will sound ridiculous to you, but stay positive.

The fact that you have hope for the future is good. Things will get better.

As for the girl, it may be best to wait a while until you feel a bit better in yourself? Having a girlfriend will not solve any of your problems, and you will be a better partner yourself if you feel more stable.

It's good that you have the internet at least. You can find many online forums dealing with mental health and social issues. It can be comforting to know that you're not the only one who feels like this sometimes...

Answer 3

What have you actually done to get out of this vicious cycle? You need some stability, to take control of your own life. A job, would really help you, I promise. Or just a general social group, which'll help you meet people.
You shouldn't have to rely on the love of a girl for your happiness.
However, if you want a girl like that so badly - then it is entirely up to you, to get out there and meet someone!
You need to take control.
Plus, there are people out there that are in far far worse situations - watch BBC1 at 19.00 on Friday, and you'll see for yourself.
Now, that isn't supposed to be an insult - it's supposed to empower you!
If I'm ever upset, like, an argument with a family member or break-up with a boyfriend, I'll say to myself "I could be far worse" and I puts everything into perspective. I become far more greatful for my own situation and therefore more positive.
I agree with the other dude: remain positive!
xxxxxx

Answer 4

what do you mean she is out of your range the thing is to be friends with people and see how it goes, none of us own anyone. No one is out of your range you need to boost your self esteem, read your bilbe daily renew your thinking see yourself as God sees you.
I have sufferred sever depression in the past i was an unwanted child and beaten and i now know that i am wanted and loved by God and so are you and you are special, mediate on what God thinks of you and you will change and have a brighter future, join a good church and things will change you will see.

Answer 5

I'm not being rude, but tell the world to f**k off and do your own thing, hopefully you will feel better. The more you try the harder it becomes. Let nature take it's course. If that doesn't work find a better psychiatrist.

Answer 6

Keep fighting if she feels the same way!