I have been married going on 4 years, and i can't take it anymore? I am soooo fed up with his crap and i just want out. And i don't want to be one of those people that "just stay for the kids" cause that's just crap. I just need to know, how do you go about getiing a divorce. What's the first step? Serious answers only please!!
2007-03-14 01:57:18 · 16 answers · asked by star-e 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Once you truly know there is no salvaging the relationship. Once you know that either you, him or both of you no longer want to continue the marriage. You must both lawyer up and work out the details of the split. Both parties decide how the debts, assets, child support, alimony, child custody and visitation will work. Everybody signs what they have agreed to and a judge orders it done. It can be quite a daunting process but it doesnt need to be. I would suggest keeping it as amicable as possible for the kids sake.
2007-03-14 02:03:26 · answer #1 · answered by Devdude 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow ... bummer. I guess my first question would be, what has he done to make you this angry? Then we'd have a place from which to work. Does he know you feel this way? How does he feel about knowing how you feel? I think your first step is therapy. And I'll tell you most states require some sort of program when there are children involved, so that's pretty much mandated. If you can't make it work, then check with the office that handles divorce in your county. With children involved your going to need a lawyer, because you are most likely going to want/need alimony and child support. And you want to receive as much as you can to take care of you and your kids. The lawyer will take care of the paperwork and court dates (I wouldn't proceed in your situation without an attorney).
Good luck and God bless you!
2007-03-14 02:06:21 · answer #2 · answered by Dino 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thing to do is get a lawyer and then file for divorce... I have to ask you though what is the reason you are wanting out of the marriage? Is there something you cannot work on and try to make better in the marriage? Have you both tried marriage counseling yet before giving up on this marriage?
2007-03-14 02:40:47 · answer #3 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask around, or look in the phone book for a good divorce attorney. Then, you may want to consider seeing a counselor just so they can advice you on how to tell the kids, and what you should and shouldn't do or say with the kids while you are going through what will be HELL for the next few months.
Good luck.
2007-03-14 02:05:23 · answer #4 · answered by bina64davis 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can either retain an attorney, who will help with the proper distribution of assets, child support and custody etc., or you can file on your own. Most superior courts have the divorce decree forms that can be downloaded. You can file them with the clerk of supeior court, and even have the fees waived. The process takes about the same amount of time, however if he is disputing anything you could be in for a tough time. If you think you can do it yourself, then go for. I filed and obtained my divorce without an attorney, however there were no children involved.
2007-03-14 02:03:45 · answer #5 · answered by Austins Mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey hey hey - tke the chill pill- i ve seen couples saying they cant live with each other saying that alomost for a decade.
well there are several factors. one needs to cool down and talk abt it with the spouse in a sensible manner. it may be that there is a fault in u which triggers his irritation like u get irritated by some of his actions, talk abt it and try to solve the problem. u can never clap with one hands.
u may consult a doctor - maybe that can help.
i know saying is easy but u need to make things happen - only alone no 2 cant make a four - u need another two to add up to four. so relax think abt it and then take some action.
dinesh
2007-03-14 03:26:03 · answer #6 · answered by dkb_dk2000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Step 1. Think first. Get a marriage counselor. Before.....
Step 2. Find a lawyer
Step 3. Pay lawyer lot's of money.
2007-03-14 02:29:34 · answer #7 · answered by bigdaddy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Step 1. Hire a lawyer.
Step 2. Move out on your own.
Step 3. Serve papers.
Step 4. Be happy.
2007-03-14 02:05:02 · answer #8 · answered by GirlinNB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hire a lawyer and know what your rights are and take everything you are entitled to.
Don't agree to anything that isn't put into writing and made part of the divorce papers. All those promises will be worth nothing after the papers are signed.
2007-03-14 02:27:44 · answer #9 · answered by gaiasue 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can afford it call a lawyer. If not go to the court house and file the paperwork, in some states if you dont make enough the papers are free.
2007-03-14 02:02:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋