When did you leave baby for the first time?

Question

I am a first time motherof a 3 month old little girl. My husband wants to take me for a very much needed overnight getaway. I feel that I am not ready to leave her overnight, even though I desperately need the break. What do you think? When did you leave your baby for the first time overnight? Did everything go ok? And who did you leave the baby with? Thanks in advance

Answer 1

Bless your heart! Being a first time mother is such a wonderful blessing and also a lot of hard work!

If you and your husband have the grandma and grandpa nearby so that your darling little bundle could go and be spoiled by them, I highly recommend an overnighter. Our son was about the same age (4 mos) when my husband was invited to a very nice convention that also included the wives.

Sure, it WILL be difficult, but your husband is right to want to give you this very important break. You need to reconnect with your hubby and your baby needs some Grandparent time.

Everything went just fine for us. We arranged a time to call and "talk to the baby on the phone" just before bedtime. Sing a little song and remind them how much you love them and that you will be back soon.

Enjoy the time off with your husband and remember that this part of the parent and baby experience really is a good one. The more you are able to teach your child about how to go away and come back to them, the better off they will be when the transition to kindergarten or preschool will go...

Plus, after some uninterrupted sleep, YOU will be so much more refreshed and ready to be a better Mommy!

Good luck!

Answer 2

Overnight? Not for a LONG time.

First was 25 mos - the night his sister was born.

Second was about 3 years old.

Third - just turned 4 and we've never been apart overnight. Twice someone else has put her to bed, but I was home before she woke.

Are you breastfeeding? I would personally not take an overnight trip away from a 3 mos old nursling.

LOTS of ways to get a break without being apart overnight at such a very young age!

Have someone watch the baby while you and hubby get a break by going to dinner and/or a movie or something that won't take more than a few hours.

Or have hubby send you for a haircut or massage and he can watch the baby while you pamper yourself for a few hours.

Have him be in charge of baby for an hour each night while you read a book or soak in a bubble bath.

Drop baby off at Grandma's for a couple of hours while you and hubby have "private grown up time" at home and then go back to Grandma's to pick up the baby and have dinner as a family.

Answer 3

My daughter is 2 now - I left her when she was 6 weeks old for a long weekend. I made sure I had enough milk expressed in the freezer because she was breast feeding then. But then, I left her with my mother in law and I was confident that she'd be okay with her. I'd probably be a bit nervous if I were leaving her with a stranger or someone I could not trust. Go on, take the break - your daughter needs a refreshed mum not a stressed out mummy!!

Answer 4

I have a five month old little girland i left with over night for the first time when she was 2 months old. She did wonderful. I would leave her there for 2 or 3 hours at a time so she would get use to me not always being there. Now her grandparents can take her for 2 or 3 days before she starts to fuss. You need your time away from the baby for your own stress relief. Also, when she gets older it wont be so hard to leave her for several days at a time becuase she and you will be use to having time apart. Good luck and Congrats!

Answer 5

haha, well I left my oldest when she was 2 but only because I was giving birth to her little sister. My girls recently(two weeks ago) spent their first night away from home. They are 2.5 and 4.5. Many people tell me I am crazy, but I couldn't help it I was terrified! Anyways they stayed with my mom and of course they were fine(but i had my cell on all the time just in case, lol) I know many people that left their little ones when they were just a few weeks and they were fine, often its the parents that are more bothered than the baby. If you trust the person who are going to leave her with all will be fine.

Answer 6

I left my son overnight for 3 nights when he was 3 and 1/2 months old.

Answer 7

My baby ws like yours 3 months old (I have 4 now and I left the others much sooneer but this about my first time with first baby) and he took me away for the weekend to a romantic getaway. I packaed a picture of her and one of her baby outfits and it was difficult I am not going to lie. I called probably 10 times to check on her (My Mom watched her) but after that first time it gets easier. Good luck enjoy your time away from baby and feel like a wife and woman again. We all need that sometimes.

Answer 8

I placed my toddler on a water-proof substitute mat and then a fabric nappy on proper of that. they're rather absorbent so the pee does not unfold too plenty. I frequently placed him on his tummy in the time of nappy-loose time then the pee only is going straight away onto the fabric nappy. If he's on his lower back I placed a million/2 the fabric nappy under him folded and then tuck something between his legs. it rather is loose so he nonetheless gets some air circulating around his backside yet stops the pee from getting everywhere. somewhat nappy loose time is stable for curing and combating nappy rash - yet in addition for freedom of circulate for somewhat daily. i do no longer understand why all of us might think of you will possibly be able to desire to attend until a year previous??

Answer 9

i left mine when he was 6 weeks old with the inlaws and it workes out just fine. You can leave the baby with the person you trust and averything will be ok . I know this is your first hard step to take ,but it will do you good the getaway!

Answer 10

when i went back to work at 3 months..it was horrible, hated leaving her..even tho it was with my husband ... i still had bonded so much..i cried