Aborition...?

Question

I have always disagreed with abortion, but latley I have had to think twice about it just in case. All of my friends said they would hate me if I had gotten pregnant and had an abortion. I used to think this two, untill I thought I was pregnant. Then I decided it was something I might decide to do. My stepmom says it is my decision.... however my dad says that I should take care of my mistakes.. I love babies... I do...And if I had a kid, I would want to give them the best they could EVER have, but I know that i could not do that at this age. Am I wrong in my thinking or does it sound reasonable?

Answer 1

your beliefs will not change because of an opinion someone write on yahoo. Thinking you are pregnant and having to make a choice are very different. There is no "kindof" pregnant or "almost" pregnant. Do you have a good paying job? did you love the father of the "almost" baby? Your decision has never been a choice if you have never been pregnant.

Answer 2

That is such a personal question, and your stepmother is right. Only you can decide if it's right for you. I had an abortion when I was 16. My boyfriend at the time was completely freaked out by the whole thing and we never even told his mother. My mother and I made the decision as we knew I couldn't take care of the baby and it would never know it's father so being that I didn't have the resources, competance or support I needed to have the baby, I chose to abort. That was 9 years ago and with no exaggeration I can say that I thought about what might have been, almost every day for the first couple of years. Adoption is another option, but I think that would be harder to cope with, after the maternal bonding and instinct kicks in when your baby is born. And I know that now with a 4 and 1 year old. I'm satisfied with my choice, but it still hurts and I have to live with that. You are NOT evil or a horrible person to consider abortion. I wish you the best of luck and hope this helped.

Answer 3

Your thinking does sound reasonable. Everyone would love to wait until they can give their child everything they ever wanted. But sometimes it doesn't work out that way, people survive. I do not agree with abortions. You would need to think more about the future as well as the present. Could you live the rest of your life thinking about that baby. Would it have been a boy or a girl, what would it have looked like, what would it have been like? I know I couldn't. On the other hand, if I was your friend, I would respect your decision and the fact that you believe you are doing what is best for you and the child. I wouldn't hate you for doing it. That is rediculous. I hope if this situation does arise, that your friends will be more supportive than they sound!

Answer 4

I can really understand when you might be pregnant you may think that abortion is the only way out- even if you are against it- I counsel girls/women in pregnancy- who feel the same way. One thing you say in your comments jumps off the page at me- "you want to give them the best that they could ever have." Even though you at this moment feels that you could not do this- the best would be to place for adoption- you would remember giving life to the child. The best would not be taking his/her life now would it- plus there are risks to you that can be lifelong- When your dad said- "you should take care of your mistakes"- a baby is not a mistake- having sex outside of marriage was- I am assuming you are not pregnant so I would consider the best for you at this moment- abstain from sex- is the only sure way not to be pregnant before you are ready.

Answer 5

Your thinking sounds reasonable, but here's even MORE reasonable thinking for you--If you can not care for a child right now, then stop having sex. I'm not saying that sex should only be for procreation, but the fact of the matter is you should not be having sex if you are unable or unwilling to deal with the possible consequences--STD's, unplanned pregnancies, emotional turmoil, etc. If you are self aware enough to know that you are not ready to care for a child, then you should be mature enough to stop having sex until you are.

Abortion is legal in the US (and most other countries), and I personally think it SHOULD be legal, and there are situations where it is a viable option. However, it was never intended to be used a form of birth control, and that's kind of how you are looking at it. Having an abortion or not having one is a decision you would have to live with for the rest of your life. Wouldn't it just be easier to stop having sex until you are ready to accept all possible consequences?

Good luck!

Answer 6

I had my first baby at 15 years old.. and back than ... wow i am old.. ha ha.. anyhow, We never thought about abortion, that wasn't a option like it is now... I mean If I could do it all over again.. with being 15 , I think I would of probly looked in to the option if Need be,, But i love my daughter and am happy she is here, she has gaven me tons of smiles... just think about hunny, I mean ... think what is best for you and your baby... oh by the way, I gave my daughter up for adpotion to a family member.. so I see her all the time. Good luck

Answer 7

Each person makes their own decision. In my mind, abortion is not birth control, except in very specific circumstances (incest or rape). There are too many ways to prevent pregnancy before it occurs. Once the egg is fertilized and implanted, if left to its own devices, it will either miscarry if there is something wrong with its development, or grow and develop into a human being just like you and me. The decision as to which will happen is up to God, not me. I could not live with myself if I interfered with His decision and stole that life from one of His children. No thank you.

Here's a thought...do everything in your power to keep from getting pregnant in the first place, and you will never have to make a decision you may regret for the rest of your life. Although abstinance is the only 100% birth control, these tips will prevent pregnancy, at least 99%...

1. Oral contraceptives...take every day...I kept mine by the alarm clock and took it first thing in the morning. If I forgot it then, I would take it that night when I reset the clock for the next day.

2. Condoms...use every time to double up protection from pregnancy and STDs...but absolutely every time for a full cycle if antibiotics are prescribed. They counteract oral contraceptives (the most common reason for pill babies).

3. The morning after pill if the condom breaks, etc. (This option wasn't available during my contraceptive years, but it is now. Use it.)

I used this system and kept from getting pregnant for 10 plus years. I never worried about pregnancy and it greatly reduced the stress between my husband and I. We had control over our bodies and had children when we were ready for them.

Blessings

PS Whatever happened to the ADOPTION option???

It's sad when adoption is associated more with unwanted dogs and cats than unwanted human lives, for crying out loud!!

Answer 8

I believe that each person is responsible for their own mistakes. You should not be punished for your parent's mistakes and your unborn baby should not be punished for yours. Each person deserves a chance to live. You never know what someone will accomplish with their life but they deserve the chance to try. A baby is the most helpless thing there is and there is no way for it to defend itself. It should not have to defend itself against it's own mother. A mother should be the one defending it the most. If you should become pregnant, give the child a chance to have a life and a family by giving it up for adoption. If you are not old enough to take care of a baby then perhaps you should reconsider if you should be having sex. Please use protection for your sake and your partner's sake. When you have a child with someone, you are tied to that person the rest of your life unless he is a bum who doesn't want any contact with his own child and then you should wonder why you'd want to be involved with someone like that in the first place. I don't mean to sound judgemental, but I'm always on the side of the innocent who can't speak for themselves.

Answer 9

I know that you are scared right now.. but its not the babys fault that your a certain age or that you feel your not ready. Trust me, the first time you get an ultrasound and you see your little baby waving its arms and moving around, all those bad feeling will subside. And after that, if you still feel you arent ready, maybe consider adoption, so you will be helping a couple that really wants a baby as well as giving yours a chance at life. I cant tell you what to do but i believe if you choose abortion, then later on u may never forgive yourself.

Answer 10

You did not tell your age nor did you give your marital status. Presuming that you are married in a family approved relationship, I would advise you to have your first child carried to full term and delivery,Nobody should wait for the first child to be born after the parents are in a position to provide the best that the child can have. This is a hypothetical situation which can never be really reached, because the horizon of what is best keeps shifting and, by the time you decide to give up chasing the mirage, it old be too late to conceive. The experience of affluent and Executive position Women in the wealthy European Countries is there as an eye opener. Hordes of them are now traveling to poor Asian Countries to adopt children. I wish better luck to you.