if your searching for a particular type of girl in life, how can you find her?

Question

now i dont want a bronzed, tanned slim girl. no, iam very fussy about how i would like the girl id like to meet, to look like. im looking for a young 20/27 year old, pale, white, plump girl who is cute. i no that sounds ridiculous to say, but this is want im after and i seek. and is also the reason why i want to get well, so much, so i can find this particular girl. but im 29, aging prematurley, suffer with mental health probs. bpd. waiting for therapy, and im wondering how i will find this type of girl? on the rare time i force myself to leave my flat and go out, i never see, 20/27 year old, pale, milk bottle white, plump, chubby, cute white girls. its like theyve migrated to another part of the planet, or there hiding from me, when they learn, ' im out'. or something, somebodies not allowing me to meet them type of girls..telling them to stay away from me. i live in a small council flat. cant work right now. and feel i have nothing going for me. so i feel 'unable' to find this

particular type of girl. makes me despair so.
plus im afraid to approach girls like this
i like on line, like myspace, or plentyoffish.com
or any other site, incase they reject me. they have done
so far, and ive left decent, friendly, respectfull
messages to quite alot of girls. lots. like the ones i describe
but they never get back to me.plus on the rare occasion a girl
has got back to me, and added me to msn. ive not known how to
talk to them, i havent the confidence, and tend to feel the
urge for intamacy early and love, then they end up leaving me.
i have two missing teeth im saving up for implant for, im aging
prematurly, have a receding hairline, i feel i have no chance
at finding, ' this particular type of girl'.
by any chance if anyone watched 'deal or no deal'
yesterday with noel edmonds, the girl that was the
contestant? thats the perfect example of the girl i seek.

Answer 1

See, the problem is, once you've narrowed down what your looking for so drastically you never find it. Keep you eyes open as well as your mind and it won't be so difficult.

Answer 2

First of all - try to calm yourself. You ARE making progress in life, you have posted this question, you are waiting for therapy. That's a good start.

You are young, even though you feel you are prematurely aging. Try to help yourself to have a more positive attitude. What people are looking for is someone who is doing the best that they can in life. Someone who has time to care and listen to others as well as learning more about how to get the most out of life.

Are you in the UK? If so, look for an NHS dentist - this is not easy, but it is possible, and have the dental work done, then you will feel better about yourself. Then you can smile with confidence and you will attract people to you.

About the particular look of girl - well, most of us have a "type" that we like and that's OK. But what is more important is the person inside. You might find your perfect pale, plump, cute girl but find that te two of you are not compatible. Be open and help yourslef to trust that you WILL find the right girl for you, when it is the right time.

Help yourself to relax, breathe deeply, read self help books (join a library, join any free clubs and classes to meet new people)

Wishing you good luck.

Answer 3

No offense but it doesn't sound like you have a lot going for you so maybe you need to be a bit less fussy? Also - if I were you I would focus on sorting your own life out before I started looking for someone to share it. Also - why do you want someone up to 9 years younger than you?

Answer 4

Dude this is like the 5th time ive seen this question from you. YOU NEED HELP seriously!! Join a class at your local community centre or something, get tout of the house, go for a walk, jog anything!!